My Partner is having a bad bout of depression and anxiety

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My partner and I have been together for 5 1/2 years and got engaged last August. We are both extremely close and have had a great relationship the entire time outside of a few small issues but we worked them out.

My partner has a lot of family drama. His mother has depression/anxiety and is bipolar and very controlling of my partner, emotionally a lot. A couple years ago his mother and father separated and a bit after that he had a depression/anxiety episode where he became distant stopped saying he loved me and all. This went on for about a 1 1/2 weeks then he got over it and said it was his depression/anxiety causing him to feel that way because of his family. His mom has done a lot of crazy stuff, attempted suicide, drank and drive, got arrested, etc. Also, last summer his mom wanted my partner to pay for her lawyer and he didn't and she told him "Your dead to me." Fast forward a couple weeks ago, my partner talked to his mom on the phone and she went crazy about his father wanting to finalize their divorce. He was also in a very emotionally and little bit physically abusive relationship before me.

After my partner talked to his mother he became distant again and few days later he broke up with me and said he didn't have the same feelings for me any more and wasn't in love with me. He also said he didn't want to lose me. He gave me 0 signs before he talked to his mother that he was even the slightest bit out of love with me. We talked a couple days after that and he made me feel a bit better about things and said it was mainly his mother which triggered it. He said he is not who he wants to be. He has a lot of things to work out with his family and put his foot down on several things. We both said we hoped we can try again. He has been on generic zoloft for a few years and I am thinking he may need to switch his medicine. He is going to go see his primary care next week to get a referral to a therapist. I have not talked to him really since April 5 and apparently he has unfollowed me on Facebook because he no longer likes or is interested in anything I am whereas before almost instantly he would like or become interested in my posts. I'm just so very baffled because it's like my best friend and soulmate became a complete and total stranger overnight. I believe though deep down he is still in love with me and it's just his depression/anxiety and issues with his family that has taken control of him right now.

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    hi adam, you poor bugger! i hope your partner gets the help and comes back to you. never say never! it's obvious your partner is struggling. it's amazing how many people don't get on with family members they can cause so many problems! let them come back to you. if they have had family problems then that will explain a lot. it sounds like this relationship is strained at the moment, keep reminding your partner where you are.good luck. x

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      Thank you Sam! I hope so, I feel like deep down he still loves me and he just needs to confront his family issues and I am sure that will help significantly. The hardest thing for me right now is not hearing/seeing him. Before this we saw each other at least 4-5 days a week. As well as the "unknowns" that always accompany these type of situations.

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