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Major panic attack

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barbara75065
barbara75065

I've just split up with partner today, he was my rock, but far too pushy and I couldn't handle this side of him. The worst feeling is the shock and panic I feel without him. I was dependant on him and didn't realise how much. My legs feel like they've gone to jelly and I am very anxious about coping with these physical reactions.  Has anyone got any advice to manage this huge anxiety?

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  • lynne82155
    lynne82155 barbara75065

    Posted

    Sorry to here about your troubles

    Its still very early days you have only split with your partner today,it will take time

    to healcry

    Try and have family and friends around and keep yourself busy

    Maybe try some therapy

    take care and stay strongcool

  • m04810
    m04810 barbara75065

    Posted

    As a woman having a relationship with someone pushy i totally relate. Is he the reason why your anxiety begun? Have you ever thought about it? Are you with him for a long time? I ll tell you one thing. Having a pushy partner is like being under a lake and breathing through a straw. Now someone closed the air and you managed to get out of the lake. Every break up takes time to heal. It will have grief and pain. But it will be temporary for some months. Pressure will be forever.. You got the courage to do it. I wish i will get it too. How was he pushy?
    • barbara75065
      barbara75065 m04810

      Posted

      He used emotional blackmail if he couldn't get his own way. I have had some space and feel I need a longer break.  He wants to talk, but he won't compromise and I always get upset by this. Yes it has felt so much like you said.  Thanks for helping me see the light.
  • Guest
    Guest barbara75065

    Posted

    how are you feeling now?
    • barbara75065
      barbara75065 Guest

      Posted

       I met up with an old friend who also has relationship problems and we had a long walk.. My panic has subsided for the moment. I just need to relax and not to be in confrontational situations all the time.

      Thanks for your concern.

    • lisalisa67
      lisalisa67 barbara75065

      Posted

      Do not go back because you are anxious. It takes time to heal. You did the right thing and time will heal leaving him. Theres someone better out there for you. You would get anxious either way, he wasnt really your rock he was there and causing you distress. Better to see friends and make new friends. He will probably be persistent for a bit, pushy people are like that. Abusive are very like that first , then act sad and apologenic then get cruel. Ignore it all. You will realize in a few months you made the best choice ever, anxiety can be hard at times to manage but way better then dealing with it and feeling trapped. Here you get to heal. If it gets a bit too rough fo see your doctor and im sure he can give you something to help you get through this.you havent mentioned if you live with your parents or alone. If yiu are aline you can always have a friend stay over or go see some family for a bit. Co deoendency would be the absolute worst reason to be with a person.
    • barbara75065
      barbara75065 Guest

      Posted

      I try to keep busy and yesterday I went for a swim which helped.
    • Guest
      Guest barbara75065

      Posted

      that's good!

      do you have a therapist or counsellor or anything?

    • barbara75065
      barbara75065 Guest

      Posted

      I have an appointment in a weeks time to sort out some support through doctor, thanks.
    • barbara75065
      barbara75065 Guest

      Posted

      Just chilling out today.Needed to watch tv and distract myself. Couldn't face supermarket so bought fish and chips. Just coping one day at a time thanks.
    • Guest
      Guest barbara75065

      Posted

       if you ever need anything, post on here or feel free to send me a PM.

      you are not alone.

      good luck and all the best!

    • barbara75065
      barbara75065 Guest

      Posted

      Thanks to you and all the support I have had on this forum.
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