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juliesutton
juliesutton

Hi ladies,

How does a person know when they are out of premenopause, going into menopause.

I seriously can't remember the last time I have had a period. Needless to say these past few day's have been hell. Just hell. sad

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  • debbie75601
    debbie75601 juliesutton

    Posted

    I just had my hormones tested by my gyno, and she stated I was in menopause. Don't know if I believe this, as I have heard it can take several tests before they can tell. I'm probably going to go to a menopause specialist to confirm. I feel for you, this stuff stinks!
    • juliesutton
      juliesutton debbie75601

      Posted

      I suppose I better make an appointment. .but the thing is that my doctor really don't give a rats but about all this pre and menopause. I feel like I'm wasting my money. And finding another doctor well that's a hard one here. But thank you. I didn't even think about it. Lol oh I just want my brain back. And to have some relief of it all. Thank you for getting back to me. Hope you feel better soon to

    • debbie75601
      debbie75601 juliesutton

      Posted

      I know how you feel! I try to get some help from several different doctors regarding menopause, and they all just clam up! One even said there is nothing that can be done about it, just have to live with it. Have to try and find someone schooled in menopause, I guess. There has to be an answer to this craziness! 
    • juliesutton
      juliesutton debbie75601

      Posted

      Oh my gosh isn't it crazy how some doctors just have no idea. They say well, sucks to be you and just deal with it. It's absolutely dreadful. Why is it that the woman has the issues and not the men. Rediculous
    • debbie75601
      debbie75601 juliesutton

      Posted

      I haven't really found one who is caring or compassionate when it comes to menopause. Still searching. I say if men had these issues, there would have already been a cure, or at least a wonder drug, to help with menopause! Thinks of going to a menopause specialist, and going on bhrts
    • Zigangie
      Zigangie debbie75601

      Posted

      If men our age complained of lack of libido they would be given tests and testosterone very quickly and that is just one symptom!

      debbie, if you are in the UK you can get bio identical HRT on the NHS.

      The one I'm on oestrogel and Utrogestan are recommended by one of this countries top meno experts. If I mention the products and his name together I get moderated!

      After much research when I found that out I took a big breath went to see my own GP and asked for the HRT by name telling her about my research. She had heard of the expert, agreed, seemed a bit impressed that I had done some 'homework' knew who I was talking about and said of the HRT 'oh that's much more natural' (she had offered premarin, horse urine previously)

      PM me if you want his name as he has quite a bit of very interesting menopause info online.

    • juliesutton
      juliesutton debbie75601

      Posted

      Hahahahaha, yeah you're probably right on that one, men are big babies. And as for finding a doctor with even remotely a little bit of sympathy, nope notta, I know I am throwing my money away.

      I wonder if having a full Hysterectomy Would just end all.this BS.

    • Zigangie
      Zigangie elaine33371

      Posted

      I'm not sure Elaine,

      I did have a cervical cancer scare a few years ago cn11 I refused surgery and further exploration as I felt better in myself than six months before they found it.

      I am also a smoker and they don't normally give it to you if you smoke.

      I'm not too sure if cervical cancer is an estrogen loving cancer, I always see the same doctor so she is aware of my history.

  • Zigangie
    Zigangie juliesutton

    Posted

    Hi Julie,

    I was a bit like you and luckily my husband could remember my lady one was just after my 51st birthday.

    I was obviously aware that it had been some time.

    In that year the symptoms that were most noticeable were instead of being hot sometimes I was hot most of the time. I had more palpitations and they lasted longer.

    I wanted to eat sweets chocolate and cakes all the time.

    My libido went from 'if you really have to' to 'just leave me alone' almost repulsed by the whole idea of it. Down below so very dry and itchy uncomfortable and sometimes painful. No more wearing jeans. A lot of odd aches and pains.

    My memory had started playing up in early peri, forgetting words and keep saying um um while I tried to remember what I was saying.

    This became scary where if I forgot what I was saying I would grope around and my brain was completely empty. I would ask someone can you pass me the after a really long pause all my head could muster would be the colour of the item required. So a fork was a silver thing and Brussels sprouts green things (peas! My daughter filled in for me) yeah but bigger green things lol.

