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Penis issue during sex

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Quango1
Quango1

About a month ago I tried to have sex (for the first time - I'm 22 yes I know that's old) and I was horny and erect pretty instantly, but then the girl went down on me and started really yanking the little guy so much so that I was actually in pain and my penis was red raw. Then, we tried having sex but it just wouldn't go in even though I'd done a lot of foreplay and she was very wet. We tried a number of positions, but it just wouldn't go in (I don't have a big penis at all - flaccid it's about 2.5 inches and erect about 5) and by now my penis was actually starting to numb. All in all, I couldn't ejaculate and I felt really uncomfortable as though I'd let us both down.

It doesn't hurt when I masturbate and ejaculate normally, but just the action of her pulling my penis back (which is quite common?) really hurt. I went to the doctors after who said I had inflammation, but what if this is a recurring problem? What if I can't have pain-free sex? I'm scared.

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  • alanatcroydon
    alanatcroydon Quango1

    Posted

    First time is often awkward because you are not quite sure what exactly to do.  You might try the missionary position which puts the guy more in control?
    • Quango1
      Quango1 alanatcroydon

      Posted

      I tried that and it just didn't want to go in, plus I was told to loosen my hips when we went for that position and it was just really uncomfortable.

    • uncklefester
      uncklefester alanatcroydon

      Posted

      I see it the other way around. Put her on top. She has more control over her own stimulation it be easier for her to get off. . And guys don't need to work at being stimulated cheesygrin. Tell her she was a little rough on Mr. Happy. You guys are probably watching porn thinking thats the its done. . If she wants to give you a hand job get some lube and tell her to SLIDE her hand on you penis and don't yank it. 

      OK just realize this was and old post. 

       

  • alanatcroydon
    alanatcroydon Quango1

    Posted

    Is it lubrication you need?  KY Jelly which you might both apply before you start might be the answer.  There are other coloured and flavoured brands, but KY was the stock product others recommended to us.
    • Quango1
      Quango1 alanatcroydon

      Posted

      Hmm I don't really know - I'm not an expert in this sorry haha!

  • Quango1
    Quango1

    Posted

    Hey everyone, I tried again last night with having sex. I'm sure I have an issue with my penis because I got an erection just fine then we were did foreplay in which she gave oral - was ok but my penis was getting very sore again even though she was not rough at all. Then we were having sex (it went in normal this time) but my penis was still incredibly sore and I just could not ejaculate again. This is a different girl from the one I first posted about so why is my penis still this sore? I thought it was going to start bleeding at one point and the girl wasn't even rough - in fact she was superb. Now my penis is stinging like made and I don't know what to do. I couldn't ejaculate AGAIN and didn't even climax

    • uncklefester
      uncklefester Quango1

      Posted

      You're sore because you're very hard ( I miss those days) Use lube if she isn't wet enough. And RELAX, you're a guy you could be done in 30 seconds if you wanted to. 

    • Quango1
      Quango1 uncklefester

      Posted

      Mate, she was so damn wet haha it was like a slipstream. I'm just saying even before sex it was very very sore and it really hurt. Then I just felt like my penis was numb and that I was never going to ejaculate??

    • uncklefester
      uncklefester Quango1

      Posted

      Slipstream lol

      Do you masterbate alot? If so give it up a week or 2. Maybe it will make it easier for you to orgasm. I remember having super hard erections that made me sore but never to the point of being too numb to orgasm. 

    • uncklefester
      uncklefester Quango1

      Posted

      Ok then go the other route. Have her give a hand job to get you close to ejaculating. Then have intercourse. She may not get off but maybe it will help get you going in the right direction.
    • Quango1
      Quango1 uncklefester

      Posted

      It's just that though, even when she was giving me a hand job it was very sore, I wonder if there's an underlying issue?

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