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NuMe
NuMe

I had a bunch of blisters in between my buttocks. At first I thought it was a bad reaction to shaving. But as time went on the blisters were spreading and weren't getting better. I came to this forum and read atleast 10 in posts before coming to the conclusion that this was probably herpes. I went to the doctor yesterday. He took one look and told me it was genital herpes. He took a culture and I did a blood test so I suppose I'm just waiting for confirmation.

I don't know how to feel. At first I was beyond heated with the man that gave it to me. Now I've stepped back and taken responsibility for my part in what happened. When you agree to unprotected sex anything can happen. Some may see that as me being harsh on myself but I just think it's realistic. We've been dealing with each other for some months. Why now? Why me? I'm young. No kids. How will I lead a normal life? I have so many questions.

How are your sex lives? What can you do? What can't you do? What happens if you don't take the meds? (Doctor told me I'd have to take one a day forever after the initial two a day for the outbreak.) Will I breakout anywhere besides my genital area? Is there any other way I can spread it? Ugh. This sucks.

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  • NuMe
    NuMe

    Posted

    And does anyone go through waves of emotion? One second I'm okay..the next I'm crying..the next I'm angry..the next I'm hopeful. It's just so much.
    • jessb1738
      jessb1738 NuMe

      Posted

      I feel exactly the same! Some days I'm so positive and say I'm not gonna let this define me as a person etc other days I'm so negative and wonder how my life will ever be back to normal and worry free again 😭
  • sabrina2166
    sabrina2166 NuMe

    Posted

    I keep asking myself how im gonna be able to date again.. I keep blaming myself day by day for what happened but its my fault also..

    I'm 21 with no kids.. Every time I think about giving someone a try I distance myself because I remember that I have this disease.

    Every time I'm alone I cry. I cry till there's no more tears left.. But I pray a lot as well

    • NuMe
      NuMe sabrina2166

      Posted

      It's so sad. I have a baby shower to go to soon and I was telling my mom I want to look good. But for what? I feel handicapped.
    • sabrina2166
      sabrina2166 NuMe

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      I remember how I was before I did the test and got my results.. From the day I heard that I was to do a blood and urine test to see if I have the infection and I started researching about it I began hating myself,, I began crying and wanted to kill myself, I distant myself from the whole world.. I didn't eat sleep or drink.. I was introduced to a female who spoke to me and told me that I need to love myself no matter what because there's a powerful God.. Day by day I tried my best to put myself together so that I don't look as how I feel.. The truth is all u need is that one person who u can call a friend who u can trust to talk to when u feel away. n that friend doesn't have to av the infection... Put on ur clothes look at yourself in the mirror and say to yourself, ' I am beautiful. I am a strong young lady no matter what life throws at me'. Hun u have to be in control.. Its gonna take time but jus pray.. I'm still trying my best to be strong about all that is happening.. U r still u.. Don't let an infection define who u r
    • NuMe
      NuMe sabrina2166

      Posted

      Thank you so much for that. I believe everything happens for a reason. I know I will have my moments but I do want to take this lesson learned and not give it the power to destroy me. Stay strong! ♥️
    • jessb1738
      jessb1738 sabrina2166

      Posted

      Honestly couldn't agree more! I feel the same some days I feel worthless other days I put it to the back of my mind and try not to think about it... But we have to remember it's just a virus although it is for life the right person will accept you and love you no matter what! A minor skin virus will NOT put them off! Anyone else that can't accept it is extremely shallow and you are much better off without them anyway! Having herpes will also help you to pick out more suitable future partners which is a good thing you are sure to find out who's around for one thing and who's not! Positive thoughts ❤️😊
    • NuMe
      NuMe jessb1738

      Posted

      I thought about that too! It helps filter out the bs guys. My ex and I had spoken about getting back together before this happened. When I told him about the GH he called me damaged goods. I cried but then I got over it. If he can't accept me as is then he's not worth the tears or the time. Besides..he's an ex for a reason right? Thank you for the positivity 😊
  • sarar101
    sarar101 NuMe

    Posted

    Hi NuMe, if it makes you feel any better, I got herpes in my sixties from my ex-partner who is few yrs older than me!!  One would have thought an older person like him would not want to give this nasty virus to his partner, He definitely should have told me about it, so now you know how I feel.  I have been suffering from this virus since mid January, it just doesn't go away, I am on medication all the time.  I get terrible pelvis/abdominal pain, vulva pain and headaches every single day.  My body still hasn't made herpes antibodies to fight the virus so I have to rely on tablets every single day and still suffer the pain and discomfort.  It is so frustrating and I can't even wear undies sometimes.  Anyway, take it easy and stay away from chocolates, wheat products and caffeine as much as you can.  Hope you feel better soon.  I take Valtrex or Vaclovir every single day, what tablets are you taking?

