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Traceeeee
Traceeeee

I just found out I have GH my outbreak is horrible I can barely walk, the pain is unbearable when I pee I just want to scream I lost my virginity in December I am 19 years old. I feel like my life is ruined because of one person who I trusted how will I marry someone how will I explain this how will I live a normal life.. No one wants to be with someone with this disease I feel alone and depressed.. 

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  • gijane
    gijane Traceeeee

    Posted

    Traceeeee everything will work out.  I've had GH since I was17 n now I'm in my 30's I've had a number of relationships both with guys who have this and don't.  Oddly enough in all those yrs only one guy rejected me in a bad way.  Today they have dating sites n sites like this for those of us brave Enough to get out and Explore. 1 in 5 people have this so don't think your alone.  Take some time to just heal and educate yourself in a few wks after the initial shock u will see it's not so bad.  Keep positive
    • Traceeeee
      Traceeeee gijane

      Posted

      How do you tell someone that you have ithow do you know when to? How are your outbreaks now. Do you still get depressed? 
    • gijane
      gijane Traceeeee

      Posted

      The worst of it All was in my first year.  The shock and psychological pain is worse then the actual disease. the less stressed you are the less the outbreaks.  Overtime for me the symptoms almost vanished.  I take good care of myself,take my vitamins and that too keeps me outbreak free.  As far as telling the men u date it's best to actually Date and Get to know the guy your with.  If you feel like there is a real connection then just be honest with him. tell him because you care they should know you have this and then be prepared to explain GH. I have at times been frustrated but trust me is easier to get depressed about regular everyday life situations.  Herpes is like a car wreck you caused. You feel bad at first,you get nervous about all the damage, you might not want to drive again but hey eventually you do and all continues as it always has. 
  • neena51943
    neena51943 Traceeeee

    Posted

    Do not feel alone! It's going to be ok!! You will find someone mature enough to accept you for who you are and not just for what you have. Fill a tub with warm water, sit in it, and pee. This will be your toilet for the next week and a half. Trust me I'm still going through it after a week. I just got diagnosed on Wednesday. You can also keep a large bottle in handy to pour warm water down your vagina as you pee. I've been doing this at work. Buy some Epsom salt and pour it in a warm bath. You can soak in this for 30 min. It will help speed up ur recovery. Trust me! It's working!!! When you dry yourself, use a blow dryer on a cool setting and dry your vagina. You'll need to give it air so your sores can dry faster. If you do have to go somewhere, wear loose pants and a pad. Your ulcers will leak and bleed. 

    Like I said. You are not ruined. You are ok. Take care of yourself and keep up hope. 

    • Traceeeee
      Traceeeee neena51943

      Posted

      I just found out wed too!! We can hold each other through, I just wish I had people in person who can relate my mom and friends are trying but they don't understand, they think I'm crazy for questioning life. I've always been such a happy carefree person and this has put me on an awful roller coaster.. My pain has went down so much since I started the medicine, I hurt a lot when I walk at work a lot, but today was noticeably different. My doctor told me this will be my worst one I am curious to see how the future ones will make me feel. & how they will be different are you on the pills? Are you going to do supression
  • Guest
    Guest Traceeeee

    Posted

    You arent alone! Everyone here has gone through similar things/pain/feelings. This forum is a great support group.

    Peeing- I figured out how to go with minimal pain, like someone else said go while in the bath (or shower) or if you are using the toilet at work or out and about, the easiest way I found is- with your toes on the ground lean your weight forward so your butt is a little above the toilet. If you go when in that position the urine falls straight down rather than running over the open sores. If you dont have access to a hair dryer I used flushable wipes rather than toilet paper cause there is less chance of it sticking to the sores and hurting like the dickens. 

    Ive read that eating pineapple can help with breakouts, something about the enzymes in it. 

    Its not true that no one wants to be with someone that has it- I didnt know I had it until I had a breakout. After it was confirmed with the doctor I had to talk to my bf cause I knew he didnt have it. All he said was I want to be with you forever so I will probably get it sometime anyways. I know that doesnt always happen but the guys are out there that are ok with it you just have to find the right one. 

