Perseverance

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Hi Lovelies, hope you're well. Been to see a different Dr, besides results of blood test being normal & indicating now in meno, I asked her about Livial (told her I'm in the third mth of taking it)& how long it took to notice effects & does it stop all...well, most I hope...meno symptoms, she told me to give it a good 6mths for full effects....is that so? I told her I still got weird hot flushy feelings with spacey floaty head but no comment or explanation, I also told her I have a few days feeling a bit better then days that are hell....hot face, get the weird heady wonkies & not feeling well etc but she said nothing about these cycling-like episodes. I'll keep persevering & hope it will all stop.  Am I expecting too much too soon? My husband was with me at the Drs again! OMFG! oops sorry😔 was like I wasn't there, he told the Dr I suffer anxiety, I need to take something anything, I've made his life hell because I'm not coping with meno & I'm not doing anything about it & that his family can see how bad I am...on & on he went....shoot me for being a mental case...so sorry, that just makes me wild!😡 

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    I'm so sorry that he behaved that way instead of showing more support. But I can relate because my husband would have probably behaved in a similar fashion which is why I never let him accompany me to any doctors visit, GP or otherwise. First of all he doesn't have the patience to even wait in the waiting area to be called to the examining room. That gets him tense right there. I don't even let him come to our kids appointments and if he does I ask him to stay out front and watch our belongings. Next time you'll know to just leave hubby home. You don't need that stress. I hope next time goes better for you.
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    Welcome to the world of men! They don't understand sh** about women. Sorry, but i know how that goes. I use to feel he was my enemy! I don't know about Livial, but if anything takes that long to work, it's not worth waiting. When I was given HRT and I was still crying and having all your symptoms my doctor put me on a low dose birth control pill. What a miracle it was when after a few days I was feeling normal again. I agree with sharcerv, leave him at home or have him wait for you, if he's going to act like that no point in stressing yourself out bringing him in. I made sure my man stayed in the waiting room or he would go shopping across the street. When I was done I would just meet him where ever he was in the neighborhood or call him and tell him to come pick me up. Life is too short to stress yourself out like that. Maybe go on low dose birth control and see how that works for you. But when a doctor doesn't give you answers when you ask about your symptoms, I wouldn't go back. I'd find someone else who is more sympathetic to your issues.

     

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    Hello Nan,

    I agree with Patrathegreat. If you are not getting answers to your concerns you may want to see a new doc. I left my appointment yesterday upset that some of my concerns were not addressed either and I was having a panic attack in his office. He just told me to relax and gave me the script. I was telling him about the weird sensations and he just looked at me like I was crazy. Needless to say I will be seeing a new doc. I'm sorry about your husband acting like that. But men don't understand. My aunt told me about low dose birth control pills and she said it was the best thing that happened to her. I plan on asking a GYN for it. So it just may work for you. I would be a little concerned about waiting 6 months for meds to work. It shouldn't take that long.

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    I'm noticing at my not sleeping it is a English group
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    Wow! Glad your blood test were normal but think I would've left hubby at home YIKES!!!
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    Hi nutty nan

    A couple of weeks ago this was like me moody arguing with my boyfriend, not sleeping to good so i asked my doctor to just put me on Zoloft, Trazodone and Lamotrigine for moods. 

    I have been sleeping a lot better and I am a lot calmer not arguing that much. But it has been rough on my boyfriend because when i wasn't sleeping he would have to help me and he lost sleep 

    Things are getting better since i am on these meds. 

    I think you should go on Zoloft and something for anxieties and moods it may help you 

    It has helped me try it 

    I will keep you in my prayers 

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      Hi Elizabeth, my lord, those are a lot of synthetic chemicals in your body. I think there are more natural alternatives in making the best of this phase. Maybe you have a disorder of some sort because for peri/menopause, HRT or low dose birth controls pills help with balancing out the hormones.

      But of course, you're in control of what you want in your body, so good luck.

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    Hi NuttyNan,

    Well I guess you will have to give it another 3 months. I know it sounds such a long time when you are suffering.

    Your husband sounds like mine. He does the same if he comes with me, goes on and on about how it's affecting him! I only take him along now if a Dr seems to be not listening. Last time it worked in my favour. I'd been asking her several times for something to help me sleep. All she was doing was listening appearing concerned but saying no because the only ones that work for me are benzodiazapines and she didn't really want to prescribe them because they are so addictive.

    Hubby comes along tells her how awful it is for him to keep being woken by me ten times a night and she gave me 28 of them!

    Poor him!

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