    Well take care

    sarah21899

     

    • NuMe
      NuMe sarar101

      Posted

      I'm in my 20's and I got it from a man much older than me. That caught me by surprise. I too thought because he was older I didn't have to worry as much. You know I asked the right questions when we first started dating. I even examined his penis when we first had sex because I didn't want to end up in any situation like this. After a while you stop checking and idk I guess this is where you end up. I'm on my third day of meds and I'm still in pain. I just can't wait for this part to be over. I'm saddened to hear that you're still in pain since January. That's really heartbreaking. Wishing you the best!
    • sarar101
      sarar101 NuMe

      Posted

      Thanks NuMe, can you please tell me what tablets are you taking, you mentioned you only take 1 tablet a day.  I take Valtrex or Vavlovir, but I have to take 2 tabs a day, if I take any less than this I come out with breakouts all the time, my symptoms doesn't go away at all, I have got it really bad, I caught it mid November so it's nearly 12 months and I still dont have the antibodies to fight it.  I have headache, abdo pain and vulva pain every single day, it's so frustrating, I want to see a specialist but I don't think there are any.  Any help would be appreciated, is there anyone else who is so sick with GH?

       

    • NuMe
      NuMe sarar101

      Posted

      I am taking Valacyclovir. I'm currently taking two a day for ten days then I suppose for the rest of my existence I'm suppose to take one. If you can't find a specialist I would go back to my gyno. You are suffering. So sorry to hear.
    • sarar101
      sarar101 NuMe

      Posted

      Thanks NuMe, I have been taking Valtrex and Vaclovir for over 3 months continously but my symptoms/outbreaks doesn't go away.  I get bad headaches, abdo pain and vulva pain every single day, not to mention the outbreaks. I will ask doctors for prescription of Valacyclovir, hopefully it will help,  My first ob started in January and my body still hasnt made the antibodies to fight the virus maybe that's why I keep getting it all the time since January and the meds don't help either.

      Anyway, good luck with your results.  Take care. Talk soon.

  • FelizCastus
    FelizCastus NuMe

    Posted

    Hey again, NuMe, I just found and read your thread and you sound like you have a very clear, pragmatic head on your shoulders, which will serve to see you through this, regardless of your test results smile although for your sake I hope it's magically not GH, or if so, HSV-1 (unlike me, sigh).

    The waves of different emotions are normal, as are the many questions and concerns. I was and still am the same way, having only caught this blasted thing myself just two weeks ago, but there's no point in adding to the stress and drama already caused by a GH first outbreak and diagnosis, so I have switched to rational, life-goes-on mode, lol. It really does help and you sound similar, so I know you'll manage!

    Anyway, wishing you all the best!! smile

    • NuMe
      NuMe FelizCastus

      Posted

      Thanks so much 😀 !! & yes I'm hoping it's HSV-1. Lol imagine hoping for that. But I know whatever it is I'll be fine. And I did start taking a don't stress nonsense approach to things. More stress causes a worse outbreak. I'm healing up pretty nicely though. Just a little discomfort right now. For me that's what caused alot of anger..the pain 😩 Thanks lots!
    • FelizCastus
      FelizCastus NuMe

      Posted

      Thinking of you! Did you receive your confirmation yet? Waiting is the worst part...and, well, the diagnosis, if it's not what you're hoping to hear!

      If it is GH, there are pros and cons associated with both types, although from a disclosure perspective, I personally think it's easier to deal with HSV-1, so I was hoping/praying for the same, lol, but alas!

    • NuMe
      NuMe FelizCastus

      Posted

      No I'm still waiting 😩😩 it's the worst part. Like waiting for a grade on a test lol! But thanks for thinking of me. When I get the results I'll post em. Hoping for the best!!
    • FelizCastus
      FelizCastus NuMe

      Posted

      My local STD clinic provides the option of receiving your test results by phone or email. I always opt for email, as I like to have the actual lab report, but opening the clinic's emails - especially when I have valid fears, like this time around - is always the scariest thing, lol. Plus the waiting. I know exactly how you feel! Hoping for the best for you, too!!
    • FelizCastus
      FelizCastus NuMe

      Posted

      Out of interest, what did the guy who likely gave it to you have to say about all of this? Is he getting tested, too?
    • NuMe
      NuMe FelizCastus

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      Honestly he was acting suspicious. I have a feeling that he knew. If I told you I had herpes wouldn't you run to go get tested? I would. He waited a few days. And was saying he never had an outbreak blah blah. We ended up breaking up. His doctor basically tried to call me a hoe and he let him. So that was the final straw for me! There's no way around it though I know he gave it to me.
    • FelizCastus
      FelizCastus NuMe

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      Heh, my guy friend claims he had no idea, never had any symptoms, feels bad/depressed, etc. He said he was going to get tested the other day, but let's see if he actually did, and if so, what his results show. I knew it had to be him, so I intentionally got an IgG test one week after exposure before any antibodies could be detected as proof. Sure enough, I had none. No prior HSV-1 or 2. He can't deny that at least!
    • FelizCastus
      FelizCastus NuMe

      Posted

      Gosh, has the clinic still not gotten back to you? Hopefully they misdiagnosed you with GH!
    • NuMe
      NuMe FelizCastus

      Posted

      They sure haven't! I'll have to send a msg to the doctor on Monday because I'm getting very ANNOYED. It would be so nice if I didn't lol. And it's a private doctor. I don't know why they are being so slow. Could have a damn anxiety attack waiting!
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