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Need help, PLEASE!

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kdw12
kdw12

I am sorry I just posted a couple days ago. I am so desperate and literally feeling so alone. I am suffering EXTREMELY bad with perimenopause. It is the depression and anxiety that I can not cope with. I had a couple friends and used to be stable mentally and physically. now I get maybe a couple wks where I feel normal then it is debilitating after that. I cant work because of how bad my mental state is. I have no friends. I have a supportive husband and my older kids are part of my life. I guess what I'm trying to ask is if anyone is affected this bad. how do you cope, what do you do with your days, what has helped? I would never harm myself but I absolutely hate how I feel and feel like there is no end in sight. oh and just started a period after not having one for almost 3mths

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  • bev27429
    bev27429 kdw12

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    I know that it is extremely difficult and painful, but it is so important to keep going, no matter how awful. I have continued to work (I run my own business), even though it has been sooo hard to do this! I feel that the sense of purpose that I get and the distraction has helped me to cope. If I stayed at home, I would then have 100% of my focus on my symptoms. I have a list of tasks on my Google calendar, and I force myself to complete the list every day, no matter how horrendous I feel. Then, at the end of the day, even if I still feel horrible, I can have a sense of pride in my strength and what I was able to accomplish under incredibly challenging circumstances. When it is bad, I literally go breath to breath, and I try to focus on my body, rather than my mind. It is important to, in some way, accept what is happening to you, rather than resisting it. That doesn't mean that you like it, but that you recognize that these feelings are there. Try to watch them as a means to creating some level of distance between you and your feelings. Also, remind yourself that this is a temporary state. The menopausal transition will end, and you will come out the other side stronger than ever!

    Big hugs,

    Bev xo

  • bev27429
    bev27429 kdw12

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    Also, never apologize for posting! This is where women come to get support and understanding. If you need help, just post. Everyone here understands:)

  • Teadra
    Teadra kdw12

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    Yes! I OVERstand!!! It is very scary, frustrating and exhausting!! i too have a slew of symptoms that come and go and are more aggressive at times than others and my mental state is the same way. Sometimes i get random weird thoughts like im loosing my mind which then of course triggers my anxiety! i find trying to take my mind off it as much as i possibly can helps but that is not easy to do when you are experiencing the symptoms! what was posted earlier is very good advice! we will

    overcome this!!

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