My wife is convinced I cheated on her recently, I didn't.
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She just got diagnosed with HSV-2. We've been married for 2 and a half years and I'm the only one she's ever had sex with. I've had multiple partners before meeting her and was tested when with the person prior and negative. When she found out that she has HSV-2, it made sense that I must have been the one to give it to her. I got tested (blood test) and it came back negative. I don't believe for a second that she's cheated on me but why would my test come back negative? She thinks it has to be because I've just recently cheated on her and am asymptomatic so it won't show up in my blood for another 12-16 weeks. Based on what she's researched and heard from several doctors, she's convinced I cheated. But I haven't!!! I'm thinking i do have herpes, that i got a false negative and we've both had it for some time now and shes just now having her first outbreak. Shes also convinced her symptoms must be recent and new. Any explanations? There's no point in me lying in an anonymous forum. If I had cheated, yeah, everything she's saying would make sense. She wants me to continue getting tested till I show positive.
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So, she's definitely positive and you did the correct blood test and are apparently negative... In an attempt to settle disputes, you can repeat the IgG test at 3 months, or even do the more expensive/definitive UoW western blot at 3 months, and if you're still negative, then that's all you can really do and assume, so it's back to your wife to explain how else it could be possible. If she had her first outbreak less than a month ago, she should also do the IgG test asap (the sooner, the better), as that can reveal whether it's a brand new infection or not.
Fyi, HSV2 can spread from genital to genital contact without penetration, so if not from you, either she's had sex with someone else after all (at some point in her life), or at least had genital to genital contact with someone else at some point. Other less likely causes are receiving oral sex from someone with it orally (less common, as it rarely sheds orally in *most* people), or being infected at birth (but that would have likely caused serious illness).