My boyfriend has depression and hasn't spoken to me in a week

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Hi everyone. My boyfriend has severe depression and suicidal thoughts and hasn't contacted me in any way since Christmas day. I knew about his depression when we first met as he made a point to tell me before we went any further with out relationship. I've supported him every step of the way any way I can including messaging him letting him know that he's loved and that I'm there for him and giving him space when he needs it. This isn't the first time he's done this and it worries me to no end when he does it. I'm terrified of what he will do but he doesn't really talk about it, which I get. I'm just so scared cause he isn't answering any of the messages I've left him. I don't know what else to do besides sit and hope he's OK as I don't want to find his family and ask them if he's OK.

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    Hello i am sorry about you're boyfriend, but you must go to his house and make him feel confidence about himself try to make him talk to someone specialist

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    I'd contact his family,he may need help,if so if his family doesn't know,they need to.

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    You certainly have chosen a difficult path for yourself with this relationship. I was with someone exactly like that when I was younger and I ended up supporting him for 17 years because his untreated mental health issues prevented him working.

    Now that I look back I wish with all my heart that I had chosen to do right by myself and leave that relationship which was so unhealthy for me to be in. I cheated myself of my youth by staying with that partner.

    Please at least allow yourself to contemplate an alternative to what you're putting yourself through.

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    Hello! I'm in a similar situation. My boyfriend has depression and he has constant breakdowns in which he says hurtful stuff and/or ignores me. He has broken up with me multiple times before and then he comes to his senses and asks for forgiveness.

    I totally understand what you're feeling, being ignored is horrible. It gives me anxiety and I feel like I'm losing my mind. I literally can't stop thinking about him, which leads me to overthinking.

    The best advice I can give you is to talk to someone you trust in his family. Tell this family member about everything, you may feel like you're betraying him but this will help you're boyfriend. His family member will be taking care of him and checking in. This will make you feel better since you know there's someone else that's willing to support him. Plus, it will make you feel less lonely.

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