Kate Spade, 55, Depression
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Are we having a harder time with menopause than previous generations? 55 seems to be a very hard time for most women. Is there a better way to aging gracefully ? Life is busy, responsible and unraveling at 55 for so many. It is obviously not our set of circumstances as we tell ourselves. What is being overlooked?
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2chr2015 sideways67
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sideways67 2chr2015
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jacqueline59683 sideways67
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I think so, I'm 55 and I'm having a real hard time. I think I'm in better physical health than my parents were at my age, thank God, but emotionally maybe not.
Aging was natural now not so much. There's an unspoken rejection of aging with botox, fillers, surgeries (I'm in Miami) and photo filters. It's hard to accept the normal aging signs.
The false sense of friendship/connection through social media, when the person on the computer is the loneliest they ever been, yet have thousands of friends online???
It's a cold, fake world. Thank God for faith it gives me the strength I need.
Blessings
sideways67 jacqueline59683
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mauiblue sideways67
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I hear you ladies loud and clear.
CarolKelso jacqueline59683
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Hi jacky... I agree... Without my faith I'd be lost... The change has affected me in ways I'd never imagined but it has forced me to evaluate.. Facebook, friends etc and change life in areas it does not bear fruit...
This is different world now where life is lived via social media and if you are depressed or down it's a lonely place to be...life is lived very much on the surface and does not require adeeper way of living.. This is not the person I am...
God has given me strength to deal with this so I'm blessed with this.. And blessed to share my faith with millions 😁
CK
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sideways67 Guest
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I agree. Thanks for replying. May we all prayer for her family and those close to her. May we also pause for a greater appreciation of our lives and loved ones. I’m so grateful for great days and pray for grace on the challenging ones. 🦋
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Betty97 sideways67
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jacqueline59683 Betty97
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Annette,
Thank you for posting, it's nice to learn there's a light at the end. I'm 55 and raising my kids was what brought me my greatest joy. They have moved out actually my 26 year old got married about 18 months ago and now is when I'm grieving...i guess I have delayed emotional awareness or the hormones just had a major shift.
Just yesterday I had a major meltdown finding some cake recipe I had made for the older one's 15th birthday, 15 years ago??? I'm super melancholic, weepy. It's not something I can control, I miss my old life, them as little kids... prayer is the one thing helping me the most...and these forums.
I'm supposed to get my period today, so that kind of explains.
Wishing all of us quick recovery.
Betty97 jacqueline59683
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jacqueline59683 Betty97
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Annette,
Thank you for your words, for understanding my deep pain. I will definitely look into evening primrose oil. I'm currently taking St. Johns wort and its helping a little bit. I also was happy when they moved out, not in a bad selfish way its just that I come from a dysfunctional family (my 54 yo brother lives in my mom's home) I've seen the alternative and didn't want that for them.
But it seems as if my life had a purpose, when they were home. I guess things will fall into place soon. I love how your family, kids, have gone on to have happy lives.
Again thank you,I think your messages speaks entirely to what I'm feeling. Its funny how two strangers can feel exactly the same.
Blessings,
Jackie
Betty97 jacqueline59683
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Jacqueline the reality is that while we are bringing our children up we don’t think that it will ever come to an end, I had my last child at age 41 my first at age 23 so I had a good few years just bring children up plus a few years working as a registered child minder, so that is all that I’ve known, I envy women who have the balance of going out to work and being at home, at least they have another occupation to help them through the empty nest bit!! I have three grandchildren and one on the way, I’m spending my spare time knitting at the moment in readiness haha my husband helps me through it by working from home twice a week and we go out to the coast every few weeks, I think it’s a case of getting back to ourselves pre children, we were happy with ourselves before we had children so we need to get back to that, trouble is my ambition when little was to marry and have children haha we are normal in that we have encouraged our children to leave home, that is a natural progression, I still have my middle son at home, he is 27, but circumstances keep him here, he works but doesn’t earn enough money to afford to leave home, but he does look after himself and definitely isn’t a mummy’s boy, he has a girlfriend, he is welcome to stay here for as long as he needs to. You will get through this, I thought at one time that I wouldn’t come through it! But life does start to take a different direction and I’m sure your children are there for you, I found talking to them about it a great help. I have just realised you are from America, I’m in Yorkshire, England, lovely to meet you 😊
jacqueline59683 Betty97
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Annette,
Nice to meet you too, yes I'm in Miami, Fl. Originally born in Cuba and came to the USA at the age of 7. Nice to see oceans can separate us, but we all go through the similar struggles.
Blessings,
Jackie