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beverley_c69016
beverley_c69016

Hi ladies I not been 9n here for a while.those who have read prev posts will know me.well update I been on livail nearly 2 months still having hotflushes mood is improving my hubby and I started dating when we split up but now I have not seen him in 3 weeks as I found messages from another woman.that hurt me so much.so past 3 weeks I been a bit low and very sure now I will not be taking him back.I have gained lots of weight due to hrt.it is getting me down now to the point I don't go out.my body just feels swollen on the time

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  • steve75571
    steve75571 beverley_c69016

    Posted

    Can I ask if the split up was bought on by peri / meno and your feelings towards him

    Sorry your feeling so low

    • beverley_c69016
      beverley_c69016 steve75571

      Posted

      Hi Steve I don't think he helped he was sportive but during meno I found out he was texting other women not sexaul but made me hurt and the way he dealt with things so going thro what I was going thro.he didn't make me happy he would sit every night in silence it was very boring which made me worse as I needed more in the end we drifted apart even thou I told him what the problems were.it didn't seem to bother him

    • steve75571
      steve75571 beverley_c69016

      Posted

      I know it hurts, I know how your feeling but if his not 100% with you its just not worth it, a man, a real man should understand and look after his wife / partner during this difficult time in life you unfortunately have to go through

      Take care x

  • sue58256
    sue58256 beverley_c69016

    Posted

    have you tried sage my love apparently its very good for the flushes im about to start taking it 
  • alison28608
    alison28608 beverley_c69016

    Posted

    Yes its tuff, but firstly, you do not need this man in your life. Learn to love yourself first and moving on from someone who does not value you, is the first step. There will always be people going through worse than you are so be grateful for what you have. eg: freedom from a man who has no respect for you. I was great on HRT but trying to stay off it and its a struggle. No weight gain from HRT for me. My weight gain was because I couldnt exercise as frequently as before. Stay positive
  • CCinCal
    CCinCal beverley_c69016

    Posted

    Oh that is just sucky. One thing on top of another when you're needing relief. I'm so sorry you are having that happening to you on top of peri and everything else. Big hug to you. Try to push yourself and go outside and walk or just be in the sunlight for just 10 minutes a day. You don't want your legs to get wobbly and have trouble walking. Believe me that is where I'm and it just compounds everything. Xx

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