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Okay I've been dating the same guy for a year now. He has always dropped hints about how's he depressed but I didn't really think much of it since he has always seemed so happy and what not. When we first started hanging out one night he randomly broke doe and started telling me about his depression. I didn't know what to say or do since it all came out of nowhere and he had only hung out a few times. 8 months or so have gone by and he's never really said anything about it again. Things were going good he asked me to move in with him. ( which I didn't but just because I need to say money) he found a place with his friends and told me I could keep things there since I stay there every night.
I got mad at him and we didn't talk for a couple days and then hung out and talked about how we need to communicate better. He told me it's hard for him since he's depressed. So I started asking his questions about it and we talk some about it but he asked if we could talk about the next day since it was 3 in the morning. The next day I wake up to him Chang smoking and listening to his iPod. He then gives me a kiss and leave. I call him later and he acted completely normal. Then he just randomly text me telling me how he needs to be alone and how he has to be happy with himself. How he loves me like crazy but it's now fair to me and how he's done hurting me and leading me on. Then he said he needs to take care of himself and he can't give me hat I deserve.
What what the heck does all of this mean it all so random. Are we done for good? Is this just an excuse? Is he ever gonna come back? He has just completely shut me out won't respond or answer my calls. What do I do?
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jake12070 Lidders
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I say he is feeling really low at the minute and doesn't think he can give you the happiness you deserve, it's good you are here as it shows you want to know more about depression. It's really hard for anyone who doesn't deal with it to even begin to understand how that person feels, maybe researching into it a bit can give you a bit if an idea about what he goes through.
Could also be a cry for help seeing if you really love him and will not just give up when he's feeling low, keep calling and texting, he will show up at some point but he needs to see somebody if he been keeping this all inside and not telling anyone.. Stay strong
nicki16559 jake12070
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I've read a lot and people say to let them be and give them space.
To to people like this tend to come back or do they just leave us behind and act like we never even met?
Does se he need a week a month.... I guess I am just so lost right now
jake12070 Lidders
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If you think you can't then you need to step away, the last thing you want is to keep waiting to then have your heart broken and also spiral into depression..
Like alexander said without help or support it will just drag you down to the point of feeling as low as him, this is why I wouldn't get into a relationship with how bad my depression is, i couldn't bare to hurt someone I love who is doing their best to help.
Goodluck
alexander_39124 Lidders
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You will have to ask yourself if you love him strong enought and he also has to tell you what his depression is all about !
Good luck to the both of you . Alexander.
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