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Just diagnosed with HSV virus (herpes).. need advice and help!

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readingart23
readingart23

I dont know where to begin, it started off as a stupid one night stand.. I was very drunk and ended up having bumps a few days later. I was diagnosed 2 days ago and i feel like my emotions are everwhere and would really just like someone to talk to other than reading forum after forum. Part of me feels upset, angry, embarrassed, unwanted, hurt.. the list goes on and on. And the other part feels as if maybe this could be a good thing (Ill get to know others better before sleeping with them, changing my diet, taking care of myself more) I dont know what to do!

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  • Koolredd
    Koolredd readingart23

    Posted

    Everything will be okay , life goes on !

    I was feeling the same way .. Tainted and unwanted. Like how do I deal with this type of thing ??

    And the outbreaks are what's so scary . You don't know when or how bad they are gonna be.

    I'm accepting It because I have no other choice but too ...

    How are you holding up ?

    • readingart23
      readingart23 Koolredd

      Posted

      The past week has been good, last was a little overwhelming. My doctor put me on medicine and everything has cleared up! I think ive been a little better this week since i dont have to look at anything anymore or be in pain!
  • alejandra53512
    alejandra53512 readingart23

    Posted

    Hi i just found out yesterday at the clinic,i more than likley have herpes. And i do have all the symptoms. I feel your pain. I had unprotected sex though...it was my choice to do so becuase the guy seemed "clean". Now here i am also i feel so mad at myself i feel so much regret and guilt. But as ive been reading some of these forums. The fact is we have it...and yeah it sucks. But the only thing left is to cope and move on. But i hadnt thought about it that way at least now as you said we now have a reason to eat right and really get to know someone before sleeping with them. Best of luck as someone who also just got the news and is also in pain.
    • readingart23
      readingart23 alejandra53512

      Posted

      Its been a week without any symptoms or bumps and I feel great! Hopefully they put you on valacyclovir because thats what cleared me all up!

      Im on the same boat as you! and this week ive been more than "normal" and happy, hope you are doing well!

  • tara69187
    tara69187 readingart23

    Posted

    Hi Hun, I can totally relate. I had a silly one night stand about a month ago and noticed a tiny sore down below. I got told I have hsv type one week before Xmas (merry Christmas to me) and literally spent Christmas crying and feeling low. I had the exact same thought of feeling no one will ever want me either!

    I'm slowly coming to terms with it, I've done my research spoke to others in the same situation, and told my close friends which has helped!

    I'm 25 single, not ideal right! But I've found people are more understanding than what I thought they would be, I have had to tell one guy I was dating and he was totally understanding and did not judge me at all! This is something that is so common now, I even found out that one friend has had this for two years, and she is now married and very happy!

    I have changed my diet, I am regularly taking vitamin and herbal tablets every day now which I think helped clear my sore quicker. Mine luckily only lasted week and a half and touch wood hasn't returned!

    Your allowed to be upset, it's normal but remember it's not life threatening and you will come to find either most people have it or they will be mature and understanding. Your not alone either smile

    Keep smiling stay positive healthy! Remember you will always still be a beautiful person!!

    • readingart23
      readingart23 tara69187

      Posted

      Ive talked to a few close friends, and finally told my parents and theyre so understanding (which makes this so much easier) thanks for the response smile
  • s14431
    s14431 readingart23

    Posted

    Hi there, I was recently diagnosed also. I was so upset and I didn't know what to do. I had the worst 10 days with excruciating pain and discharge. I am even having my second outbreak now. I think I was so depressed, I didn't let my body work on the virus. However, it's ok all now. I'll be over it and so will you. I used to love alcohol, caffeine and sugar. Now I need to decrease them and it might be a better thing for me in the long term. So, reduce your stress level, eat more healtyly and you will be ok soon. 
    • readingart23
      readingart23 s14431

      Posted

      Cut fast food, sugar, soda, you name it and have been feeling wonderful!! Lots of fruits and veggies are defiantly helping!!
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