Lack of understanding
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Hi ladies,
Sorry just wanted to sound off as felt really upset today. I'm 5 weeks post op from posterior repair and rectal plication and finding it hard going as usually I'm so active.
I feel like the least thing I try to do and I just feel so tired and I'm left with aching in lower abdomen and feel i have to hold myself, also that stinging feeling. Anyway I'm trying my best to get on with it, but a close family member who hasn't really seen me as they live away decided to say "why am I so miserable". I actually didn't think I was and other family members who live close by are being very supportive. I really wish people could understand just how difficult this recovery time can be. I know I really didn't expect it to be like it was but I just hope I would at least try to understand if it was someone else. Sorry about the moans. I just feel guilty that I may appear from the outside to be ok but it's actually been quite hard going.
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patsybythesea Rhona62
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This stuff affects us in many ways we can't explain. went out briefly today to pick up a mothers day card and came back exhausted and sore; 10 minutes I was...
This stuff can get to you and while we sit still and ponder our bellybutton fluff we have time to also worry about things.
Your kids will understand but don't be afraid to let them know you're struggling, it's not about being brave, but being real, and right now you feel fed up and emotional, perfectly normal. Have a cry, you'll feel better, it's a release, a variety, able one too.
like you I'm feeling frustrated this week after feeling so well and now feeling sore after such little movement.
But it WILL get better, nature makes sure of that, so just moan all you like here and blow you nose and put your feet up.
I have now crocheted so many bloody roses I'm sitting in the middle of a huge bouquet, but it helps me stay sane.
So, onward and upward Darlings all! Xxx
rosieod1 patsybythesea
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Rhona62 patsybythesea
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I was probably overdue for a cry, it's hard sometimes always staying strong. I've got my feet up now thankfully and intend to do just that tomorrow too.
Thanks for being there x
barb89646 rosieod1
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rosieod1 barb89646
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moira34394 Rhona62
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Rhona62 moira34394
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Rhona62
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How long did it take you to recover? Are you back to normal now? When did all the aching and stinging feelings go? Sorry for all the questions. I'm 5 weeks post op now and can't wait to see light at the end of the tunnel
moira34394 Rhona62
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Anterior repair in Dec 2013 ~ failed within 2 weeks when I tripped and lunged to stop myself falling. Saw consultant again in Jan 14. Now also needed posterior repair + tvt. Those would support the anterior prolapse which hadn't failed completely.
So, March 2014, anterior repair + tvt.
Sore for weeks, plus had haematoma and antibiotics for infections.
I remember that things were still sore when walking or doing pelvic floor exs at 5 weeks post op, so back to GP for reassurance. By 8 weeks, just occasional discomfort though still very tried.
Saw the consultant at 3 months. Felt great and he said the posterior repair was solid and the anterior prolapse was negligible. Advised that handling toddler grandchild ok, and to live normal life, but never again to move heavy furniture or heave the big bags of compost about.
Started looking after toddler grandchild 4-5 months post op. I lifted her as little as possible, but felt the pull every time, and when my long-awaited gynae appt came through, no posterior prolapse (hurray, just shows it does work) but slight anterior one now evident. Asymptomatic, but now so sensitised I want it gone. Working with physio on exs to correct this. She thinks I would see better improvement if not handling toddler (now 21 months) but that's not an option and I love doing it anyway. Less lifting needed as she grows.
By 8 months post op, no longer feeling pull with lifting baby, buggy etc etc.
1 year on, living normal life, all symptoms gone. TVT brilliant from start.
Hoping physio exs will deal with 'slight' anterior prolapse.
Looking back, would say fair amount of pain/discomfort for 8 weeks. Think that was the real turning point. If doing it again, I would set 6 months rather than 3, as the stage where I started doing normal things like lifting shopping in and out of the car. I still transfer heavier items in stages. I think I will be mindful all my life.
Sorry, this all feels a bit rambly. I think we need some new threads, eg preparing for your op; prepping friends and family; tips for pain/bm management; tips for managing shopping/household chores.
Anyway, Mothers' Day tomorrow, so hopefully treats for all!
Moira x
Rhona62 moira34394
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Thanks again for your message and support, I will hang in there x
Jan999 Rhona62
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