Perimenopause Anxiety: Is anyone out there like me?

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Good Morning Ladies,

I'm so glad that I found this site. Perimenopause has really rocked my world. It hit me suddenly (well there were signs before, but the extreme anxiety, heart palpitations) started then. The anxiety I feel is more of racing thoughts; constantly questioning things in my life (like my marriage) i.e. "Am I happy?" "Do I love (fill in the blank)?" I have to remind myself that I was very happy before all of this! I also go though old things over and over; like reviewing them in my head? I also have invasive thoughts which FREAK me out so bad. It's like I'm constantly lost in my head. NAC and B6 has helped tremendously as well as some herbs, but I'm just wondering if I'm alone in my anxiety. I also am constantly comparing myself to others. I hate the lack of confidence I feel. I also have depression at times, have had hot flashes, super dry skin, POUR sweat from my armpits, and acne (those are the most common). It's like I'm restless and want to go somewhere, but I don't know where I would go? Does that make sense to anyone?

I'm grateful to find this group and thankful for each of your stories that I've read!

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    Hi there honey wow you sound just like me very similar feelings, symptoms and thought processes - do you feel like this all the time or just for periods of time? I seem to have about 7-10 days every 6 weeks or so where the anxiety feels like I'm on high alert all the time and unable to function as I would normally. Insomnia also steps up at this time and I wake up with hot flushes and what feels like burning adrenaline rushes. I too feel the odd restlessness and desire at times to escape but not knowing where to 😕 The week before these feelings I get a chronic outbreak of spots/acne around my jawline and lower cheeks - always the same area - then as these start to dry up and fade back the anxiety flares. I'm taking a B complex, 5-HTP, evening primrose and occasionally magnesium (although it upsets my tummy). I have discussed HRT with my GP although not taken the plunge yet as I'm nervous about my symptoms getting worse tbh. I'm in the middle of one of my flare ups so sending hugs to you too. I'm not a natural meditator but find trying to fit in some breathing exercises and recently some swimming has helped a bit - but I have to force myself - otherwise I wouldn't feel like leaving the house when the anxiety flares - take care x

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      Yes! I feel like a fake (does that make sense) like I'm just really not happy. I hate being alone too. I tried 5HTP but it made my head feel very weird (like buzzing). I feel like it gets better here and there, but it's been pretty constant (sometimes are worse than others). Uggghhhh! It just stinks. I am soooooo glad to hear from someone else like me! I get acne too! I literally hang on every feeling and emotion and think it's my reality!

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    Yes I can relate!!! I get restless and don't know what to do.. (I have stuff to do but naturally don't want to do it). I know I should visit others but don't. I have heart palps, no hot flushes but many other things as well. I just feel funny like not myself-- not sure I'm all that happy anymore and question that. And not sure I love my spouse-- it's just ho,hum now. Nothing is exciting and I see him out for himself but then again it's been 20 years. I just try to do things for me-- I think at this time I need more things for me.. IDK I just take it day by day.

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      Kelly,

      How old are you? I'm 41 and we have been married almost 19 years. I feel the EXACT same way! Day by day here and I've heard that you really don't need to make any major choices at this time. I remember being happy!

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    im new here and wasnt really sure where to start or which discussion to jump into

    im 48 and perimenopause has really kicked in. Health anxiety is the worst! I have palpitations and weird feelings in my chest ive been to er twice in the last two months thinking it was heart issues. my GP says all my tests are normal. Why do i feel like im dying and the drs are just missing something!? im obsessed with taking my pulse! im up all night worrying theres something wrong with my heart i had an echo and stress test in 2015 and passed with flying colors But i still fear i have undiagnosed heart disease and im gonna have a heart attack. Headaches and muscle aches. Dr says im very healthy and stop worrying. i also miss the old me that didnt question everything and felt happy. sorry if im rambling i do find reassurance in that im not crazy and this is a real thing, so thank you to all who share their experience

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    im new here and wasnt really sure where to start or which discussion to jump into

    im 48 and perimenopause has really kicked in. Health anxiety is the worst! I have palpitations and weird feelings in my chest ive been to er twice in the last two months thinking it was heart issues. my GP says all my tests are normal. Why do i feel like im dying and the drs are just missing something!? im obsessed with taking my pulse! im up all night worrying theres something wrong with my heart i had an echo and stress test in 2015 and passed with flying colors But i still fear i have undiagnosed heart disease and im gonna have a heart attack. Headaches and muscle aches. Dr says im very healthy and stop worrying. i also miss the old me that didnt question everything and felt happy. sorry if im rambling i do find reassurance in that im not crazy and this is a real thing, so thank you to all who share their experience

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      Laura,

      You sound completely normal to me. I have seen a lot of posts and think that health anxiety a HUGE part of all of this! You're not crazy either! I miss the old me too, but hopefully we'll get those women back soon! Hugs and hang in there! You're not alone!

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    Hi there... Your not alone believe me. I'm there right with you. Exactly the same, racing thoughts, invasive thoughts, stressing about everything and anything. Going over and over in.my head ruminating thoughts, feelings of extreme overwhelming anxiety, stress and worry to the point I'm so scared and having panic attacks about it all now and terrified it will never get better!!! It's horrendous.... And you feel like your loosing your sanity and praying nearly everyday to get better, stay strong and come out the other side at some point. And I'm praying bit time it's sooner rather then later now.... So I definitely understand what your feeling and your not alone. Its tonight I went on the site because I'm feeling so strange, having anxiety attacks one after the other and feeling like I'm loosing it, so came on here for comfort and found your message. So I hope your feeling a little better.... But this site is great for support and just knowing your not alone... And not going crazy, because other women are having the same symptoms.

    Big hugs, hang on in there Rach xx

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