Loneliness

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Is anybody else suffering from anxiety because they are lonely.  I am a retired lady who lives alone.  I get out quite a lot as it helps, but when alone at home I get very anxious as I am lonely.  I do occupy myself, so don't know why I get like this.  Does anybody relate to this?

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    Yes, in part! My marriage broke up two years ago and our house is up for sale, but we are still living under the same roof but in different areas of the house! I see my ex every day as do the kids which is good but also painful! I haven't been up to bed for months because i can't face being in the next room to him and listen to him snoring all night. I also hate getting into a double bed on my own every night! My eldest son just moved in with his girlfriend and my daughter spends alot of time with her boyfriend. Evenmy youngest has a better social life than me! The girls at work are always asking me out at the weekend but pubs and drinking is not my thing... So yes, i have come to the realisation that i am quite lonely at this point in my life... I am 46 and gone through a serious health scare on my own last year also...life is unpredictable that's for sure!
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      Tracie I have been alone since my divorce 30 years ago when I was 44.  Had a few disastrous relationships as depression always came between me and them.  Hope your health is better now.  You are going through a lot at the moment.

      I am dreading the long winter nights.  I really try to keep occupied.  bI am still active for my age.

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      Thank you Anne... My physical health is fine now, apart from all the nasties that anxiety causes! Its my mental health i need to keep a close eye on these days, as with all of us. I love winter, but i think i will have to make sure i don't hibernate till may this year and try and keep busy and meet up with people
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    Hi Anne, I am lonely and i know there are a lot of lonely people out there. My anxiety is worse at times because of this. I am not able to work and have mobility problems and don't drive so i find life difficult at times. I do have 2 daughters and 2 grand children i see quite often which helps. I do try to keep occupied and busy. Lonliness is not nice at the best of times i know. Is there any groups you can join, thelibrary have information. I have recently joined a local meet up group and have been to a couple of events which was good. I know this doesn't help living alone but it helps to have some interests with like minded people. I have lived alone now for about 12 years. 
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      Elizabeth thank you so much for your reply.  I don't have a car any more and do miss it as visiting my son and his family now more difficult.  I have lived alone for 30 years, and I suppose it is getting worse.  For a lot of that time I had depression and was on medication.  I lost a job and house because of depression.

      I do belong to a senior citizen group and do quite a few activities with them.  I have been getting anxious lately, so finding these a bit more of a challenge.  I go on bus and coach trips, so I am a lot luckier than you that bI am able to get out and about.  

      It is just when I am at home that I get this horrid anxious feeling.  Even when I am on my way home from something I begin to get anxious.  I do occupy myself when at home.  I try to keep busy as much as I can.  Not housework though!!

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      Hi again it's good to know we are not alone in this and we can talk and get support on here. Like today i am stuck inside as i am suffering nerve pain, i had two knee replacements on the same knee and i am only 58. This makes my depression and anxiety worse as i couldn't go out if i wanted to. I have taken strong meds and will try and sleep as i feel sick. I want to be right for tomorrow as i am taking my granddaughter out for lunch, suffer today so i can hopefully enjoy tomorrow. Keep smiling i still think myself lucky i wake up every day. Hop you have some good days too. Take care. I am here anytime you want to talk. Elizabeth
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      Dear Elizabeth, I feel I have made a friend in you.  Thank you so much for answering my question.  Means a lot to know someone out there is interested.  Bless you.  I have been so down and anxious, and I know there are lots of people feeling the same, and that I am better off than a lot.

      For instance, poor you having had two knee replacements and not being able to get around very well.  I am lucky in that I am very mobile.  I go for long walks, although not so much in the winter.  I did have an hours walk yesterday with a friend on heathland near our home.  Just to be out in the fresh air does help.  I don't mean to rub it in, sorry.  Even so, I am still anxious and getting more depressed.  

      I don't know if we are able to exchange email addresseses, as I would dearly love to be your friend.  We could help each other.  

      I do hope you get to take your granddaughter out, that would be lovely.  I have 4 grandchildren and they mean the world to me.  That is why I am very down at the moment.  I missed my youngest granddaughter's 5th birthday party as I got the date wrong.  My son must have told me the right date, but I got it all wrong, and am devastated.  I keep texting hoping I can see her.  No car now, so not easy.  I am really fetting over this.

      I wake up every day feeling  anxious, and takes a long time to calm down.  I do go about my activities and push my feelings down and often I do, and then things are all right.  You sound so very positive and strong.  

      Take care, love Anne 

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