People don’t understand ... how bad this is
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I think there’s quite a big disparity in women’s symptoms on here . I’m at a 10 with this which means I can’t do normal things like socialize . I see some women writing that they went out met friends went to a game .
I am debilitated . I am constantly tired from the moment I wake up I’m just waiting for the clock to tick so I can go back to bed . I believe women who never had children get it worse.
I appreciate all the comments and caring as some ladies have said ‘move closer to your family ‘ etc. but I don’t think they understand that I can’t do barely anything .
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Guest lori93950
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Please don't think that I don't understand. I was totally where you are not so long ago. Extremely sick. I got hit very hard August 2016, thought I wasn't going to make it. Seriously, that's how sick I was. So for me to be able to go to a baseball game and feel like a near normal person is a very big deal. I still feel sick every day, there isn't one day where I feel like I used to. I still look around and marvel at how well everyone else around me seems to be and wonder why I can't feel that way too. But I have come a long way from 2016 and at least I can function now. There is hope. I no longer feel like I'm dying, however the anxiety still pangs from time to time when I start to question if I do have something more seriously wrong.
All of us on this forum are at different stages in meno. It's always good to hear when women, who were rock bottom physically or mentally or both, start doing better. The longer you are on the forum you will begin to see too. But don't ever for one minute think we don't understand. We are the only ones who really do!
You will start to get better, I promise. It just really rots.
XOXO
Sassyr12a Guest
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Hi Suzanne
Im exactly the same, been ill for so long that even when you've come a little way along you feel better and can summon up the confidence to get out of the house. I've been working on this for 20 years and if I've managed to go shopping without feeling like I'm going to keel over into the frozen peas, it's a good day
Good for you xx
CarolKelso Guest
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Hi Suzanne. I am so with you. I've no children and this has hit me like nothing else. A hysterectomy at 37 with ovaries still in , no a doc or consultant discussed my future or how I would feel. Like you I feel sick many of my days and still have dark days too.My stomach is up and down and get constant migraines but am moving forward and I am seeing change and longer times between episodes and my joy has gradually come back. Right now I'm preparing to move home and relocate with my husband and my anxiety has hit the roof.. My mind is scared and dark but I know its due to change and my hormones... But we will and do get through this, but when you are in it, it so hard and scary.. Thx for sharing... Good post to read and share.. Thank you. 💗 CK
lori93950 Guest
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I love to hear positive stories it gives me hope as I’ve been debilitated for more than 2 months now .
katyD211 Guest
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Perfectly stated, Suzanne. I sooo needed to read your words today...it's been one of the "all symptoms" days for me. Mental fog. dizzy. emotionally drained, sleepy then anxious, hungry then sour stomach.
I just wish my mom was here to hug me and say you'll be ok. She lived to be 94 and just passed April 23rd..
so there's that , too.....
just yuck, ya know?
Hugs to everyone here...
Guest katyD211
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Ah Katy, I'm so sorry to hear about your mom. I wish I could be there to give you a hug!
May we all live to see 94 God willing.
Love ya!
lori93950 katyD211
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Well 94 is a great age and bodes well for you !
I wonder how they coped in their era? I know they worked much harder than we do and I know my grandma didn’t have things like washing machine dryers.... how did they do it ?
My mom is6000 miles away and yes I keep saying ‘I want my mommy ‘ 😩
Guest Sassyr12a
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Haha! I think I've almost keeled over in the frozen peas too!
I guess feeling awful is now my new normal. But I'm still better than where I was back then and I'll take it for now.
XOXO
Guest CarolKelso
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Hi Carol, I'm glad you bring that up. I'm the same, I finally am finding joy in things again. For so long nothing looked good, nothing. Thank goodness the depression lifted and I'm not all consumed by anxiety anymore. (still have anxious moments, but..)
Good luck with your move. You got this girl!!
XO
lori93950 Guest
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No interest in men either and I’m single !
katyD211 Guest
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😘
katyD211 lori93950
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They were and are the real super "sheroes"....and never spoke about it!
Ok...deep breaths... power on through this, girls!!
mauiblue Guest
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Very well written
We all DO understand and we are at different stages of menopause/peri etc.
Its not just one person its a whole group of women who are deallng with this at different levels.
For certain some women get hit harder than others but none of our symptoms should be minimalized, we all feel the struggle. I wish for me i was in the 75% of women who have a few things going on and thats it, but im not, ive been throttled by this mentally and physically and im plugging through everyday.
Go Team Meno..!
x0x0x
CarolKelso mauiblue
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Well said Mauiblue... I ain't in the 75% either...but I have this group of women to turn to.. Ck.. 😉
lori93950 mauiblue
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