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Needing some hope

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lj73
lj73

I had my first outbreak 3 weeks ago now. I have never felt so poorly in my life.. My body is still recovering slowly and I'm beginning to feel the aches and itchy, tingling feeling coming back down below. I haven't stopped taking my meds since day one for the the fear of the blisters returning. Is it possible for it to return once again this quickly? My doctor says there is no drugs to prevent further outbreaks  to use on a daily basis. Only meds to use when an out break is coming on. I'm so confused as it seems that in the UK they will not prescribe a daily med to help reduce further outbreaks.. My life is one big mess and all I want is happiness. Not this shameful and painful virus..  Please help 

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  • Loulou34
    Loulou34 lj73

    Posted

    Lizzie, as most of us when we found out we were HSV+, you seem to need to educate yourself about herpes and go through the acceptance process. Don't dispair, knowledge will enlight and set you free.

    Have a look at this post for some positive thinking about herpes: https://patient.info/forums/discuss/there-is-hope-be-positive--270704

    Being depressed is also affecting negatively your immune system which is your best ally against further outbreak, probably more than daily drugs. So do something about that. Look at your diet (favor L-lysine over arginine, favor food that support the immune system - vitamin C, E, Zinc...), do meditation (which has been proven to affect positively immunity) and generally stop helping the virus by giving it too much importance in your life.

    In the end, you'll realise that herpes is nothing more than an annoying infection. Your (sex) life isn't over.

    It has only been 3 weeks, don't worry, you'll get there smile

    PS: I would share some links with you but they have been removed from previous posts by the Mod so PM if you're interested.

    • lj73
      lj73 Loulou34

      Posted

      Thanks so much for taking the time to reply. Have spoken to my doctor today and feel a little more positve.. I know I have to deal with it and exept my condition in the best way I can and be strong for my children's sake. I'm so paranoid that every little twinge down below is it coming back but hopefully will learn to recognise when it's coming in now. I've just gone through a nasty divorce after being stuck in an abusive marriage for ten years and starting to get my life back on track for me and me beautiful children, then boom, this happens.. Why me? but  I'm going to take your advise and do my research, keep fit and eat as healthy as I can and try and keep my head in a good place.. Thank you for being so kind. It really does help to know that your not the only one going through it 😊x
    • sofaboy15
      sofaboy15 lj73

      Posted

      Lizzie I've recently been through a similar spell of feeling down about it, but with advice on here, from my doctor and from a friend who also has GH, I've started to feel much more positive...

      1. The outbreaks get less severe and less frequent - mine are only mild itching now

      2. It's only a skin condition (the same as cold sores) and it's not life threatening or fertility threatening

      3. If you're sensible an look after yourself, you can limit the outbreaks and also make the chance of transmission to a partner very low

      Remind yourself of all these things and stay positive!

    • lj73
      lj73 sofaboy15

      Posted

      Hi sofaboy15

      Thanks for the positive feedback. Really does help reading other peoples advise and reading what others are going through too. I'm contemplating finishing the relationship that I'm in at the moment for other reasons. I don't know if he gave this to me ( he says he's never had it) but I've only known him three months and who knows. I'm also frightened I'm going to pass it on to him which would devestate me and then there's the fear of being alone for ever more due to fact I don't want to or know how to share this embarrassing secret with others.Also I'm not sure wether to come off the meds I was given in the beginning to see if I have an outbreak or to continue to take them ( without my docs advice) because I'm still in an intimate relationship. I feel a little itchy snd tingly sometimes and don't know if that's a syptoms of it coming back or not. God I'm so confused. Don't know what's up or down at the moment but thanks for your response all the same

      😊

    • sofaboy15
      sofaboy15 lj73

      Posted

      The key phrase I'm going to pick up on here is "embarrassing secret". It shouldn't be embarrassing at all, like I said before it's just a skin condition and a lot of people have it. Many have it without realising it, so it's really not that harmful as a condition. It will take time for you to come to terms with it, but once you have, it's very important to not be embarrassed by it. My friend who also has GH, and has given me lots of advice, has had it for over 10 years and in that time he's had several relationships, all of which he told them about it right at the beginning and they accepted it and stayed with him. smile
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