Out breaks all the sudden going worst after 9yrs??

Hiya, first of all sorry to hear you're suffering again, I have recently been told I have herpes and it sucks!

I was told that if I started suffering from recurrent outbreaks then I would be out on suppressants. Basically 2 tablets a day for 6-12 months of aciclovir or similar depending what you were first prescribed as this will help contain it. Not cure it, but lessen outbreaks. I'd go to a sexual health clinic rather than your usual doctor as they are better informed about it and can offer more help. Hope this helps!

Thank you for replying. I just managed to get into see my gp last minute and can say after 9 years of keeping it to myself what a relief I feel. He as prescribed me tablets also take 5 times a day, for 5 days. Hopefully my out breaks will go back to once a year if not disappear forever (by a miracle) lol

Needless to say what a heavy weight this is to carry around I'm sorry to hear about yourself if only we could turn bak time eh

It's not been long for me so only had one outbreak but dying to get on suppressants already, freaking out about meeting guys now and how they will react. Especially since getting out of a 4 year relationship! Talk about a crap year so far eh?!

Do you have any advice for telling people, the only people who know are my doctor and my best friend (ironically my ex! Long story) and I daren't tell anyone else as I don't want them getting the wrong idea about me being promiscuous cause I'm not! Aaaaargh

Tbh hun I'm the wrong person to be asking. I haven't told a sole today is the first time in 9 yrs I've actually wrote on one of these sites & when I told the doctor and nurse I haven't had any treatment in 9yrs I've had it they were very surprised. But I was just too ashamed, I still am & worrying now I may need to tell my partner now it's come more often than usual. I was single for years after I found out & only been with my partner 2yrs. I'm petrified of telling him. We use contraception each & every time, but since being with him & feeling settled & only having a very little bump come out once a yr I kind of forgot about it! But I no now the time to say something & feel physically sick at the thought :-( I wish it didn't have so much stigma attached to it, but unfortunately as soon as someone hears the word herpes they screw their face up like its a life threatening disease. It's a hard one hun & I wish I had the answers for you

I feel for you, I really do, I guess if someone turns you down cause of it then maybe they aren't right for you on the first place. It's a minor skin condition, I hate the stigma attached to it! There is no need for it, it's not like you can die from it like some people act! It's like having a skeleton in your closet but it shouldn't be.

I only signed up to this forum a few days ago for advice and to talk to other people in our situation and it's helped me no end.

I wish you all the luck in telling him and he's a jerk if he is put off after being together so long. Let me know how it goes x

Aw I will do and thanks hun xx

Hi

You may find it helpful to visit a GUM, ask if there is a specialist or a specific Dr with experience of Herpes that you can see. Have a good chat and understand it, that way you can relay facts to your partner and belay any worries he has. Perhaps you can go with your partner too.

An alternative to that are helplines specifically for herpes guidance, mostly charity based. A quick google will point you in the right direction

There are different options for you as a couple in this situation. For example he can take a blood test, he may show positive from a child hood kiss hello with an auntie? That then has an impact as to his risk of contracting from u. You can have the test to distinguish which type u contracted, too.

There is a lot to it. It's not easy telling someone, I understand. That said I have found knowledge and being able to answer any questions has helped when talking it through with the significant other .

Good luck!

Thank you for replying. Really appreciate it & I will look into this helplines thankyou

Maybe, you immune system are weakened for some reasons, so you have more outbreaks. Medicines may reduce your outbreaks or lighten your symptoms. To respect your partner, you'd better tell her now because you have put her at risk of infecting herpes.

1) You really need to tell your guy and get him tested. Not good that you haven't already

2) Look up "Shingles vaccine" and see if that might work for you

3) Work on your overall health - diet. sleep. not smoking, drinking, eating too much junk/sugar etc. and stay out of the cold when possible.

4) Sorry to tell you that Herpes can actually be a life threatening disease - encephalitis, so people should take it more seriously