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Ongoing depression (I think) - I know why but can't snap out of it. Should I see my GP?

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mc17004
mc17004

I think I'm suffering from depression - serious lack of motivation, fatigue, sleeplessnes and have considered ending it all (although I'm probably too much of a coward to actually do anything about that).

Whatever it is is down to "unrequited" (and very unsuitable) love for a much younger friend of the same sex. It's not sexual (I believe that I'm actually as near asexual as it's possible to be) but the person in question is the most beautiful I have ever met with a personality to match. We are good friends with at least two shared interests and have been on several trips away together. The person concerned has their own (straight) romantic interest.

Clearly I should "snap out of it" / "get real" but this just isn't happening. It's started to seriously affect my work and I just can't afford to lose what is quite a good job.

The person concerned is aware that I care deeply for them and seems comfortable enough with that - they also seem to accept that there is no (conscious) sexual element to all this.

Two of my best friends (one gay, one straight) are aware of the situation, and I certainly don't keep my love and admiration for the person a secret, I actually mentioned the situation to my boss at work a year or so ago too.

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  • julie1111
    julie1111 mc17004

    Posted

    hi please go see you gp, talking helps and they may give u something just to see you through this awfull time..goodluck
  • reasoning51
    reasoning51 mc17004

    Posted

    You need move on, easy to say i know, but nothing is likely to ever happen with your friend. It sounds like you adore him, and it wont't be easy. but nothing can ever come of it. I dont think any medication could help, maybe some counselling?
  • reasoning51
    reasoning51 mc17004

    Posted

    sorry, assumed it was a "him", replace with "her"/"she" if applicable :-)
  • pacehuman
    pacehuman mc17004

    Posted

    Dont take any medicines at all, Will power, should be enough!!
  • robin77577
    robin77577 mc17004

    Posted

    Hello MC,

    You definitely need to see a counsellor. If you can see one sooner by going private, do so. Your health is important. This obsession with this person has been going on for a year which is far too long. It is taking its toll on you. I think it would be better to avoid contact with this person because you are just tormenting yourself. Perhaps you have mixed feelings about your sexuality. Have you come to terms with it? You say you are 'as near to asexual as possible'. When one is suffering from depression, usually one has no interest in sex...or in anything much. Once your depression is addressed (through therapy/medication/time) your hormones should rev up!... 

    Focus on one thing...and that is getting well. If you are every feeling suicidal, go directly to AE. Admission is immediate when one mentions suicide. It's the law. 

    See your GP but ask for a referral to a specialist who deals with sexual identity issues. And you could really benefit from group therapy in this regard. Often you need 6 - 8 months of medication to get you out of this depression you are in. 

    I suggest you read this very interesting and hopefully helpful post: https://patient.info/forums/discuss/magnesium-deficiency-cause-of-depression-anxiety-s-a--258921  Good luck, MC.

  • worldlywings
    worldlywings mc17004

    Posted

    Check out clinic urbanbliss, and search practitioner phil. He is ace!,, good luck smile
  • Callamatie
    Callamatie mc17004

    Posted

    Hi mc17004,

    Perhaps you should distance yourself from this person you are in love with, to try to get over them. It's always hurful when you have such deep feelings for someone that dosen't feel the same, and staying as you are is clearly damaging, so something needs to change.

    A tough time ahead for you, but things will eventually get better, and you will meet someone, who you love, and loves you back.

    Good luck and take care x

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