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so ill try make a long story short as possible I’m 32 and my husband is 38 together 13 years married 7. I feel like my marriage was over the day i was diagnosed with depression about 18 months ago i remember coming home from the doctors with my new pack of antidepressants walked in to my husband who was watching tv and told him doctor said i have depression and put me on medication he looked at me and laughed and said sure what have you to be depressed over. I suffered silently for about 4 month after that he never once mentioned the depression to me. Just over four months I broke down to him because I didn’t want to go to work I had an incident where my sisters boyfriend came on to me at a party and she blamed me for it and stopped speaking to me the 3 of us work in the same job. I fell into major depression over that me and my sister were always like best friends and the one time I really needed her she left me and even told me to get over myself everyone has down days. Depression got so bad I didn’t get out of bed for days even lost interest in my own kids they would come into my room to show me something from school or tell me something and all I could think to myself was just go away. One really bad day I decided I had enough I had no one and my kids were better off without me I sat at the kitchen table with lots of different pills and a bottle of vodka I was in the strangest mind frame and suddenly my daughter walked into the kitchen asking for a drink she woke up and that seemed to snap me out of what I was considering doing because then I just kept thinking of her finding me dead. Back to my husband even after all this he still didn’t seem to show any support or even ask how I was feeling and when I would try talk to him he looked so disinterested as if he wasn’t even listening or cut me off and start talking about himself. The last 6 months have been the worst he goes off on one if he comes home and the house is not clean or no dinner is made and I get a comment like are you still in bed I have explained to him on really bad days I can’t bring myself to do anything but he still continues to rant about it and it ends up making me feel useless and the bad day turns into 2 or 3 days then. He would have always been used to me being fairly organized and always doing everything around the home I think it’s p****d him off so much. He annoyed me so much one day shouting about the house being filthy which was overdramatized my dog did a poo in the conservatory and I left it there for 3 days he refuses to pick up dog poo I did it just to give him something proper to actually give out about!! For a about 2 months now I have been having more good than bad days but I am starting to realize most of the bad days are hitting me over him having a bad attitude over most of the time little things and it puts a down mood in the hole house Especially on his days off work. I have stood by him through a lot over 13 years together alcoholism and tablet addiction court issues over alcohol and it’s a kick in the gut this is the only time in my life I’ve needed him and its a joke in his eyes. So I decided I’m going to move to my mothers with the kids today while he’s in work it’s only 10 minutes away so he will still see the kids and see if I’m better on my own and if not I’ll have to live with whatever will be but I feel I’m making the right choice. But my anxiety and depression demon are making me ask lots of questions am I being over dramatic? Is he right when he tells me I’m mad or lazy ? Is the depression after making me sensitive? I
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