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Hi folks
how are you all doing today?
i am having a low day today, so am having to try hard to distract myself from my negative feelings.
what do you guys do to give yourselves a boost?
i try & have a positive start to my day - it usually involves watching something fun or worthwhile on youtube - something like pharrell Williams video of his song 'happy'. Today I found something really enjoyable to watch & it really lifted my mood. On bbc oxford news, I watched oxford uni Capella groups shakira tribute - it's ACE (and it's for charity). Apparently it has already clocked up 4 million hits on youtube! Apologies to anyone who is offended by my choice!
have a good day
sleepy crow
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deborah52506 The_sleepy_crow
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Also make sure you read, get a job if possible. I am working again and keep busy, church, etc.
Hope this helps.
All the best,
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niccik The_sleepy_crow
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carol87925 The_sleepy_crow
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anyway was just curious what you think.
The_sleepy_crow carol87925
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yes, you have suffered an anxiety attack. I have had exactly the dame experience. Basically, your 'fight or flight response' has kicked in and you have found a way to escape your fear by returning to a place of safety (your home).
firstly, well done for getting into the car and for trying your best to get through it.
tomorrow is a new day and if you can, get into the car and try another journey.
i am struggling with my car journeys - am inky managing a few miles. I had this before a few years ago and I conquered my fear by using 'graded exposure'. I did lots of little journeys and made them a bit longer every day. I had tough days, and when my brain was going into anxiety mode, I used to distract myself by doing mathematical problems and spelling the answer out loud (what is 78-19 =fifty nine) or counting backwards from 1000 in either 6's or 7's. These little mathematical scenarios really helped me as it didn't focus on the physical symptoms of my anxiety. You need to find a way of focusing your attention away from your feelings of anxiety while you are driving. With practice, you can conquer/control your fear.
always remember that you are stronger than you think!
i'm ok - a bit low as I seem to have had a constant headache for the last couple of days and I'm sleeping badly - I'm certain that it is due to tension. Am supposed to be attending a function about 100miles from my home next week - my husband will be driving, but I feel terrified about it. I am not ready for that size of journey & I haven't discussed it with my husband yet -am also worried about not turning up at the function as friends would be disappointed. I am also throwing up every morning - again, it's my anxiety getting the better of me. Ah well, I'll continue taking one day at a time and I'm trying to be positive!
sleepy crow x
carol87925 The_sleepy_crow
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rachel83454 The_sleepy_crow
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I also started reading a book, just trying to distract myself , its difficult,
i could post you the book to you, its gripping and will take your mind off things
Rachel
The_sleepy_crow rachel83454
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sorry to hear you are feeling low - it is good to know that you are trying to brighten your mood. It is great that you are actively seeking ways to make yourself feel better.
Mornings are always the hardest part of the day for me. I'm not sleeping well, so always feel really exhausted. My automatic negative do seem to go into hyperdrive in the morning - which can be quite distressing. I do schedule a specific worry hour every day, but my automatic negative thoughts can plague me throughout the day.
i also read at night - I love reading but these days. Just received the latest lee child book and should start on that quite soon.
i also had some piano lessons earlier this year, so really ought to distract myself with a bit of practice.
Always try you best ever day - that is all we can do.
Take one day at a time Rachel. I am always here if you need a bit of encouragement.
sleepy crow x
rachel83454 The_sleepy_crow
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piano lessons sounds great, a good way to relax.
I just have this dull ache in my chest if that makes sense, constanly aching and wont go away.
Im taking my daughterout in a bit, goingto have a long walk, see if that will make me feel better.
going to try so hasd to remain positive, im ok for a while then it just hits me, this overwhelming feeling of anxiety.
I will see if this walk helps, speak soon,
Have a nice day, xxx
The_sleepy_crow rachel83454
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how was the walk? - great exercise - I am sure you will sleep well this evening.
i know that overwhelming feeling of anxiety - creeps out of nowhere. You could go and start doing something physical like hoovering the stairs or cleaning the sink - the trick is to move your focus away from your hysical feelings. Once you are feeling a bit stronger - you might be able to say 'hello anxiety cloud, I'm not frightened, I'm going to get on with my day'
as soon as you start feeling more confident in yourself, you will be amazed at how well you will be able to cope.
take it easy & be sure to drop me a note to let me know how you are doing!
sleepy crow xx
rachel83454 The_sleepy_crow
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Had a nice walk ,cleared my head,then on the drive home i stopped in my local supermarket. Bumped into the ex with his new lover. I had to walk out ,my heart was nearly thumping out my chest, the pain was overwhelming.
just trying so hard to cope, then back to work tuesday as i have been off all week, dreading that too.
wish i could pull myself together, tomorrow got to keep busy, try and stay focussed. Hope these tablets kick in soon.
Bighugs xxxxxxxx
The_sleepy_crow rachel83454
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glad you had a nice walk over the weekend.
i can imagine that you felt really alarmed at seeing your ex at the supermarket - it will get easier for you with time. It feels tough right now, but every day, you are becoming a little bit stronger. You deserve to share your life with a better person than your ex.
try your best to keep yourself busy every day - always keep a wordsearch book and a suduko book handy - they are great for focusing the mind when you are low.
i will be thinking of you when you go to work tomorrow - remember that you won't be working there forever and that by the end of this year, you will have a new job and new interesting colleagues to look forward to. Always think 'good karma' and be as cool as a cucumber at work over the coming weeks. Unfortunately, some people can come across as rotten individuals - it could be because they are very insecure in themselves or have no happiness in their lives- try not to let those sort of people make you feel down... I know it's hard, but try to focus on all the positive things in your life.
Perhaps this is an opportunity for you to make some new friends? - perhaps with your daughter starting secondary school you may meet some nice parents?
your citalopram will gradually increase your serotonin over the coming weeks. Serotonin does naturally fluctuate during a women's monthly cycle, so hang in there - it will take the edge of your anxiety.
the thing that I have realised with anxiety & depression is that the tablets give you a bit of courage back again in order for you to plan your recovery.
The questions to ask yourself is...what sort of person do I want to be? If this situation happened to my sister, what advice would I give her?
where do I want to be in 6 months time? What goals do I need to set myself in order to obtain my goals?
give yourself time & set yourself realistic expectations - this is your journey, there is no rush, live each day as fully as you can and enjoy all the little things in life....the lovely flowers in a neighbours garden, listening to your daughter giggling, chocolate muffins, a lovely sunny day, friendly neighbours, the inbetweeners movie (they crack me up).....
let me know how things go tomorrow - just take it one hour at a time
sleepy crow xx
rachel83454 The_sleepy_crow
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Thank you for your kind reply, it give me inspiration.
hopefully i will meet new friends soon, yes high school tomorrow, hugh step!
Thank you , i will message you tomorrow.
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carol87925 The_sleepy_crow
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