My BF has HSV2 and I don't, I'm so confused!

I thought HSV1 is oral & HSV2 is genitals? 

Im sure I contracted it orally & gave it to my bf. But he is +HSV2 on the genitals & -HSV1.

I do sometimes experience swollen lymph nodes on my neck from time to time but haven't had a physical outbreak. Shall I just go back to the clinic request oral swab test? or wait a couple weeks & get another blood work?

No. Hsv-1 can be oral or genital. Same with hsv-2, It can be either place. I thought that too before I contracted it. Question did your boyfriend get a blood test or swab test ?? Don’t automatically assume u gave it to him, it’s possible u didn’t. 

Also, they’ll only do a swab test if u have lesions/sores. If you don’t they can only do a blood test. I’m going back in a few months for another blood test even tho my swab wasn’t positive. As far as I’m told & from what I read it takes 12-16 weeks of having the virus for it to show up in ur blood. 

So I mean swab was positive * 

My bf got a blood test, & swab test of his sores on his penis. I know I gave it to him because for two years we were highly sexually active, didn't use any protection ever. Until I cheated & he started seeing scabs on his shaft immediately days after. So I'm sure I'm a carrier and gave it to him. Idk how to deal with this. We are going to stay strong & stay together. I also been experiencing mild swelling from time to time around my neck. We both life an organic vegan lifestyle. I believe he is showing symptoms before me bcuz of his weak immune system. He skips meals, has history of high stress & depression. Whereas I , eat consistently healthy, green juices, balanced meals, can manage stress better. But after this I've just been so depressed. And waiting for symptoms to appear. But I can't see myself with anyone else.

Did both come back positive ? How long after u cheated did he get the test ? Only because it takes a little for it to show in ur blood. I got both right after I contracted it & it’s not in my blood yet. If his blood was positive then it’s most likely an older infection. Not that in my opinion it even matters because there’s no use in playing the “blame game” if u know what I mean. At this point he has it & u may have it also so u live with it since there’s nothing u can do. I know it’s stressful but having ur boyfriend there for support will be a BIG help! And if u ever need to talk feel free to reach out to me. I also found a support group that’s really helped me with questions and just having ppl to talk to. If u want the info for it I can give it to u

Ash is right. The virus’s have a place they prefer but don’t necessarily have to be in their preference area. There’s a possibility your bf got it from somewhere else. Not saying he was cheating but it does seem you were both having a hard time in your relationship 

Well as far as I know, not sure the exact details since he's being stubborn about going back to the clinic to get more antiviral meds. (Im assuming the swab test of a blister that appeared around his shaft was the one that resulted with a positive). We both went in to get tested together 11 days after I cheated. So basically just couple days after I cheated he began noticing a tiny scab (no blisters yet at the time). But he wasn't open about it until about 9 days after I had cheated he finally spoke about his problem down there, he told me he had been experiencing these tiny scabs that didn't seem to heal. (But we had already had unprotected sex by then). When I took a look at it, I didn't think it was anything serious until he said it had been almost a week when they appeared, & I thought back & was around the time I had been unfaithful.. I read that herpes symptoms can appear as soon as just a couple days to a few weeks after contracting the virus but from the looks of it everybody reacts to it differently. I haven't told anyone about this in my friend / family circle except for my sister. Thank you. Please send me the info anytime.  

the website is life with herpes .com u sign up & then she sends u all the info for downloading this app called slack after u download it u can read other ppls posts & ask questions and everything. It’s been really helpful for me since I found it. It’s nice having a safe space to talk to ppl who understand. It’s men & women in it so it may help ur boyfriend too. Although if he doesn’t even want to go get more antivirals I doubt he’s going to want to join a support group. But U never know! (Oh ya, It’s free. I know a lot of what u see online u have to pay to join) 

Hi Ashley, I hope this messages finds you.

But I just want to thank you for being there for me back then, I havent logged in here.

But my HSV2 is weird or at least the strain i have. Ever since this post my now ex bf kept getting reocurring outbreaks which began to spread (hence he eats poorly, overworks himself, high stress functioning). He was diagnosed mid 2018, my first OB didnt happen until 2 years later, in 2020 (my ex & i continued with no protection bcuz I had initially given him this disease , i still believe to this day, even tho some say it couldnt be) Regardless, my first OB wasnt too bothersome as it felt like an ingrown hair & healed quick. After that up until now in 2021, ive only had 2 outbreaks total in 3 years. Is this normal? Ofc im thankful HSV2 its not a big deal for me but would they get worse? or is my immune system just that good & potentially beating this virus? I think the only reasons I got those two outbreaks were because I cut myself shaving , I hear that it very possible, im curious if you can confirm this with me? Lastly, thank you for refering that site to me. Its not easy being single with this diesease now & having to open up about it to someone new, but purhaps ill just focus on myself for now..

