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Moving on and New relationships with Depression

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This perhaps will be a peculiar question but with all the things going on and the attempt to keep life moving, I was think should I now start looking for a new partner after 12 months and divorce.

But as I started thinking about trying the big step I thought back to my anxiety and depression and I guess I feel its hold me back in trying to make a hopeful positive thing  in my life.  I'm always worrying how I would be , and I wouldnt want to burden someone else with my challenges, but yet I don't want to put my life on hold.

Has anyone else thought about the whole dating thing whilst being in a state of so much un-surety. Depression tends to make you want to be alone and not bother people. But then recovery is meeting new people and trying to improve your life.

Got to admit it all is complex and what I thought may be a good idea I'm now think it not worth it and who wants to be with me. the daft things is its like "embarrassing bodies" I can open the question to people here.

But not sure I can discuss with a counsellor, I feel a complete fool over something so simple. But I'm guess alot of people are challenged by this

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  • annie76135
    annie76135 UK-Ven-medicate

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    Hi jimmy it would be lovely for you to find love and companionship again. But it is important that you find the right person and that you are able to talk about how you feel. If she truly loves you she will understand and support you.I would be lost without my lovely hubby and he brings such strength and joy to me. You sound like a lovely gentleman and you will have such empathy and compassion to bring to a relationship. I wish you well in your search for that special someone xx
  • UK-Ven-medicate
    UK-Ven-medicate

    Posted

    I think this is more difficult than I originally thought. Don't get me wrong I ain't a prude or anything but I thought it was men that were renowned for being sex mad. 

    Like i say im no prude but when the first question is sex related its like what happened to good old fashioned lets suss each other out and go from there. Stress is bad enough as it is, and I am determined to move on and try and lift my mood.

    • jackie82937
      jackie82937 UK-Ven-medicate

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      Jimmy it is not only guys who are sex bad us women are equally as bad the world has changed and how we date and meet people is very different.  When my husband left in his Depressed state and went off with another woman it would have been all to easy to have jumped into bed with someone else, I don't believe in tit for tat and had always repected myself and never slept around.  I joined a dating site which seemed more like a porn site, having said that I did meet a lovely guy we met a few times, he was tall, dark, handsome and intelligent but I knew he wasn;t right for me. 

      I went away for a weeekend with friends a few months ago and met a lovely guy, I was shocked he even asked for my number!  Being with the husband for 34 years I had been in some sort of protective bubble and had no idea that other guys or women would have even found me attractive?  After all the recent sadness I never thought I would ever be happy again let alone find someone I would be attracted to and want a sexual relationship with.

      I guess what I'm trying to say is you will know when you meet someone if you are ready or not.  I hope you find the happiness you deserve. x

  • Aspinan
    Aspinan UK-Ven-medicate

    Posted

    No harm testing the waters I guess, just do some dating with no strings attached and you'll know if it's right for you to continue with it or to continue dating a particular person.

    There is equally nothing foolish about discussing it as it's not simple, far from it, you have to protect yourself so asking for opinions from like minded people is a very sensible and prudent thing to do.. Well done you I say! 

    • UK-Ven-medicate
      UK-Ven-medicate Aspinan

      Posted

      Its embarassing asking but I figure I am not the only one on here in the is postion
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