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Just diagnosed, feeling alone and scared

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Athenadarling
Athenadarling

I’m 22 years old and just got diagnosed with herpes 2, 3 days ago. About six months ago I moved to New Orleans and fell in love and moved back home with my lover. I didn’t know he was hiding a huge secret from me and purposely gave me herpes because “no one will stay with him” I tested negative 4 times before I tested positive and I’m having my first outbreak ALONG with my period and I feel so miserable. I don’t know who to talk to. And my anus probably hurts the worst out of everything and I don’t know why. I feel like I have the flu and I just don’t know what to do. I need support.. 

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  • Guest
    Guest Athenadarling

    Posted

    Has your dr. Prescribed any antiviral medication such as valtex? 
    • Athenadarling
      Athenadarling Guest

      Posted

      Right now I’m on the 5 pills a day thing that makes me feel super sick, tomorrow I have my first apt to actually talk about it and talk about those meds 
  • ann62126
    ann62126 Athenadarling

    Posted

    I wouldn't stay with him, because for someone to know that they have a virush and willfully gave it to another person that's cruel. It could have been Hiv and he gave it to you knowing he have it.. plus it could have being both. Hope you find peace.

    • ann62126
      ann62126 Athenadarling

      Posted

      Samething happens to me in 2015. But it gives me strength and letting me not to trust anyone so easily.
  • Trigaa80134
    Trigaa80134 Athenadarling

    Posted

    Im having my first breakout and its so painful and when i noticed the symptoms i was so upset and thought that things would never be the same but i have been trying to accept it and have realized that all it is is a cold sore but people freak out cuz its on the genital area, think to yourself that its not always going to be there and further outbreaks will not feel as bad as the first one. Stay positive x
  • Wagwan1993
    Wagwan1993 Athenadarling

    Posted

    I'm really sorry you're going through this, it's absolutely awful. Completely disgusting thing for someone to do, and he has really left you in a life-changing position.

    Take a deep breath, and just take a step back from the whole thing. It's -only- herpes. The reason I say 'only', is because it's really just an aesthetic issue more than anything. Whilst it can cause immense discomfort during outbreaks, Herpes doesn't have any huge health impact. It's important to remember that there are people living with things like HIV, which very often ends up with death. The entire situation sucks, but sometimes it does help to remember it could be worse - and you can still continue to live your life without much hindrance.

    The hardest thing, or where you'll notice the biggest changes, is in your sex/dating life. Many people will be turned off by the idea of having sex with someone that has herpes, but by no means are you destined to a life on your own or anything. Life often takes a weird path, and it really is all about how you deal with adversity. This is a huge upset, but it isn't a death sentence or anything too bad. Chin up, count your blessings, get through this outbreak and just soldier on. 

    Always here to talk if you need someone!

    • Wagwan1993
      Wagwan1993

      Posted

      Also with the way science is going, we'll probably have a cure in a few years!

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