Hi just reading this thread. I went to my OB and said it looks like i do hv herpes but im still awaiting for the results. Just wondering, me and my bf had unprotected sex last Jan 11, feb and march but neither of us feel or notice anything down there.. The Recent we did that was last saturday. Then week later i hv these sores all over my genitalia, still my bf is completely normal. Im sure he didn't cheat bcos we both wfh. But does it take that long for someone to show up symptoms?

Hi, im 100 sure I gave it to him. we never used any protection in our 2 years together. But i cheated on him & he still wants to be with me even tho its hard. I can't see myself going thru this with anybody. Our relationship is a bit rocky, & he refuses to go back to the doctors office to get his hard copy, and get medicine to treat his outbreaks because we live a vegan organic lifestyle. & we strongly believe food is medicine.  I have yet to pick up mine but I will tomorrow. I only did the blood test. I will try to convince him and get back to you.

I hope you will be right !

But i still think i am right. 

Get his results and tell me the details. 

Remember if he has Ig G positive so he got herpes long time ago and it is not from you

My message to him: You don’t need to go on the medicine but you do need to be educated about what virus you have and also how long you have had it. Period. 

He just found out his test results over the phone 3 days ago that he is HSV2 positive. Do you go on the medicine every time you experience an OB? If not, what natural remedies have worked for you? Also, why would it matter how long one has had it? I'm curious.

Now you can stop blaming yourself. As you cheated on him, he also cheated on you and he got hsv 2 from another woman. 

You have to protect yourself from getting genital hsv2.  Use condom always.  I hope it protects you 100%

 Because you need to be honest with yourself and other people that you have slept with and let them know to get tested !  The fact that he’s being stubborn and doesn’t want to see the paperwork is a red flag to me that he had it before hand and it doesn’t matter who gave it to you to be honest but it would be nice to at least know   Because if you knew he had it and he has a responsibility to let you know before you gave it to you But if you just want to let it go I understand that too

 By the way when I see you I’m not speaking to you I’m speaking to him and I’m responding to the question where you asked why doesn’t matter how long you’ve had it 

When I say* “you”

Wow so many auto corrects sorry. It won’t let me edit. Because if he knew he had it then he had a responsibility to let you know before he gave it to you.  But if you just want to let it go I understand that too.  I have a feeling my bf knew he had it before he gave it to me but it was too hurtful to think that he gave it to me knowingly because I was already hurting from being infected (and then having an abortion) it was too much to handle. 

I’m in the same situation. I’m almost positive my boyfriend knew he had it before he gave it to me. But it hurts too much to think that someone who claims to love you would do that to you 😕 I just let it go with my boyfriend, feels pointless to play the blame game at this point since there’s nothing we can do anyways. 

Hi, its been 3 months since this post. My bf & I are still together & we are in a happier place than I was when I wrote this post. A little update: I can say  that your claims are false, no sense playing the blame game. He has herpes, & ive been having so much unprotected sex & oral with him & I never once got an outbreak to this day.. The answer for the cure lies in medicinal mushrooms & I can say that it has cured his herpes. The first two months he has bad horrible outbreaks that would often come back & take weeks to heal, hence the doctor had diagnosed him with a bad case of HSV2. The last two months we would fight a lot & he kept having recurring OB's. He started taking Paul Stamets mushroom supplements for immune boosting & last week we had a huge fight, he was under so much stress a blister began to form on his shaft, but it healed so fast without antibiotics in like 2 days by the time i saw him it was a dry scab. FYI, he doesnt have the best diet but has been able to manage his stress, depression & anxiety a bit better recently which could be a potential contributing factor. Im also taking the same mushrooms supplements for prevention. All i can say is that if you're suffering from herpes to take these supplements! 

Hi Ashley, 

I came back to this post & seen what you had left in response to someone else. I feel that I need to inform you & encourage you to take Paul Stamets Host Defense mushroom supplements for Immune Support. He's a mycologist who claims it can aid herpes, HIV, cancer, HVP. To this day I have not had a single herpes OB. Also, my bf & I are still sexually active, use no protection. I can definitely say it has aided my bf from HSV2. He no longer relies on synthetic antibiotics. This virus was without a doubt man made to keep big pharma in bussiness, but theres is no cure like nature. Im also taking these supplements for prevention. We are loving the results.