Opposite ends of the scale!

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Having a particularly tired and aching day and my 14 yr old daughter asks me if I'm ok. We sit down and have a chat.  I explain to her that while her body is going through changes due to surging hormones which make her have spots, irritability and mood swings all in preparation for her to grow into a woman and to have children one day, my body is going through changes too. I tell her how I am the complete opposite of her,  my hormones are now diminishing and I'm emotional and tired. My body is sore and aching. It has done its job and produced 4 children. We are at opposite ends of the scale. And I'm sad. Sad that my baby is growing into a woman. Sad that my body is starting to feel useless and redundant. Its a funny old life isnt it......

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    Hi Sarah it certainly is a funny old life. But it is lovely to read you talking to your young daughter who is also going through her first change as a young woman. Take care. All change... all change...
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    Hi 

    I've just had a very similar conversation with my nearly 13 year old who hasn't started yet but by the mood swings and cramps won't be long. I'm also tired and emotional but I'm in a much better place than say 18 months ago and I'm thankful for that. Every day can be different and sometimes very challenging. I've started walking with my friend early evening before tea, fresh air, exercise and a gossip is doing me the world of good. 

    I send you squishy hugs and keep talking as sometimes that is the best therapy xxx 

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      I love the sound of your walks. My close friend moved away about 5yrs ago and over time has made a new life for herself and our friendship has suffered. I miss having someone to talk to about everything and anything.  A good gossip and a giggle can do wonders. Going through all this alone can be the hardest thing sometimes x 
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    You sound like a great Mama!

    Lucky your daughter talks to you. My daughter never told me when she got her period. I told my GYN that and she said her daughter didn’t tell her either! Haha!!

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    Oh Sarah, I feel the same way.  Especially going through early menopause and it coming as a surprise.  I feel I am mourning my lost fertility, even though I don't need it anymore after 5 kids!  It is so nice that you shared with your daughter what you are going through.  It has become a necessity to share with my kids and teens what mom is going through so they don't think I'm completely mental.  Its not fun when teens and mom are hormonal but completely opposite!

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