    HRT has helped a lot with it all. The awful cooking inside and libido which were my main reasons for trying it. But I love having my brain back and I would take it just for that reason. I think I found the memory stuff so embarrassing and scary too

    • juliesutton
      juliesutton Zigangie

      Posted

      Hi zigangie,

      Boy I have everthing you have mentioned. And still am. And I say um.um um all the time, even right in the middle of having a conversation. Man talk about embarrassed.

      My husband usually does k ow when my last period was to but not this one time

      I usually write it down, but gee I forgot. Lol

      I do appreciate your input, eases the mind a bit. It's just been an awful few day's. Maybe tomorrow will be a better day for us all

      Well off to bed to sleep some more. Have a great day

  • unico31026
    unico31026 juliesutton

    Posted

    I don't know when this horrible journey will be over! I am 40 and just realized I was in Peri when I had a period that started Jan 30 and ended 23 days later! The aches ,pains ,migraine ,lack of energy has a big toll on me but calling me children hey or boy or girl because I can't think of their names at the time is horrible! I was hoping not to see mother nature anytime soon but she is back as of 2 days ago and I'm praying that she doesn't stay 23 days again . I don't want to go on birth control or hrt but we'll see. I hope all of you ladies find relief soon.
    • juliesutton
      juliesutton unico31026

      Posted

      Oh what I would give to have a good day or 2

      This journey needs to come to an end

      I don't even know I am.y skin is aging rapidly, and I have tried everything, talk about a disgrace for a women 48 headed towards 49. Man just not fair. And it's all due to hormones. Well here's to us women just hanging in there by a thread. Hang in there ladies. .

  • elaine33371
    elaine33371 juliesutton

    Posted

    menopause is when your periods actually stop..........and 12 months after your last period your classed as post, post is the last stage, stage 3, and can last for up to 5 years after your last period.
    • juliesutton
      juliesutton elaine33371

      Posted

      Oh thank you. And I guess I just have to wait and see what happens. I went 6 months without before, then 6 months on. Now it's whenever. But thank you for letting me know. Take care
    • elaine33371
      elaine33371 juliesutton

      Posted

      Yes you need to go a full 12 months without to say your post, if you have gone 6 months then your very close to stopping, but you know what, there is a lady on the forum who went 11 months then went back to having her periods.............just when you think your there...............arrrrgh
    • juliesutton
      juliesutton elaine33371

      Posted

      Oh lordy lordy lordy,

      Now that's not whatI wanted to hear. 11 months close and period started, oh gosh. Well I guess just keep fingers crossed. I know this is a long process of changes but I know u have been going through pre, linger than what I been told. A women knows her body better than anyone. I know it's been since I was 38. Now I'm going on 49. I gotta be close rolleyes right? . Ughhh

    • michelle50768
      michelle50768 juliesutton

      Posted

      Mines been nine years so far. Not had a period for the last five months.

      Im hoping and praying its coming to an end!!!

      God help us all x

    • Zigangie
      Zigangie juliesutton

      Posted

      So you have to start counting again? How annoying.

      Mine were not that far apart but I had a few gaps of 3 or 4 months without then another 3 or 4 with, by the time they had stopped I had given up counting.

      Luckily my husband knew and last one was just after 51st birthday.

    • elaine33371
      elaine33371 juliesutton

      Posted

      definately, i was on peri for 9 years periods stopped for over a year now being 10th year, your very close dont worry, doesnt mean this is going to be you, there are ladies on her that have had a period close to being post, but sometimes drs will say, you are still classed as post, and they put it down to the womb cleaning itself out and more often than not, its just the one when its that close to the year, but if it continues and appears to be a period to us, then take it you have been unlucky, and will have to wait until it stops again.  
    • juliesutton
      juliesutton elaine33371

      Posted

      Oh my.

      Thank God I found this chat room of you ladies. I guess waiting is just what I will ha e to do.it's been a rough couple of years for sure. Still going through the symptoms of wanting to start my period but nothing so far. Look I'm just babbling. Thank you for your input getting back to me. Have a great day

    • juliesutton
      juliesutton Zigangie

      Posted

      Oh heck no counting, I haven't had a period yet. Lol if I do have one. Then I will start counting.
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