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hazel70459
hazel70459

sending everyone a big hug as a thankyou. I have been in so much pain for nearly a week now. I find i cant mention it at home as it falls on deaf ears now. They care but they get the same reply off me every day. " I am in agony". worse in joints. the only place i wont get a patronizing response is on here because you all understand.  so thankyou and spend your day as you feel and know your not alone.razz

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  • shelagh6
    shelagh6 hazel70459

    Posted

    I felt I was getting ignored but when I asked hubby said it is because he doesn't know what to say and feels useless because he can't do anything. 

    Have a great day Hazel, hope your body is good to you xxx

    • kaz_40
      kaz_40 shelagh6

      Posted

      Hi shelagh my husband said exactley the same thing, he said I dont know what to do and what to say , I just wish I could take your pain away. I dont like to see you suffering. it hurts our loved ones to see us how we are and knowing they cant do anything to help  ease our suffering. But they are sufering too in their own way seeing us as we are now. and not the person we use to be. take care gentle hugs hope you have a goodweekendsmile
  • kaz_40
    kaz_40 hazel70459

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    Hi hazel copeing with pain is one of the hardest things to cope with. if any 1 ask how you are reply to them on a scale of 1-5 1 having a good day 5 a really bad day. thats what Ive started doing people ive found get sick of asking how you are as its the same reply off us all the time. to be honest with you I get sick of giving them the same answear. the only people that really understand what we are going through is people who have fibromyalgia themselves. no one has a clue ive given up trying to explain to people as they simply dont understand and care.you none of us are alone on here because we have each other thankgoodness I found this forum its keeping me going and keeping me sanesmile such a wonderful bunch of ladies on here take care gentle hugs hope you manage to have a reasonable weekend as you are possibly able to with this condition
  • Bee70
    Bee70 hazel70459

    Posted

    Gentle hugs to you Hazel.  We are all here for each other. Hope you are enjoying the beautiful weather. wink x
    • shelagh6
      shelagh6 Bee70

      Posted

      Bee where are you, I want to live there the weather here is atrocious!

      have a great weekend!  😃

    • Bee70
      Bee70 shelagh6

      Posted

      West London.....it's not a brilliant place but the weather is great at the moment. It's also humid even during the night. You sure you want to be here. lol x
  • lisa52101
    lisa52101 hazel70459

    Posted

    Hi Hazel, At least we all know that there are people on here that always understand how we feel. 

    My hubby, who really is amazing in what he does for me, admitted a while back, that he switches off from me sometimes. There isn't a day that goes by when I don't say, this hurts today,or that hurts. I knew he did it but actually hearing him say it kinda hurt. 

    Hope things get a little easier for you, if only till the next round 😊

    Gentle hugs

    • kaz_40
      kaz_40 lisa52101

      Posted

      Ohh lisa he shouldnt of said that to you. its not our fault we cant help how we are. we didnt ask for any of this, I know hes probley struggling with how you are as my husband is too. they dont always think what their saying. here for you take care hun xx
    • lisa52101
      lisa52101 kaz_40

      Posted

      I feel for him, I really do. It's been such a tough year for him too. He lost his mum, then his sister within 4 months of each other and had to deal with their estates and clearing of their homes. In the middle of all that he found out he had heart failure and had to have a pacemaker defibrillator fitted and then I got my diagnosis of fibro. I don't know how either of us have kept sane but for him it's been horrendously tough. So in the scheme of things me saying my back hurts or I'm really tired today, especially when you have no concept of just how tired etc you can be, I can understand why he switches off. 

      Is it hard for me to hear him say that? Absolutely, but I'm amazed he's managed to keep himself together, never mind looking after someone else. Thank goodness our relationship is so strong 😍 

      thanks to all of you too

    • kaz_40
      kaz_40 lisa52101

      Posted

      Ohh bless him hes been through an awful lot, to find out he had heart failure blimey then a have a pace maker fited. my heart goes out to you both. its understandable you would be hurt by what he said, any 1 would be. but our husbands are only human its tough going on them also. just think to yourself hes having a s..t day like me. What Ive started to do is do is put it on a scale od 1-5 1 being a very good day 5 being a very bad day. just say On a scale of 1-5 Im no 1 today a friend asked me how I was today I replied fair to middling, she said thats good for you. I find whether its husbands kids friends family they can get tired of us having a winge its not our fault we are only expressing how we are feeling.at least on here if we are feeling cr.p then we can say so as no 1 minds. so let it all out on here. we will support each other threw it. take care hun gentle hugssmile
    • lisa52101
      lisa52101 kaz_40

      Posted

      I have to say I'm amazed he hasn't thrown the towel in at times because I know he's felt like it. He amazes me at times and the patience he shows can be incredible. I'm glad we have such a strong relationship and were able to keep ploughing on. Dark humour has definitely pulled us through. 

      Take care.

    • kaz_40
      kaz_40 lisa52101

      Posted

      to say you are still togeather with all that your both going through and lifes ups downs shows and proves how strong your marriage is and how much you love each other. take care gentle hugs xxsmile
    • Bee70
      Bee70 lisa52101

      Posted

      Wow, that's alot for anyone to go through. There is a rainbow at the end of the tunnel. You have each other that is the main thing. Even though you both are suffering you will both have a bright future ahead of you.

      Stay positive and deal with a day at a time. wink x

    • lisa52101
      lisa52101 Bee70

      Posted

      Thanks Bee, our philosophy is pretty much if we're upright and smiling then we're ok.
  • PiliPalaB4ch
    PiliPalaB4ch hazel70459

    Posted

    Hi Hazel.

    i really understand how you feel. I am having a bad painful week too. My husband is disabled and has several diseases including rheumatoid arthritis and osteoporosis- he takes MSD morphine and oromorph, I am sure his pain is horrendous, but then so is mine- but I try not to say anything because I don't want a negative vibe at home, especially as my daughter still lives at home, the last thing I want for her is negativity! 

    I bite my lip and head for my hot water bottle!! Gentle hugs 

    • kaz_40
      kaz_40 PiliPalaB4ch

      Posted

      Hi pillpala You do exactley what I do I use hot waterbottles all the time, I cant take meds as had bad reaction to them all. so I just take Ibuprophen and grit my teeth.Feel for you and your husband its difficult when your children are about as you dont want negativity around for them. gentle hugs take care
    • PiliPalaB4ch
      PiliPalaB4ch kaz_40

      Posted

      hi Kaz

      there is nothing like a hot water bottle or three is there? I am not very good with melds either, I can't take ibopruphen even, so I take paracetamol and codeine if I really have no choice! Onwards and upwards! Gentle hugs

    • kaz_40
      kaz_40 PiliPalaB4ch

      Posted

      onwards upwards take care gentle hugs hope you have a good weekendsmile
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