Memory lapse/confusion. Help!

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I’ve been doing so well since Christmas (major symptoms before that including depression, panic and severe digestive probs, weight loss etc) and was feeling more positive but have had a rough few days and I’m in a complete panic today…

I was up half the night with a return of severe heartburn, acid, pain under ribs and through to back. I had to take half a valium in the end to help me sleep. The symptoms set me off worrying about terminal causes even though I’ve had a CT scan, endoscopy etc. I’ve had extremely tender breasts for nearly a week even though my period isn’t due. Also carpel tunnel type symptoms and aching joints.

Anyway, I’m always walking into rooms and forgetting what I went in for but this morning scared me. I walk my daughter and her friend to school EVERY morning. The other mum picks them up from school every afternoon EXCEPT Wednesday when I have to pick up my daughter in the afternoon (because her friend has an after school club so her mother collects her later).

I knew it was Tuesday this morning but for some reason I thought I had to pick-up my daughter from school. I actually reminded her that I would pick her up today in the afternoon. She said: “No, Mum, it’s not Wednesday.” For some reason I just could not understand what she meant. I felt totally blank and was still sure that I was picking her up. I had somehow reversed the arrangement in my head – thinking that I picked her up every day EXCEPT Wednesday instead of the opposite. I was saying: “Yes, I know it’s Wednesday tomorrow, that’s why I’m picking you up today.”

But there is no reason that I should think that. We have had the same school arrangements since last September. This went on for at least a minute with me insisting that it’s Tuesday today so I will pick her up. In the end I could see the certainty on my daughter’s face, like she was trying to explain something very simple to me (she is 11). I somehow knew at that point that I must be wrong and she was right but realised I still couldn’t work out why. I felt so scared and confused. I felt so sure I was right about the arrangement but could see from the look on her face that I wasn’t. I felt blank and confused and suddenly very panicky. She explained once more and it finally clicked (all this took at least a minute). I apologised and said I was just tired: “Of course,” I said, “I only pick you up on a Wednesday.”This has really thrown me into a spin. I’ve never felt so confused or disorientated and it’s really scared me. Has anyone else had this sort of thing?

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    Yes, Ruthie, it is commun to peri.  And ALL comes together at ONCE.  nobody ever prepared us for that and doctors do not acknowledge that, so do not expect much reasurement from them.  Be always checked for everything, just to be at easy. Good news is that it gets way better. Be patient, hang on.  This forum has lots of good recommendation, some may work for you. And in the last case, there is always HRT, if anything else works for you and if you are willing to try. Welcome and good luck! Xx


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      Thanks BellaRubia,

      My GP is good and has done lots of checks but will not acknowledge many symptoms as part of peri which leaves me feeling like a mystery.

      Some of the physical symptoms can be awful but it's the mental/emotional ones that get to me the most because I don't feel like myself and it affects my confidence - not knowing how each day is going to be and causing more dread and rumination over it all.

      I've always just got on with life regardless of how I was feeling but just can't seem to push myself in the same way as before any more. These symptoms can just stop you in your tracks!

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      Your GP is the regular kind we find anywere - they know little about perimenopause. As you say, at least, he tested you for everything, as mine did. Even my gyno does not acknowledge the symptoms, so I had more tests, lol.  She is a little younger than me, so she is not "there" yet.  They go by their "books" and their books need update. What reminds me, I do have to find an older gyno.  Changes are she will know what I am talking about, lol.

      Point is, you are not alone, you are not crazy, you are not "creating" problems or symptoms. Hold on and be positive, it may take a while, but things will get better. Take care.



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    Hi Ruth,

    I'm so glad you posted about this.  I have this sort of thing all the time. I have had major panic attacks, IBS, thinking I have early onset Alzheimers, which isnt helped by the fact that I have had whiplash in the past year and a few sports injuries to my head from earlier years, so just think I've somehow damaged my brain and am going gaga.  Have had an MRI scan recently, and endoscopy and colonscopy because I was very aneamic, and lots of blood tests.

    I have relied on valium on and off for some years, and take very little now, but trying to take none at all and deal all these awful symptons is really really hard.

    I feel totally knackered all the time. I walked to the local supermarket today, and had to look twice every time I crossed the road, I was so worried I'd be knocked over I was so tired.

    I do feel for you. You really are not on youre own.

    Regards, Carole


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    I have had times where I have been cofused not knowing what I am doing depressed anxious, and yes it is scary. 

    I feel that you should talk to your doctor about being on something for depression andanxieties like Zoloft and ativan help me 

    Take a break for yourself and get some relaxation and rest in you need it if you are not sleeping well 

    Hope you feel better

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