Libido

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I'm suffering badly with libido but my partner doesn't understand I'm thinking of leaving him but so frustrated

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    Have you tried talking to him? And is he supportive of you knowing what you're going through?

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    I'm the same too zero libido and have been for a year or more, I'm single now so I don't have added hassle of trying to keep my partner happy, trouble is most men see it as a rejection and don't grasp that it's not actually our fault x

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    Im single, a couple of years ago I was all up for dating but now I don't want a man near me. Im pretty sure if I were married I'd cause it to end.

    It's very hard as we are all so moody so what you are feeling may not be what you actually feel for him. I had a friend that confided in me that his wife wouldn't sleep with him anymore, I tried to explain how woman our age feel but men don't get it and get really hurt by the rejection. It's all so confusing....try your best to talk to him and explain it.

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    Hi Tracy,

    I'm 45 and going through the same of having no libido and my husband whom I love dearly didn't understand, because according to him the blood tests were normal! I showed him a page on menapausal symptoms and once he read it, he said the symptoms were me to T. Although I'm perimenapausal and not menapausal, I've found that communication is key. It's difficult to talk about because you feel so rubbish yourself and it's all such an effort, make him understand. Take care ?

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    Time for your partner to grow up! Would he not understand if you had a terminal illness that affected your libido? Or the flu for two weeks? Relationships go through ebbs and flows, and if he can't ride through this with you, he wasn't worth it in the first place. Too many people give men an easy pass over this stuff. He needs to adult up and support you. I am sure you would not be giving him a hard time if HE was the one with libido problems. There are plenty of ways to be intimate in a relationship that are not sexual.

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      Thanks Sabrina I have tried talking to him and printed stuff off but he just ain't listening he comes out with stuff like I could of had an affair 6 months ago but I didn't I said why you telling me stuff it's not helping I don't think we will get past this so it might be time to hang up and leave him xx

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    I also at 48 going through same thing . My Husband does understand . Because I sat down with him over wine and we talked it out . Try doing the same and we also are Intimate once a week on his 2nd Night off have always made that a point . Unless one of us is sick or just not up to it . We also go on a date once a month every few weeks . Our 11 yr old son is nosy so we have to sneak around like Teenagers makes it fun at our age . We Have Friends who as a couple every Friday night have indoor date they send kids to bed early and they have Drinks and Snacks or late dinner . We have tried that but are son like to bug us lol So try a Romantic Night away with your Husband that Helps also . Time alone is nice . Surprise him but I would work on it before giving up . Hope Things work out for you it is hard time for us women i am learning also . Take Care Michelle

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