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Hi, I am new and I just joined this forum in order to get some perspective, I guess. I am 44 years old and in January this year, after some tests, I've been diagnosed with perimenopause. I still get my periods, but my cycles are all over the place. I have no one to talk to, because I find it uncomfortable burdening my friends with this stuff, as they are all much younger than me, and won’t be able to relate and my husband, as wonderful as he is, is still a man, that definitely can't relate. I've read a lot of different topics on this forum, from women who are going through the same thing, but one symptom hasn't been raised and that's depression. I feel like I am loosing myself in the process, I get very depressed, although by nature, I am a positive and outgoing person, who loves life. I can cry for days with no reason, I don't want to be around anyone, I feel like I am falling into a dark hole of depression and getting farther away from everyone and everything in this world. It's the only way I can describe this. I constantly have back pains, leg pains, joint pains, leg cramps. I am endlessly tired and lazy, I don't want to do anything. I've turned into a hypochondriac and constantly think that there's something wrong with my health. I can't take hormonal substitutes, because of bad cancer history in my family, so I try all these different natural supplements, but it's like playing a lottery, so far, I've tried 3 different kinds and nothing really works. Please, if you are battling the same thing, let me know, maybe we can help each other. I am at my wits end and my husband recommended me writing on this forum to ladies that are going through the same thing.
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Guest marina75664
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Hello, right there with you and others. My symptoms started last year at 40...i had just stopped long term birth control use. I too had extensive testing done, seversl ER visits, etc. Doctors brushed off when I suggested peri because I’m “too young”...🙄. I will be 41 soon, so e of my symptoms have subsided for now. My worst the last few months is fatigue, weakness, dizziness, head pressure. I finally succumbed to the anxiety and mild depression. Tried BCP pills again, made things worse. I am taking a low dose AD now, never took them in my life. They are helping me a bit, I still get exhausted and do not plan ahead as I might still have a bad day. Hang in there, you sre not crazy and definitely not alone!
lori93950 Guest
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Took me ages to ‘get right’ but then i leveled out and managed to live with the phobias anxiety . Now I wish I’d sorted my hormones out at 40 so this is your chance to do so ! When things change again around 50 you won’t be in such shock . So please get this sorted now and you won’t have the crash that most women on here are experiencing .
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Guest lori93950
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THanks Lori! I agree... I asked my obgyn about starting HRT, she said not until menopause and had me go back on BCP, then the mini pill, both caused me other issues, so i stopped them. which is stupid because I read 2 books that said peri is tbe best time for HRT as far as risk, etc. That dr left anyways, so I need to get another obgyn for a second opinion. For now, my primary has me on a low dose AD to help with the anxiety. It is helping me get out of bed and function for now, but surely not going to fix my hormones. 😊
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Actually, depending on the AD, it could help with some of the hormones that start messing with ya. If it's an SSRI it will help increase levels of serotonin which I think decrease during peri. I have a friend who was on SSRI for anxiety (lifelong) and she just sailed right through menopause without one symptom!
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Keep us updated as to how you are feeling. I've always been afraid to try AD's, but might be worth a shot. Any funky side effects? Or how would you know since perimeno has enough! haha
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It’s worth a shot...They sat in my drawer for months before I started them. I hate taking anything and am very med sensitive. The first week I had NO appetite and terrible nausea everyday. I have already lost weight the past year and I am thin. I had to force myself to eat and drank nutrition shakes for calories. Second week horrible, I was dizzy,exhausted, spacey, anxiety through the roof especially in the morning...I was ready to give up. Of course, that was my period week anyways, which heightens things too. Third week, feeling better.
Like you said, since I have so many symptoms anyways ,either way I would feel like crap...honestly, the AD didn’t make anything worse. I am supposed to increase the dose, but haven’t yet...I heard the side effects can start up again! (My anxiety still). If you take them, start when you have no obligations, maybe the weekend. They can take up to 2 months to really work. I’ll stick it out for now. Everybody’s different though! 😀
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Guest lori93950
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I hope you have success with the patch... please keep us updated! I am skinny and drawn out looking too...however, according to my labs, I am the healthiest woman on earth. 😀.
lori93950 Guest
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Yes praying this works as my life with the fatigue has become very small.
I have noticed the dizziness has gone thank God but the tiredness is driving me crazy feels like a prison sentence . Glad your tests came back all clear but doesn’t help when you still feel awful. If I could stomach the antidepressants would def take them but they have so many bad side affects and getting off them is a beast so.... if your hormones get balanced you shouldn’t need them.
Guest lori93950
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People have no idea when you’re so tired that all the sleep in the world doesn’t help.
Fingers crossed and I hope you get a little better each day. Take good care!
lori93950 Guest
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I took sertraline for 2 weeks and it was awful palms wringing wet running to bathroom . I was just so desperate when my hormones crashed . Then 10 years ago tried lexapro for 3 days with that one I was vomiting water!
Shana_rifka marina75664
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A good antidepressant should help. I was so sick of feeling bad. I do take Bioidentical Hormones be Replacement cream but also take a couple antidepressants and they work wonderfully. talk to your doc bout it and start feeling good.
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