PLEASE Help, im so confused! Please...

I went through similar feelings at least I believe as a Male, only I was so hurt by the burn from a girlfriend that actually cheated on me.. for months.. that I started using women who were attracted to me but never committing to a relationship and wasn't abusive mentally or physically but treated everyone as one night stands.

Anyways I spiraled out of control in rage and drinking until I dropped off all my connections / quit all social media, and moved into a place by myself until the pain subsided.

I wouldn't say don't try it again if your both wanting to try it again, though it does have a risk of ending doubly bad, so maybe pushing through the hurt until you can make clear decisions again is best though it hurts.

Like withdrawals from a drug, your brain needs time to reset, which could be months or years depending on the person and environment.

Hope you find your way, I'm starting to consider suicide daily, so I'm on the brink of a major life reset myself so I feel your pain on some level and it's no fun 😕

i don't know what to say. you must feel so many emotions, you need to see this as a loss i think it's probably as near to it as it must get. take 1 step at a time. take the time you need to try to understand what has happened and readjust to everything slowly. it's going to hurt and i'm not being cruel saying that! you need support around you, loving people to lean on and time to release emotions. i daren't even wish you luck but time to heal.

hi angel, i have a suggestion and it may be right or maybe wrong. why don't you agree to speak to her about being friends and admit there's no longer a physical attraction towards her. see how she takes that if she REALLY cares she'll listen to you at least. it's worth a shot at least. people fall out of love with each other. it happens doesn't it. just read what i've said at least it might be a different way to look at this.

It sounds like you do need help in order to make up your mind what you want to do and then move forward with what you decide. I would certainly advise getting counseling for this as your emotions are in an uproar and you don't seem able to handle things on your own.

Good luck to you.

You have to make up your mind and know what you want and be committed if you expect commitment.

I can imagine that a lesbian would be hurt and p****d off to lose her partner to a man . It's hard enough finding someone you love , even harder when you are a minority group . I imagine there's always competition with men.

You both have to abide by the conditions that you set for each other so if you decide monogamous it means monogamous ! Or you'll lose her again .