Perimenopause stinks!!!!!'n
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Hi! I'm new to this forum and soooo confused!! I am 54 years old mother of three and grandma. I am in perimenopause, symptoms bad depression where I wouldn't get out of bed. I was told years ago to have a hysterectomy because of fibroids but I haven't yet thinking I will get through this. I have a enlarge uterus due to fibroids and thickening wall of the uterus . I go in August for an sono and ultra sound to check uterine wall. This hormonal stuff is driving me crazy. I stay home, don't get out much and scard when my husband leaves to go to work. I'm a nervous wreck!! Any advice would be great!!
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doc1981 beth64101
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beth64101 doc1981
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jayneejay beth64101
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we have to go through it, thats why we have no choice 😧
take one day at a time Beth, no one should tell you to go for a hysterectomy,
it may not even be necessary, so take one day at a time and be positive..
most uterine fibroids are harmless Beth and shrink with menopause ..
there are several treatments for them...
Jay xx
beth64101 jayneejay
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jayneejay beth64101
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i sent you a private message .... i will send another Jay xx
beth64101 jayneejay
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doc1981 beth64101
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barbara49965 beth64101
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beth64101 barbara49965
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nannyjayne beth64101
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I only joined this forum about a week ago as i was feeling just like you, i had already started taken Flaxseed caps and Vit E, i have since added Vit b complex, magnesium and black cohosh, now whether its coincidently or not i am unsure, but my mood has started to lift and i have not had a mood swing in two days, which trust me is good!!! Please do not despair it will pass, but try the supplements. I have also increased my exercising which is a mood lifter. Its a horrible phase of life but we will get there.
beth64101 nannyjayne
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fightingmadness beth64101
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http://www.sharkeyshealingcentre.com.au/content/articles/fibroids-what-you-can-do-about-them/
I had endometriosis, which is oestrogen driven and after going on a low oestrogen diet I managed to avoid surgery. I was in a lot of pain, but after researching it I found out that lots of women had surgery and then it returned. I went to the Marilyn Glenville clinic in London, you can have a look at her web-site http://www.marilynglenville.com/womens-health-issues/fibroids/ I went to one visit, it is private, but boy, do you get a lot of info in one visit and followed the diet suggested, which was no red meat, which I had been eating a lot of, as I felt so tired. This is what you need to avoid... have a look around and research what you can do to reduce your oestrogen. It worked for me, I went for another test and the endometriosis had disappeared!!! It does work! PLEASE try diet and think about where you are in your life, if your oestrogen is going to reduce, as it will in menopause, your fibroids will reduce anyway! Obviously you should take medical advice on this, but remember, the NHS is male driven prjmarily, they do not understand women, let's face it! We all know that, at our age. They try to address the problem and take it out! Yeah, it may remove the problem, but what are you left with? Especially after the loss of two babies ... I really feel for you... have a look at Marilyn Glenville's website, she is a Dr who has worked with women for many years. I think, if you are losing oestrogen, the fribroids will probably not be a problem as they will shrink anyway as they depend on oestrogen. Go with your own feelings, my love. I might add that I look at these posts often and don't bother to get involved... your story touched me as I could have gone for surgery, that was suggested strongly to me by Drs, I went the diet route and it disappeared. The NHS Drs were non-plussed when I told them and just discharged me, no questions about how I had done it. There is another way .... xxxx
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jayneejay fightingmadness
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i too had endometriosis in early 30's but couldnt walk with the pain, so had to have laser sugery, all was removed, the op was fine.. they said to me to have a hysterectomy as it would return in five years... It never did and said no way, so thank god I didnt have hysterectomy for nothing .. i since had follicular ovarian cysts that grew in early peri again they didnt disperse as never had the actual period ... so they grew then and the next period they went...
had ultra sounds and all is good since, just in year 10 of natural peri now, cant have HRT due to family history and my previous endometriosis..
theres sometimes light at the end of the tunnel ... Jay xx
beth64101 fightingmadness
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fightingmadness beth64101
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beth64101 fightingmadness
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jayneejay beth64101
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that private message i sent you with the options, print it off and take it to docs with you... discuss them, ask why they arent an option for you..
get some answers hun, and try and relax... Jay xx
beth64101 jayneejay
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jayneejay beth64101
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have a friend with yoj or your husband and try and over come it that way..
difficult one to answer as dont know you hun..
Jay x
beth64101 jayneejay
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jayneejay beth64101
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i had the anxiety thing not so long ago, and had to make myself drive as mypartner works overseas... i never wanted to go out etc etc... but i had to have a word with myself and with the help of my supplements improving my well being and anxieties i just cracked on and never looked back.. its a lonely life if you let it take hold ... the longer you leave it the worse it gets, so much to enjoy out there
Jay xx
beth64101 jayneejay
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jayneejay beth64101
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well... i can sympathise as I know what the anxiety and fear is like, but remember life is short we are here to enjoy it . ... life is not a rehearsal, not second time rounds... so sometimes we have to have a word with ourselves, do what we can to alleviate such anxiety, sometimes we can make it feel ten times worse by giving up and dwelling on things to much... positivity is the key..
imagine you have a box with a lid... hypothetically pop the anxiety in the box place the lid on, and think right for this time this anxiety and fear is not there as you put it in the box... and think right, i am going out now, and i am going to spend time with my girls and my beautiful grandchildren, you can do it, and the feeling after you have will give you such a sense of achievement and you will be so proud off yourself.. this is what i went through and how i dealt with it ...Jay xxx
beth64101 jayneejay
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Snatchpiece jayneejay
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I just want to say that you are so lovely to us all in the way you make the time to reply to these post. A MASSIVE THANK YOU on behalf of us all as you are real breath of fresh air and your continued encouragement is wonderful and a real tonic! You have continued to support me personally in my low times and I just wanted to thank you so very much for being a friend to me and even though we have never met I feel that we known each other for a long time!
Have a wonderful day to all you lovely ladies and from the bottom of my heart that I hope we will all soon start to feel stronger going through together and not a lone! I find so much comfort coming onto this forum as I always seem to find some answers to my concerns which in turns helps me to put things into perspective! Massive hugs to us all! Joy xxx
jayneejay Snatchpiece
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Thank you .. That was a lovely to say, glad I can be of some help .. Just sharing the natural no other choices for me route. and sharing my last 10 years peri ups and downs..
Yes i seem to have simmered since the hellish anxiety I had early this year .. I just turned 50 last month, I have also had to have a word with myself as positive thinking is also the key, dwelling on it only makes it worse than it is.. The thing i experience now is bring very warm constant .. But it is boiling too in Spain..
I came on this site at beginning of the year as felt terrible with anxiety, doom, etc B6 lifted me and B12 injections and you Joy have been help for me too, and other ladies so thank you to you too Joy ... Have a great day .. Jay xx