    Good luck

    • Traceeeee
      Traceeeee Guest

      Posted

      Thank you for the advice! I am feeling a lot better down there than I did before.. I can actually pee now, and I hope someone will I'm just so scared to tell someone & see their reaction.. I also think coldness feels really good on it 
    • Guest
      Guest Traceeeee

      Posted

      I'm glad you're feeling better smile if cold feels good make up an ice pack with ice and water, wrap it in a thin towel and use that 15 minutes at a time. It feel amazing. 

      You asked above about recouring breakouts. Personally I've only had 3 total. The first horrible one and 2 extremely mild ones in the 10 months since then. I don't take any meds for it and haven't since the 10 days of antibiotics for the first one. Stress triggers mine so if I feel one coming on I make myself relax and it usually goes away within a day.

    • Traceeeee
      Traceeeee Guest

      Posted

      Yeah my doctor said this would be the worst! I'm gonna try the suppression and take two pills a day, and try not to stress out! Thank you for all the advice I appreciate it so much! It's nice to know I am not alone!
  • Talullah
    Talullah Traceeeee

    Posted

    Traceeeee, read through all the previous posts on this site - lots of helpful information from people as to what works for them, natural meds to take etc.

    From reading all the posts the most important thing to come out of this is how people need to protect themselves more - N.B.!!!! this is non-judgemental but tell all of your friends that unprotected sex can be devastating in so many ways, one small mistake can alter your life and there is no going back!!!! and don't sleep with anyone until you know them properly. Please don't now bombard me with outrage at what I've said - I'm also on this forum because I have herpes. It's just so sad to see so many people unhappy through unwise choices.

    There are lots of ways to deal with it and make it easier; as I said, read as many of the posts as possible and good luck for the future.

    • toni24814
      toni24814 Talullah

      Posted

      That's so true. I won't bombard you with outrage because you're speaking truth to power. I was always pretty careful with having guys use condoms, but this little gift that keeps on giving is so rampant that most people don't even know they have it. I have a son who means everything in the world to me. He currently lives abroad, his girlfriend lives in NY. They have this on again off again relationship, and I'm so scared for him. I want to caution him to be super-careful with her, because who knows what she( his gf) is doing when she's apart from him??

      I want to tell him to be careful, but I'm not ready to reveal my condition to him at this point in time. Any suggestions? Should I make up a story about a 'friend'?

    • toni24814
      toni24814 Talullah

      Posted

      That's so true. I won't bombard you with outrage because you're speaking truth to power. I was always pretty careful with having guys use condoms, but this little gift that keeps on giving is so rampant that most people don't even know they have it. I have a son who means everything in the world to me. He currently lives abroad, his girlfriend lives in NY. They have this on again off again relationship, and I'm so scared for him. I want to caution him to be super-careful with her, because who knows what she( his gf) is doing when she's apart from him??

      I want to tell him to be careful, but I'm not ready to reveal my condition to him at this point in time. Any suggestions? Should I make up a story about a 'friend'?

  • Nordic
    Nordic Traceeeee

    Posted

    I feel for you.  I felt exactly the same when I got it 23 years ago, & it has never gone away for me.  I thought my life was over.  BUT I have found over the years (during which I've had a fair few relationships) that men respect you for telling them up front, & no one has turned me away.  However one man did spitefully write & tell my mother that I had herpes after I finished with him - that was pretty awful.  I have never passed herpes on to anyone I have had a relationship with - you have to be very careful, & very open with a partner.  Remember that about 1 in 6 people have herpes (so I've been told), & people just don't talk about it because they think they are "dirty".  Find a close trusted girlfriend & talk to her about it.  Take care...
    • Traceeeee
      Traceeeee Nordic

      Posted

      I'm really happy I have got to talk to you all I feel a lot better it's given me a lot of hope. Thank you so much
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