my gynae told me i wouldnt be able to have sex after a repair of anterior prolapse

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This would be due to the kind of op she proposed which was tightening the vagina and almost totally closing the vaginal opening (plus hysterectomy and securing the wall with a stitch to the sacrum. i am devastated as I had not contemplated this at age of 61. Anyone else had this surgery. Help what should I do?

 

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    This is the first ive ever hesrd sucg a thing with regards to an anterior repair.

    I researched prolapse repairs when my front wall collapsed first time and was given to understand that once recovered from surgery sex was back on the table; the only repair where sex would no-longer be possible was if they closed up the vault at the top end.

    I assume that's still the same as not heard anything different; shy would she tighten if up so much that you could never gave sex again? Are you sure she meant that and not just saying no sex immediately after repair for limited period of time.

    Maybe someone who has had similar repair with hysterectomy plus stitch to sacrum may be able to confirm one way or the other.

    They don't usually do a repair where vault is closed off unless lady is much older and on their own (sex life over).

    Phyl x

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    Please get a new doctor ASAP, this is terrible and rubbish advice. I'm 34 and I've just had hysterectomy, vagina attached with a stitch, anterior and posterior repair (My second in 2 years) yes it will make everything tighter and sex may be uncomfortable or in some cases difficult but it should improve. If you have a good urogynae they should be able to do everything without making it too closed for sex.

    good luck x

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    See a urogynecologist this should not happen!
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    I've had a TVH and anterior repair in 2016 and a posterior repair 5 weeks ago.  I also signed the form for a Sacro Spinal Fixation stitch but this wasn't carried out in the end.  I can't understand why your gynae would say sex would not possible unless he/she is doing something very unusual. Normally this surgery would improve your sex life.  I would definitely ask lots of further questions or get a second op. Is your surgeon a urogynaecologist?? IMO I would Never  trust a normal gynaecologist with this type of surgery 

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    the proceedure is called colpodeisis I have read about it and it is a bonafide procedure for a urogynaecologist and has good results i.e. does the job with no further surgery needed later but she did tell me that it was usually for older women or women who were not interested in a vaginal sex life! she told me to discuss with my husband which I did and he was very understanding and sweet. I just dont think I am ready for this yetand wondered about other women's experience to help me decide.

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      I'm sure your repairs can be done with going to those lengths! This is a last resort from what I've been reading and only done in extremely bad circumstances. I take you're not in the UK? If you are you need to ask for another referral to get a second opinion. If in the states I would refuse this option and ask for a less drastic one or go to another urogynaecologist. Good luck with this, Pollyanna. rolleyes

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    I refused polyester tape or mesh as I have a bad reaction to these fabrics on external skin let alone internal! I still think you can have your repairs done without being stitched up completely. Do some research and I'm sure you'll find a consultant in urogynaecology who will be able to do this. Do you have lists of these specialists in Canada? Try googling pelvic floor specialists in your area and see what comes up. Your local hospital may not have one but other city's or towns in the vicinity might. Best wishes, Poll X rolleyes

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    hysterectomy years ago but this year had prolapse and the stitch thing done by a urogynaecologist. He is based at Harrogate District Hospital in Yorkshire and amazing. He explained everything and asked if I wanted to continue with a sex life-I said yes (I am 69 ) It has been a bit uncomfortable and it is a lot tighter inside so I am still coming to terms with it all feeling a little different down there but I think my sex life will continue-maybe not quite so vigorously ha ha! Please seek another opinion as of course your partner will be understanding but you are still quite young-Dont give up!

     

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    I have just looked this up and see that it is a procedure used a lot in United States but mainly for older women or those for whom major surgery is more of a risk.
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      Dear angela

      thank you for your input. Youir experience give me some hope. what do you mean by the stitch thing? I am glad you could resume sex after awhile. i wouldnt mind being a bit tighter down there as i know I am very loose. I had a traumatic first delivery at the age of 40 with keillands rotational forceps and i think that is what did the damage.

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      I think it is called a sacrospinous fixation where they stitch the top of cavity to your buttock to hold it in place-it was quite uncomfortable to sit for a while. I still have some further surgery for a prolapse to bladder but waiting to recover from the bowel prolapse operation
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