Life is not just happening.

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I am a 28 year old beautiful but nothing positive is happening to me I have no job and I have been looking soo hard I hate that am a burden to my family but literally everything i touch never works.I want to die but I feel selfish of even thinking about that but the truth is I have no reason to live I have my family but I feel soo lonely and useless.I have been having this thoughts of just ending it but am afraid I might end up killing myself.

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    Hi Nelly,

    At the moment it’s harder to find a job without experience, but how can you get it without someone giving you a chance?! 

    It is frustrating. Have you tried applying for all jobs, or just ones you want? It may be worth just getting something for now and then applying for the ones you want when you have a job, as it’s easier to get a job if you already have one. 

    If you are already doing this, can you volunteer in a charity shop or something? This will give you work experience and show that you are wanting to work. 

    Don’t give up. Your family care about you. If you are feeling a burden, maybe try to do things for them around the house that don’t cost you anything but they would appreciate? 

    You could even take up a hobby such as walking or running, which would look good on your CV to an employer. 

    I hope you find a job soon. 

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    Hi it sounds like you could have depression?  Does this feel like it?  If you are not sure google depression tests online and they will give you a guide. 

    If you think you do then please see a doctor as there is lots of help out there.  You don't have to suffer like this.  x

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    Hi Nelly - you need to talk to someone about this. You will get support here from fellow sufferers, but you need hands on action where you live. Have you discussed this with your family? You may need professional help with this, so make an appointment with your doctor and be honest about what you are feeling etc. Medications might be prescribed, which are a temporary support often used in conjunction with therapy to identify any underlying issues - or recent events - that may have triggered your depression. Once you are feeling better, things will take on a different perspective and you will find a new strength and determination with even mundane things like looking for work. That positivity will fuel you and will influence the outcome of any efforts you make in your life. A job will find you and the immediate issues will dissolve. Financial freedom and a social environment will reinvigorate you, and you will look back and realise how strong, resilient and sensible you are. It sounds too difficult right now, but inaction will not fix things. Go for it. We are always here to talk. 
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    Hi nelly.

    I agree to what others have said on this forum. You need to talk about what you feel to someone you trust. They can be your parents, siblings, friends or your signicifant other. I understand, you feel afraid that you might hurt or scare them away if you were honest, yes? But people who truly cared about and loved you will never see you as a burden. people tend to give advices when we open up about such a thing so ask them to just listen to you first. You should not try to deal with things by yourself. Be open and honest. Let them help you and give you the support you need, it's better to look at the problem during its initial stage than to only disclose it when it's all too late.

    If you're still unsure about seeking a professional help, maybe you can talk to a spiritual counselor?

    What's your hobby? Maybe you can turn your hobby into career/business.

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    Nelly, dear girl, you are certainly not useless! You are not alone in this. Lots of positive things are in your future. Patience is so hard, isn't it? I agree with BeckiM88 about volunteering.  Volunteering has many pros to it. 1) It will get you out of yourself and around other people and into a regular routine -which is very healthy. 2) You will gain experience and have references to put on job applications. 3) The more people you come in contact with the wider your network gets- one of those people might know someone who is hiring, so many jobs are found through word of mouth and who you know. Your family loves you and you will get through this tough period of your young life. Hug.

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    Same feelings but seriously are you really sure you are USELESS????!!!!!

    NAH , you just don't know EXACTLY what you are good for 

    well take an example i studied a diploma of computer networking and i didn't even gain anything from it (thought i take A+ in it )

    and look at me NOW i'm working as SCHOOL SECRETARY LOL

    anyway don't lose hope , Sometimes it takes time to shine ^^

     

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    I am same situations with u...and u only have one life..1 life! Use it as useful live life fullest 
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    Don't do anything to yourself! It takes a lot courage to push through hard times. Never give up. Good things are coming your way.

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