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My wife has clinical depression and taking fluoexitine 20mg.

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leigh30362
leigh30362

Long story short I am the cause. Over a year ago I for some unknow reason had a one night stand and was caught. We got through that relatively quickly and moved forward. We rarely argued but on 2 occasions I said called her some really nasty names. 6 weeks ago She had a breakdown caused by the infidelity and the name calling. she started on Fluoexitine 20mg and therapy. I also started therapy and the dr put me on citalopram 20mg because I want to work through my issues and be a better husband and father. We have been together 13 yrs I cannot imagine a world without her. I am hoping that when she comes through this and gets her head straight that we can  work through it. I am willing to try anything she asks. She is on week 5 of the fluoexitine now and starting to see small improvements but not many. I work away 4 weeks at a time. Can anyone tell me if i should see a big improvement when I get home? She will be half way through her 6th week when I get back.

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  • HopeNFaith
    HopeNFaith leigh30362

    Posted

    Hi Leigh,

    I'm glad you both are working through this. Please do continue to see the GP and your wife as well. I can see that you regret the things that have happened and want to support your wife. The best thing is for you to be there for her as much as posible. Tell her positive things to make her feel that positivity. I would suggest councelling as a couple as well. The GP and a lot of information forums usually say it takes 6-8 weeks for the meds to truly work properly. I have read that by week 12 people really start to feel like theirselves. You need to get her to open up to you. Ive been on Fluoxetine in the past and due to hard times have come back on it but I know it does work. If time passes and you both still do not feel yourselves. Go back to the GP, there are so many different meds and techniques, I'm sure you both can work through it. God bless

    • leigh30362
      leigh30362 HopeNFaith

      Posted

      She has been very open with me and has the mindset that she won't make any decisions on us until her head is right. That's a good thing I guess. I tried to be supportive but my mental state wasn't there until today. I would end up freaking out and upsetting her more. Today though I had a good day. Week 4 on citalopram my head feels a 1000x better and I have had a good chat with her to let her know how much support I want to give.

  • MsMcbeth
    MsMcbeth leigh30362

    Posted

    Hi Leigh,

    I think you should be able to see an improvement in your wife's mental state when you get back, especially if it's her first time taking Fluoxetine. I've been on it for 8 weeks now and I can say I feel A LOT better than I did 2 months ago. I'm calmer and more positive about life. I am on a higher dosage though. I hear it works faster the first time you take it. Best of luck.

    • leigh30362
      leigh30362 MsMcbeth

      Posted

      Thanks I hope so. I think i will be able to be alot more supportive this break home. I was a mess when she first told me. Overseas for work and had the phone call, so i rushed home and when I was around she was worse. I didnt handle it well at all. Now though I see this isnt her its the sickness and I will work towards helping and supporting her recovery. Then I will work on building trust again.
  • HopeNFaith
    HopeNFaith leigh30362

    Posted

    Glad you're feeling better. I'm sure when you return home your wife will be feeling a little better too. One day at a time and I think it's good that she is not makin a decision on you both until she starts to feel better. I'm sure you both will get through this. Keep your head up.

  • KevB5
    KevB5 leigh30362

    Posted

    Good that you admitted you may have caused it's. The same happened to me with my spouse 20 years ago and it completely ripped me apart mentally. Took me years to get past. I now look at it as a learning lesson that shaped me into who I am. I again am going through it because of an accident and brain injury and my spouse started drinking again who finally stopped after 4 year's. Miserable torture but I know who she truly is and what I saw when I married 38 years ago. She has never said she caused my first mental breakdown so I salute you for doing so. Takes alot of time and support, understanding, forgiveness and compassion with both with seeing your flaws and defecits and helping one another during the tough times. Prayer's to you and I suggest you also rely on prayer.

  • katecogs
    katecogs leigh30362

    Posted

    No I doubt it.  It can take many, many months for a full recovery, not weeks. However, everyone is different - some people recover after about 6-8 weeks, but the majority of people take months.  Took me 6 months.

    xx

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