1. Community
  2. Women's health
  3. Menopause

Perimenopause - health anxiety overdrive!

Posted , 18 users are following.

sarahonadowner
sarahonadowner

I've posted here before and found the ladies on here really helpful so Im always popping vack for a read.

I dont know how to keep going with this perimenopause. I cant take hrt and dont want antidepressants but seriously - what to do?

I google my symptoms DOZENS of times a day. Ive got heart failure, cancer and all manner of horrible things according to google.

I seem to get a symptom that gets worse then vanishes only to return or be replaced by something new!

Ive had shortness of breath on and off for 5 years now. Been checked out and all looked fine but then more stuff 'pops up'.

Ive had enough and somedays I wonder if Im going to just die of some undiagnosed disease.

Its scary as my children are 11 and 13 and they need me!!

Oh ladies tell me you understand! Because my sister thinks Im odd as she doesnt know anybody that is or has gone thtough this, including herself. I'm 46, she is 56.

Thank you x

0 likes, 38 replies

38 Replies

Next
  • millyabh
    millyabh sarahonadowner

    Posted

    I'm with you on this one!  its one thing after another! I'm only 46 but feel 100 sad

     

    • Str8tfans
      Str8tfans millyabh

      Posted

      Same here.

      46 and wonder everyday what major disease I have.

      It's awful 

      I was the most laid back chill unstressed person I know before this started :-(

  • Cillablack
    Cillablack sarahonadowner

    Posted

    You’ve got to watch Google, although many of us just cannot help but type in our symptoms.  I find that whatever symptom you have, it will all lead to cancer, according to Google.  This is because it has to cover everything.  In real terms Google does not understand your personal circumstances.  For reassurance, see your GP.  I’m sure you are fine with normal symptoms for Peri x
  • dawn70425
    dawn70425 sarahonadowner

    Posted

    Hi there

    I'm to the same as you, so you are def not odd... unless your going through this no one understand how it plays with your mind and body, 

    I can't have HRT either due to blood clots on my lungs, and my breathing is really bad, I'm due back to see consultant in November, so really Iv just been turned away from the docs as nothing eles they can give me..

    Wonderful 😡

    Try your best not to google it all the time, I know it's sooooo hard not to, as you think that you've got every disease going, Iv been there and done that at the begging , I'm 53 and been going through menopause for around 4 years, so your not a lone here, it's horrid to feel the way you do, how mind plays these alful  games with us, and it's so scarry to feel this way.... try and talk to your doc if you can, but don't feel a lone as this is just the norm, I know at the moment there's no light at the end for you, BUT you will get through it one way or another, just keep talking to people on here..

    You take care of yourself and you can email me privately if you EVER need to chat to some one as I can listen and understand what your going through lots of hugs 🤗 X 

    • debbie12340
      debbie12340 dawn70425

      Posted

      Hi Dawn,  sorry your going through this.  Your reply is very kind.  It’s way to get into Google overload.  Just wondered if you may have had any hair problems at all ? I’m looking for advice on that at the moment xx Many thanks Deb x
    • dawn70425
      dawn70425 debbie12340

      Posted

      Hi Debbie 

      Hair problems in what respect??

      My hole head seems to be more itchy since menopause started, and not a lot, but seems more thinner then of late, but is that my mind again thinking this 🤔

      I use to go out every weekend with friends, and had such a fantastic life, living and laughing every day, so much fun, and felt good with the way I looked, but now I spend most days at home, and no longer go out with friends, as I'm sure when I look in the mirror or see a picture of me, that the person there,  can't possable be me, as since menopause and clots I feel that I'm a mess and no longer the same person,,,,

      I do hope,  like many of us on here, that normal life will resume and get better, I think you have to,or you will go under

      I do hope you are, or will be holding your head above the water, till this alfull menopause passes....

