Perimenopause doing me in...😢
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OMG! I'm at the end of my tether....am fed up, miserable, frustrated lonely etc etc.....hubby is sick of my constant repetitive wailing mad moods, me feeling sick & off & the lack of marital fun n intimacy(I do have a personal problem in there) this is killing my marriage which is barely alive...do I give up n walk away? go back to whence I came from? I have no family or close friend where I am. I have no answers anymore, I feel like I'm in a whirlpool getting nowhere. Oh to feel a hug & know I'm going to be ok, will all this torment ever end. Feels like I'm sinking n giving up, sorry for my woeful blah.
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Trevis Bobbins059
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liz28780 Bobbins059
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michele84063 Bobbins059
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You would be leaving your husband for the wrong reasons - there is help for peri and hope for your marriage too.
Wishing you good luck on this 'journey' and sending you a hug. xx
Bobbins059 michele84063
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BUT its nice to feel the love & care from all the lovely ladies here.
Shelly0069 Bobbins059
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shaznay96184 Bobbins059
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Listen Kiddo, unless you've got a completely sh*t marriage, it's gotta be worth getting some help for yourself. I've been married to the love of my life for 32yrs/known each other since 17 etc.
Fortunately we both love a laugh, see humour in most things, don't take ourselves too seriously, and take the p*ss out of each other on a regular basis.
I have absolutely no interest in sex, have an obsession about smelling while I have a Period, and feel completely ready to 'think' of sex, rather than 'do' it!!!
My ol' man is 75% behind me - 25% I know I do his head in!! We argue/bicker/call each other some really choice names.....and its all forgotten very quickly. We think this is very normal....for us.
I think it's fair to say I'm not the first person to sing the praises of ADs etc - its personal, but I don't think they're for me right now - but maybe now's the time to go talk with your GP and see what they can help you with.
Having said that maybe some HRT might be for you? I use progesterone cream and some Menopace and feel pretty darn good. But the minute I feel really cr*p i'll be getting me some 'proper' HRT. Life's too short to feel so bad
Don't let this monster 'win' - go see someone and tell them how you feel, how its affecting our marriage.
Chin up Kiddo:-)
Sx
mary95550 Bobbins059
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We all know where your coming from,we are.....friends at your fingertips...who understand it's a tough one.......After two years off trying everything for this constant hot flushes. I finally went to my doc to discuss HRT. " il give you a laugh" My doc said I'm supposed to ask this question, Do you reall feel you need this??? But looking at you as I sat drenched with sweat ,hair dripping you def do......lol so now I'm on it. Sweats gone completely, depression a lot better. One thing I'm on as well.... VIT D.... everyday and It really helps with low mood I can notice a change in my mood if I even forget it for one day......Hope this helps sweetheart, and your never alone, you've got us. Hopefully your hubby will understand soon, and be supportive of you xx
Shelly0069 mary95550
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mary95550 Shelly0069
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sorry I've been a bit late with replying hectic life , but anyway pet your not being nosey at all. I take "Seven Seas multi VIT 50 plus I think the recommended does age is about 125iu daily but before this, as I've just turned 50 ! I took just any old vitamin d I could get my hands on, there is some cheaper ones that's just as good I live in N.ireland !!!!! so it's needed, as it's called the sunshine vitamin it's amazing how good a vitamin this is I have the whole family on it,lol so just go into any pharmacy and they should be able suggest what's the best one for you. Hope this helps pet and works very quickly xx
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michelle50768 Bobbins059
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Hope you find some comfort on this site as I have
I now know im not going crazy. Im om 15mg of antidepressant mirtazapine it helps a little
Hope you have a better day today.
Praying for you xx
susan21149 Bobbins059
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My boyfriend is trying to find ways or helping me but with my anger, anxieties, I just push him away at least he understands me at times all I did this weekend was cry and yell and scream
Tired of it all wish it would go away
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angela93471 Bobbins059
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It sucks, take some slow deep breaths, think happy thoughts and dream of walking on the beach. Find a hormone specialist and track your symptoms.food can trigger responses, anxiety makes you feel worse and not talking to some one just bottles up your emotions. Find a therapist to yell at then give your man a hug.....they try to understand but will never. They want contact so maybe a head job.lol...and some sensual massages. Tell him you love him and tell him you are trying to do everything you can so that the 2 of you can get it on...he will understand. He is frustrated that he can't help you.... I hope this helps.xx
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