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So I'm 4 week post opp today from rectocele, iv been feeling OK up until now. The pain has subsided now except for the odd shooting pains now and then and the feeling like there's something stuck up my vagina (sorry for the bluntness ) and when I sit on the toilet to wee it's uncomfortable and I feel pressure like it's going to fall out. Last night I managed to have a feel and it felt quite bulgy and still very swollen and very low I only manage to feel up to around 3cm. I could feel the stitches to. But now iv got my self into a stuper because I haven't slept alright worrying that it's failed and have it done to much. I'v started to walk round more now and stand for longer periods of time and started cooking light dinners for me, the hubby and the kids nothing heavy though and helping my kids get ready for school. my husband has took me out in the car a few times to the pub or cafe as iv felt like I'd got a bit of cabin fever and was sick of the 4 walls in my house. But as I said iv tossed and turned all night couldn't get comfortable and couldn't stopped worrying that it hasn't worked. I still haven't managed to cry yet even though I keep welling up. I just feel so low and frustrated and feel like I'm going backwards not forwards now.

I'm soooooo sorry to vent.

Big hugs to you all cause I know I'm not the only one who feels like

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    Oh and the itching down there is driven me
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    You just took the wordsame right out of my mouth! I am at week 4 and feel the exact same! I've been itchy due to stiches as well, same feeling when sitting on the toilet too. I made my husband take me out today because I too have some cabin fever going on. I feel very frustrated and defeated because my perineum is SO sore as well as the other area. I had my first very difficult BM tonight which left me in quite a bit of pain. My doc told me I'd be good at 1 1/2 weeks to drive and I just drove for the first time today. Don't worry yourself too much I am sure everything is perfectly fine! I have broken down crying a few times and sleeping at night isn't happening (it's 3:30 AM as I am typing But just try to look at the bigger picture soon we will be all healed up and as good as new! Big hugs and we'll wishes!
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      Thank you and I know I said before I know I'm not the only one. We're all going through similar things but just feels so low and tired. I hope there is light at the end of the tunnel.

      Big hugs to you to pls1020 and I hope you can sleep

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    Hi Topsi,

    In only natural to worry, there is so little info because we all heal at different times, so only general guidelines.

    Being itchy must really be a good idication all is going well, and you say pain has subsided again indicating everything healing nicely, odd shooting pain may just be wound pulling tight doing the healing it's meant to.

    You really sound like your right on schedule.

    Everything will be fine as long as you don't overdo things and the best way to know that is listening to your own body.

    If you overdo it your body will tell you it's time to chill out and feet up for a rest, if I remember right I was still on the whole horizontal at 4 weeks, only really doing some pottering about now and again, nothing heavy.

    I think that as we feel so much better we want to do more and being bored we think too much about it all, can't be helped we are all impatient to recover as quickly as we can .

    I started to watch 'Game of thrones' , quite a few series to get through; watched the first one long time ago, reckoned it was too raunchy and refused to watch any more, however hubby was watching 1or 2 everynight and I got caught up in the characters, so ended up a regular. Have caught up now and waiting for another series to start. Kept my mind occupied and kept me going.

    Try not to worry too much and rest plenty, just do little bits and pieces when you feel up to it and when getting tired, feeling heavy below or sore take some time out, feet up and head back.

    Take care

    Phyl x💖

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      Thank you phyllis it all makes sense when you say it. I just feel so miserable and I feel like I'm going backwards.

      I will rest and try to keep my chin

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      I know there is a point around the 4/5 weeks where we all feel really down , weepy too, and often just like you feel that it's not progressing and may have failed.

      I think because the wounds are drawing together and eventually stitches start to loosen it can get a but nippy, I also had fresh blood after straining on the toilet.

      I think too cause we are starting to potter about we become more aware of lumpy dryness where swelling is and it's that uncomfortable feeling that makes us think it's failed.

      You will be fine, just rest plenty and small doses of pottering about.

      Phyl x☺


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