Just feeling blaaah !

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Hello everyone . I'm on here again needing advice and reassurance . I will be 50 next month and still have regular , heavy periods now only 3 weeks apart . My migraines are getting worse and sometimes I just feel so under the weather and anxious . Yesterday I came home from work and had an uncomfortable feeling in my stomach and had a lot of wind ( sorry for tmi ) . I still have a low ache and discharge , but I only finished my period last week . I feel like I still have an unsettled feeling in my stomach and a bit nauseous , but I do get so anxious by all these symptoms and my stomach seems to react then . I just feel run down and fed up of all this . It's a shame that everyone on this site is a member of this club that we would rather not be part ofIs this all normal ? I haven't been to the doctors so much this year , as for the last year and a half prior to that I seemed to almost live down there . I had just lost my mum also which really didn't help matters . It's just been the 2 year anniversary of her passing .

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    Jane, there is little doubt that the emotional stress of losing your mom has played a part.  I was the primary caregiver for my father with Alzheimer's Disease, and I know that it really hit my body hard.  It's unfortunate that just when our bodies are starting "to change" we often also have the emotional stress of parents.  

    More frequent, heavy, periods are often a sign that things are starting to wind down.  So yes, this is normal.  

    Try to eat really well, get good sleep, take a multivitamin, drink plenty of water, exercise a little, and do some things for yourself to destress. 

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      You are so right gailannie. My parents passed away when I was young. But most women going through peri and menopause are often the primary cargivers for elderly parents, which is an added stressor during this phase of our lives. There always seem to be some added stressor, health anxiety, divorce, work, etc.and it seems harder to handle during menopause. You gave jane63977 some sound advice, about being kind to herself. Right now my stressor is finances which I can do nothing but pray about.  smile
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      Juanita, we all have many things that can emotionally get us down.  But when it comes to finances, I'm kind of the queen of solutions.  I encourage your prayers, but also challenge you to take action.  

      I was married 25 years, stay at home mom of three, newly divorced, new mortage, three kids to raise,  with ZERO money in the bank.  Then my X called and left a message, "I won't be sending child support, it's just too much for me."   I layed down and cried, giving myself a 15 minute pitty party.  And when I got up, I said, "That SOB is not going to take away the life I want and my kids deserve."  I started my own business, worked hard, and made myself completely self sufficient.  

      I am hoping that my encouraging words will allow you to see, there is a way out of financial problems. Sit with a pad and pen in hand, look for solutions, recreate your relationship with money, and pay attention to every dollar.   Say your prayers, but ask for the strength to follow through as the strong, intelligent and independant women I sure you can be.    

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      Thank you gailannie! Such encouraging words! I used to be the queen of finanical solutions too. I was fearless! I've just got to get that back! I feel like I lost my way somehow.  Funny you should talk about watching every dollar. I recently started doing everything I can to watch every dollar. Some ladies wanted to go to a concert and the nosebleed tickets were 100.00.  I said I'm not dipping into savings for concert tickets. They were like "I can't think of a better reason". Really? Now mind you the one that said this is working two jobs. You can have fun and not dip into savings for something that's not an emergency.

      I think you are a hell of a woman for pulling yourself together like you did! Yay you!

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      You're on your way girl! Good for you for the good call on concert tickets 👏🏼👏🏼 I paid off the last $5.00 of my mortgage IN PENNIES!! For me it was symbolic (every penny counts).

      You'll get there.

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    Hi Jane

    I had similar to you towards the end of my periods. They became so heavy that I couldn't go out unless I knew they was a toilet close at hand. I declined many invites. I remember them lasting longer than a week and only 2/3 weeks in between. I didn't go to the Dr and just tried to put up with them. I was told by the nurse that your periods get less towards the end. WRONG. I had my period. Very heavy, middle of December 2014 which lasted all through Xmas and new year. I remember feeling really fed up with it. That was then the last period I had to date. I was shocked how from being soooo heavy to stopping completely. Stick in there, there will be light at the end of the tunnel. I do get all the aches and pains hot sweats etc still

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