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Is this Menopause?

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Jdatbs69
Jdatbs69

My wife had a total hysterectomy over 2 yrs ago. It hadnt been pretty.

Today is our third anniverssry. I planned a nice drive, a gift of her choosing, and a nice dinner.

At noon time she was in the bathroom getting ready. I stuck my head in and said let me know when youre done so I can shower. That fid it. The day is ruined. Ive heatd about every bad thing ive ever done. She wont talk to me normally. Is this menopause or is it just a really bad thing I did? I dont understand.

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  • manda16171
    manda16171 Jdatbs69

    Posted

    Well Im only asssuming your a male writing, just the act of researching or seeking information I whole heartedly comend you. Im no expert on post hysterectomys but have heard hormones can still play havoc hopefully someone has been there may offer more info. 
  • sheryl37154
    sheryl37154 Jdatbs69

    Posted

    I had total hysterectomy and was immediately put on oestrogen.  Happily been on it for nearly 26 years now.  I don't understand those women who don't.  They are only stressing their bodies severely, as well as their family and their health.  Oestrogen is natural to our bodies, as long as you get the right type (oestradiol).

     

  • sabrina1971
    sabrina1971 Jdatbs69

    Posted

    I know I have had the crazy mood swings where one tiny thing will ruin my whole day. I admire you looking for help! If your wife is refusing to talk to you normally, maybe write her a letter? Tell her all the things that concern you, and that you clearly want to help and support her etc. The letter itself may make her go crazy on you, but in her own time she may really appreciate it. I know I would.
  • susan21149
    susan21149 Jdatbs69

    Posted

    Hi Jdatbs69

    Yes it probably is menopause. At times when i am not feeling good because of my menopause i take it out on my boyfriend because I feel tired, cranky, sore and just not myself. 

    Give your wife some time she will come around but just be prepaired that there are going to be days that she will snap at you like i do with my boyfriend at times. 

    All you have to do is give her her space when she is snaping at you 

    Let her come to you and just love her as you always have 

    • Jdatbs69
      Jdatbs69 susan21149

      Posted

      Thank you and everyone else who responded. I feel so helpless. No matter what I say, it is either turned around and made to sound bad, or stupid, or its just ignored. I could go on and on but I think I have my answer. Thanks again.
    • sabrina1971
      sabrina1971 Jdatbs69

      Posted

      My husband hinestly didn't believe me when I explained that when I am in full on mood swing there is no way I can think rationally about things. And then when I get out of the mood swing he can see the major difference. Yes, he will say things with no ill intent and I find a way to twist it and make it sound bad. And yes, he will say stuff to me and I ignore him as I hardly realise someone is speaking to me. You know the picture. Your wife is probably feeling like she is going crazy. Maybe ask her if she'd like to try the day again when she feels like it. Keep reaching out if you can. My husband has been persistent. Not always patient with me, but persistent! Hang in there!
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