      Remind me not to come back as a woman in my next life 😂

      I'm here so you can bend my ear as much as you like if it will help you, it's so lovely to here from all these wonderful ladies on here, that we are all fighters and will win... big hug to you 🤗X

    • sarahonadowner
      sarahonadowner dawn70425

      Posted

      Thank you...you're so kind. Wish we were all in a room together discussing this crazy hell! X

    • debbie12340
      debbie12340 dawn70425

      Posted

      Hi Dawn,

      Thank you so much for your kind reply.  Yes mine seems thinner and have Greys that grow out like wire and then thankfully turn straight.  I’m the same I look in the mirror and think “who the hell is that” then I feel even more down about myself.  I too used to enjoy going out bi tone dread it and prefer to stay in.  Yes feel free to bend my ear any time of want 😘 I’m here if you want to message me.  Preying that one day I might be ‘me’ again xxx Hugs 🤗

    • dawn70425
      dawn70425 sarahonadowner

      Posted

      Yeah me to, be nice to all get together, and try to help each other, even if only by talking to each, and making some good friends 😌X

    • debbie12340
      debbie12340

      Posted

      Hi Dawn

      Think I should have spelled checked that first 😂 sorry x

    • debbie12340
      debbie12340

      Posted

      Sorry Dawn, I meant to also say I notice a fair few stands in the shower drain after washing as well ? xx 
    • dawn70425
      dawn70425 debbie12340

      Posted

      Rrrr bless you... thanks just nice to here we are not a lone in this menopause... yes I do get you with the hair thing lol 😧 In fact I was driving home after looking after my grandson, and glanced in the mirror 😱And yes I to have got the small strands of hair sticking out ( grey) my first throught was how would I try to tame it down, as nothing seems to work, if I put any thing on my hair to help, it looks like Iv stuck my head in a chip pan 😆 So give up with that idea lol....

      I don't know about you, but Iv always worn makeup, since as long as I can remeber, I wouldnt open the door to postman, if I did not have some on, not a lot, but enough to conceal my skin,,

      Now I put it on and b4 Iv got of the settee it's just slides of my face and I'm glowing again, so now I can't be botherd to put any on these days as waste of time, 

      Where as this person gone to, we are all so young, and should be living the life, yet this menopause seems to want to destroy our body's and minds...

      One day I hope we can all look back at this, and be the person I knew years ago 😌 X

    • debbie12340
      debbie12340 dawn70425

      Posted

      Hi Dawn,

      I’m exactly the same as you always worn make up.  But some days don’t bother 🙈👵🏼 It’s no fun is it ? Never realised it would be this bad to be honest.  I literally thought I’d gone mad a few years ago, I just couldn’t think straight . . . There has to be light at the bed of this very dark tunnel 🙏🏼 xxx

    • dawn70425
      dawn70425 debbie12340

      Posted

      There is and will be, for all of us one day, it will end, and as they say life will begin again ☺️X
    • karen06072
      karen06072 debbie12340

      Posted

      I’m pretty sure my hair has really gone down the pan. 😥

      It was never great to start with, and now it’s very fine, it doesn’t seem to grow (especially round the front and sides) and I’m paranoid I’m receding. This in turn causes anxiety and overthinking. 😬

      I’m hoping going on the Loestrin 20 birth pill will somehow provide some much-needed eostrogen and perhaps it will recover. 

    • debbie12340
      debbie12340 karen06072

      Posted

      Hi karen,

      Yes my anxiety has gone into overdrive about it ! Now dread washing it and seeing it go down the drain 🙈 I can’t take the pill, but yes it might help you.  I keep hoping it will get better once I’m out the other side ?  x

    • dawn70425
      dawn70425 debbie12340

      Posted

      👻🎃

      Happy Halloween weekend to all you lovely ladies out there, hope your all still fighting through the crap of the menopause, keep up the good work, and writing on this forum, to share what they are going through, in the help that we all know that we are not a loan 

      Hugs and kisses 🕸🕷🤗 xx

    • 2chr2015
      2chr2015 dawn70425

      Posted

      Thanks dawn.  Happy Halloween to you as well.  I am traveling this weekend which now seems to cause anxiety more than it used to. And I am finding that more and more I can not have caffeine.  Ugh.  
    • dawn70425
      dawn70425 2chr2015

      Posted

      Hi there

      Well hope your travels are good any way, I know what you mean, I for some reason don't want to be away from home since the menopause or I seem to get agitated when I'm away, so don't really go away now like I use to 😡... some one as to answer for this dam menopause thing lol

      Enjoy try not to think about it so much, or take you mind eles where if you can, as I feel your mind can work over time for you

      Big hugs 🤗X

Back to top
Next

Report or request deletion

Thanks for your help!

We want the community to be a useful resource for our users but it is important to remember that the community are not moderated or reviewed by doctors and so you should not rely on opinions or advice given by other users in respect of any healthcare matters. Always speak to your doctor before acting and in cases of emergency seek appropriate medical assistance immediately. Use of the community is subject to our Terms of Use and Privacy Policy and steps will be taken to remove posts identified as being in breach of those terms.