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mc1975
mc1975

Hello guy's... This is going to be my first post...

I was diagnosed with genital herpes 10 years ago when my partner decided to cheat on me with a very promiscuous girl... After I found out about it I got scare went to the doctor and hello herpes 😔

My life has change so much!!! We are not longer together he's happily married and I'm still single. I feel like nobody wants a woman who has herpes😓 I tried to end my life many times and hate it my self for having this.

But I'm confused!!! In 2013 I had a test saying I was negative, no STD found in my body. Now I went to a new OBYG Dr and she say's that the test can be wrong because once you had herpes is never going away, you will have this for life. So she decided to test me again... Guess what? Results came out negative. Now my question is, is this ever happens to one of y'all? I'm paranoid because I meet this new person who by the way I really like and when I told him what the doctor said he got mad at me for not telling him I was positive once. He basically stop talking to me and was very upset. Then when I told him about the negative results he's looking for me and wanted to date me again... I'm scare that the virus come back and he gets it. If he was upset just because I didn't tell him since day one imagine what he would do if he gets the virus??? I'm confuse!!! Is there's anybody out there that went through this negative and positive results?

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  • feelbroken
    feelbroken mc1975

    Posted

    Post your test results and cover personal info ..

    Have you never had an outbreak before?

    • feelbroken
      feelbroken mc1975

      Posted

      OK... Doesn't sound like you were put in fie the right teats then. Were you first diagnosed w hsv 1 or 2 down there?

      You can't tell him your tests are negative whether it came back negative or not, because you know you have it and obviously the tests had a false negative, which can happen in about 20% of the tests.

      I wouldn't even waist my time on him

    • mc1975
      mc1975 feelbroken

      Posted

      HSV 2 10 year's ago... I had 1 positive test and 2 negative one's that's why I'm confused!! I'm starting to think is not even possible and just staying by my self would solve the problem and that way I don't get hurt and I don't have to go through the whole process of telling people about this thing that has mess up my life. I hate this!!! 😔
  • paul92131
    paul92131 mc1975

    Posted

    I would say it is not worth staying with this man by the sounds of his reaction. He doesn't sound like someone that will understand any part of what we are going through.
    • mc1975
      mc1975 paul92131

      Posted

      I'm starting to think the same Paul... If he wasn't there for me when I need it him, why should I stay now...
  • feelbroken
    feelbroken mc1975

    Posted

    How long have you known him? Are you really getting to know an individual before disclosing and finding out if THEY are even worthy of your love?
    • mc1975
      mc1975 feelbroken

      Posted

      We been dating for a couple of month's...

      I'm starting to think that is better if I stay by my self... I'm tired of getting hurt and rejected because of this.

    • feelbroken
      feelbroken mc1975

      Posted

      I'm sorry.... :-(

      Check out this site called H Opportunity. It has pamphlets you can download for disclosure and has transmission rates on there based on types of protection used if you had sex 2-3xs a week for a yr. It's all nicely put together and has videos to help you w disclosure.

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