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my partner is alcohol dependent

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sad ive been with my partner 3 yrs and the penny drop after a few mths together, he admitted he has a problem and that he would cut down. he drinks every day be it a bottle of red wine or 4 cans cider!! i cannot fault him in any other way but saddens me that he cant cut down or even give up the drink. to put my mind at rest he went for a blood test which results came back fine?? norma?? can this be true of a man who has drank alcohol every day since being with him. im very worried/ and the times he has tried not to have a evening drink he became anxious, shakin, pacing the floor?? (not normal) and then went to get himself some alcohol to take those feelings away. Its tearing me apart inside and every time i discuss the issue its always the same answer. il cut down that just hasnt happened yet.

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  • Guest
    Guest

    Posted

    My partner of 16 years is an alcoholic and although he now admits this, he just cannot stop himself from drinking. It has affected our relationship from the day we met but I kept thinking he would change. We now have 3 children and it's even worse as they see it as well. I don't think he has the will power to stop and I love him and don't want to leave and break up the family but I just don't know what to do anymore. In every other way he's a great dad and husband, if only he could control his drinking.
  • Tessa
    Tessa

    Posted

    Hello to you both,

    Would neither of the men consider contacting the AA or visiting their GP and explaining the problem. They would be able to get the help they need, but of course it is down to them to admit that they have a problem and they have to want help in stopping.

    I know how this can affect family life and the worry it causes.

    Maybe you would get some advice for youselves by contacting the AA.

    I hope they see sense soon and go for some help.

    Best wishes

    Tessa

  • Guest
    Guest

    Posted

    Hi all

    well i have been married to an alcoholic for 21 years. He stopped for a 5 year period and it was great. he has been drinking again for a year and i have had enough. Dont hang around waiting for him to change. he wont. Alcoholics are selfish. Thats part of it. I have kids a house etc too. Dont wake up in 20 years time and feel like me and yes i do love him but is that enough?

    he used to be a great dad and husband but now my kids have no respect for him. I should have walked away years ago.

  • dancingdeb
    dancingdeb

    Posted

    Hi PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE get them to the doctors and keep going back until its taken seriously.

    my husband was an alcoholic for most of our marriage ( 17 yrs) he sadly committed suicide because of it 4 yrs ago, i have three children.

    I finally got to the end of my tether and asked him to move out, which he did for 9 months and ageed to go to the doctors, they gave him medication but told him not to drink alcohol for 24 hrs before taking it!!! I was under the impression he was taking it but he did not because he could not get through the first 24 hrs without alcohol, when i got suspisious i counted the tablets and they had not been touched.He never went back to the doctors and i did not push it.

    Also get in touch with AA ( on your own if you have to,you have the right and the need for the support) as they give advice to family as well as the alcoholic.Good luck Deb

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