Long term depression

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This is the first time I've tried anything like this.. I'm 20, and a single mother. I was left by the father when pregnant, suffered bad depression during the pregnancy and had a traumatic labour resulting in a heart attack and an emergency c section. I was diagnosed with post natal depression when my child was 2 weeks old. The depression has continued, my little one is now two. I have been abused, mentally and physically since she was born, and before. I was made to be homeless when she was 3 months old and have spent the last 6 months fighting with my council as they keep fiddling with my benefits,  so I'm under a huge amount of financial stress. I took a part time job hoping it would help me financially, my colleagues are  in a clique that I don't fit in with and I'm constantly being  pushed to the side and being taken advantage of. my little one goes to nursery and to pay for this I often go without things, my child goes without nothing, always fed and clean. I'm on my own, only one family member that will help, no relationship.  No friends. I spend my nights alone with my cat and studying, as I want to do my nurses training next year. I feel alone, ridiculed by family for being on my own and for having no relationship. I can't go out as i only have childcare when I'm at work. My old friends want nothing to do with me, they have partners and lives that they put before our friendships and i understand that other things are more important. and yes, I am meant to take antidepressants, but I cannot afford them.  I don't sleep and rarely eat.

So after my life story.. has anyone else felt like this? How did you get through it? Any advice is welcome but please don't tell me to get out more as i simply can't do it x

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    well done on your studying, im the same i live alone no support but from the internet i sit in all day with my cat , on job seekers cause of anxiety of debt i never fitted in at work lots of clicks never fit in unless a few of the younger girls, i dont have the money to go out . cant seem to get motivation to do this and i know i have to, so hard, im sorry it is so hard for you its so lonely , i have a sister but shes allways busy and doesnt understand me so no support, im on ADs and there cutting my sleeping tablets down . and the doctor said well u dont work eh? my heart goes out to you
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      Thank you for replying. In some small way it does make me feel better that I'm not the only person that feels this way. The Internet seems to be the only way of getting much help now rolleyes
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    Hi Frances,

    It sounds like you have/are having a really bad time!

    Can i ask, which country do you live in? as you mention that you can not afford medication.

    I'm from the UK, and if your on benefits or have a young child you are entilted to free medication, not sure what help you can get where you are.

    Have you been to your gp to tell them how you feel?

    Counselling may be helpful as you have had a traumatic past.

    Im 29 and have suffered with depression since i was 11 when my dad died, also a string of traumatic events followed. I too don't have any friends, though i do have a partner and the support of my mum.

    Perhaps see if there are any support groups in your area, like mother and baby, or something just for you, where you can meet others like yourself.

    I do find simple things help like going for walks, eating healthy, and making simple small changes.

    I'm here if you want to talk, i hope things start to get better for you soon, take care x

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      Thank you for replying.. I live in the UK,  but I'm not entitled to free medication I do have to pay for my prescriptions, despite a lot of arguments over it. My gp knows everything,  he's tried me with lots of different types of medications and therapies, including counselling, unfortunately the last time I was given sessions I couldn't attend as I have no childcare. Trying to talk about personal things when running about after a toddler really didn't work out so I had to stop going /: I have tried mother and baby groups,  but didn't get along with the other mums as they were already quite close and unfortunately I didn't quite fit in, they even went to the extent of taking their children away from mine. I will try searching for support groups, maybe I can find one that is during nursery times rather than the evening. Thank you for your help x
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