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Not having a good day scared to be alone

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shaunie39511
shaunie39511

so I'm not having a good day my anxiety has been bad i feel all over i keep going warm I'm getting pains in my head i feel detached and short tempered

i am scared to be a line in case of am attack or something else happening so I've been staying with my mam she's started to work full days today instead if half days so I'm alone and i hate it my sister has just gone home so I'm laid in bed while my daughter has a nap I feel so tense and scared my mam won't be home till five which is only an hour and a half away yet I feel so tense and weird I never used to be like this and I just can't wait to hear her walk through the door I've been like this now for 6 month will I ever be able to be alone again and not be scared??? I can't take relying on people no more

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  • gwen1953
    gwen1953 shaunie39511

    Posted

    Dear Shaunie,

    So what created your anxiety? How did you come to be like this? Has it started since you had your daughter?  Whatever the reason you really do need to get some help from your GP. It doesn't matter if you have seen your GP before you have to seek help for your daughter's sake as much as your own.

    Hopefully you will feel more settled when your mum get's home but please,please get an appointment with your GP and talk your problems through. In order to get help you have to ask for it. Take care.

    • shaunie39511
      shaunie39511 gwen1953

      Posted

      I've had anxiety all my life but I've only started to feel scared to be alone ever since I fell pregnant six month ago, and I don't know why...I have seen him plenty of times and he's give me numbers for therapies which I've tried to see nothings helped I can't go back on my medication until I have my baby boy in October! I'm exhausted of living this way 6 month ago I was in such a good place!
  • Moo88
    Moo88 shaunie39511

    Posted

    Hi Shaunie did you feel this way after having your daughter to? I only ask because all of my anxiety started from my pregnancy and has gradually got worse that was in 2011 so its been a long time I have felt unwell. It started with me feeling jumpy during pregnancy and not wanting to be alone followed by feeling spaced out and teary after the birth. I had maybe a year where I could function ok and felt rather happy no physical symptoms and now since last Jan I have been so unwell and get panic attacks and I feel unreal and just ill inside. Everything looks bright outside and I feel dizzy and faint daily. Im 26 btw. CBT didn't help me and medication I didn't stay on it long enough because I felt panicky and unwell with side affects. Like you I feel panicked being alone and especially when I feel terrible I worry being alone with my daughter. It may be possible that your anxiety will be more manageable once your baby is born as hormones could be playing a part in how you feel. You do need support though. Have you tried any local organisations like mind or rethink? If you need to talk feel free to pm me x
    • shaunie39511
      shaunie39511 Moo88

      Posted

      During my pregnancy with my daughter and after i was fine in fact i was in the best place ever! but this time round with this pregnancy it's really hard and I'm struggling so much with day to day life this whole pregnancy is so different, I've spoken to mind but I really find it hard to speak to someone face to face about how i feeling because I don't feel normal,it was a shock ppregnancy so I think that has played a big role on it and my midwife did say that because I'm an anxiety sufferer there's a chance this pregnancy could make it worse and it has every pain and niggle I feel something is wrong with me or baby! its causing me to stress and worry more I want the baby here because Im hoping I'll go back to been me thank you for replying seeing that you also have similar problems has kind of made me feel not as much weird xx
  • angie85
    angie85 shaunie39511

    Posted

    Hi, I'm new to this but totally understand how you feel. I'm 29 & have only felt this way since becoming a mum in 2010 however it's just getting worse! I have a headache at the mo and I'm frightened to go to bed in case I don't wake up! I hate feeling this way but can't explain it, I am being referred to anxiety speaclists but while I wait to talk to them I'm feeling worse. 

    i can't advise you any further as I honestly do not know to but can let you know your not the only one feeling like this. I won't be on my own with my children in case I drop dead in them! But try and disguise it by visiting family or friends. 

    • shaunie39511
      shaunie39511 angie85

      Posted

      i feel for you i genuinely do feel alone, it's got to bad I can't go to my own house and I'm living back with my mam but I don't want to be! its ruining my life, I also have a headache and I also get scared to sleep Iit's so unfair we don't deserve to feel this way!
    • angie85
      angie85 shaunie39511

      Posted

      I know, I try and stay out my house as much as I can only go home when I know my husband is home. It's starting to really affect my life. Have you spoken to any professional? My doctor has referred me to anxiety specialist but my phone appointment with them is not until next week in the meantime I'm a wreck. Does you're mum understand how you feel?
    • shaunie39511
      shaunie39511 angie85

      Posted

      I think it's a good thing you can leave the house unlike me I can't I will if I'm with someone but it's scary I'mso scared to have aa panic attack I have a fear of collapsing and always feel like I'm going to, my mam understands yeah as she is also an anxiety sufferer so is my sister but unlike me they can control it a lot better I used to be able to but since falling pregnant 6 month ago I'm in a bad place I think your doing good going to speak to a anxiety specialist I also tried this but found it really hard and emotional to sspeak to someone face to face about it
    • angie85
      angie85 shaunie39511

      Posted

      Aww must be so hard for you, I only go out with my kids as I don't want to collapse on them alone! I just think even if I'm in the car someone would see me and make sure kids were ok! I haven't seen anyone yet but have cried to the doctor a few times which is why I'm being referred. I'm dreading actually doing it. I feel silly when I think about how it sounds but I can't stop the feeling that something's wrong. 
    • shaunie39511
      shaunie39511 angie85

      Posted

      It is hard as it will be for you too...

      its impossible for us to collapse as during a panic attack our blood pressure goes up, and the reason for collapsing is when blood pressure drops... just think of the positive outcome when you do it you'll feel so mmuch better in yourself hopefully

  • angie85
    angie85 shaunie39511

    Posted

    Hi Shaunie, how are you doing today? 
    • shaunie39511
      shaunie39511 angie85

      Posted

      Hello angie, I'm okay I've had a few of balance times but been out all day with my little girl because the weather has been lovely so went to park and for a picnic just trying to stay positive how are you?
    • angie85
      angie85 shaunie39511

      Posted

      Glad you got out the house and had a nice day. I'm still struggling although I did stay in with my little girl for a good few hours today so if anything happened no one else was here but we were fine! 

      Im dreading going to bed again though. sad

    • shaunie39511
      shaunie39511 angie85

      Posted

      Sorry i didn't get back to you last nigh hope your feeling okay ttoday
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