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gill82608
gill82608

My husband has walked out on me after being together nearly 24 years and being married 18 years. I am in a terrible state and dont want to live without him. On top of everything i have had to have an emergency femeral hernia op which has immobilised me. I have 3 children at home and at 57 have no savings tge house is interest only and drowning in debt.

I cannot stand this pain anymore and am really frightened for the future and now

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  • cara96698
    cara96698 gill82608

    Posted

    Oh bless you, what a horrible time you're having by the sounds of it! I really feel for you. It sounds as though you have a considerable amount of stress in your life, which has no doubt put pressure on your resultionship. Obviously, I don't know you or your relationship, but maybe this is something you can talk through and figure out with him? If there's no chance of working things out, please know that although it feels awful now, it won't feel this way forever. The immediate aftermath of a relationship breakdown is always the hardest part. When you have come to depend on a person over so many years, the thought of being without them can be terrifying. You can survive though, you will see this for yourself as time goes by. Wishing you all the best and sending big hugs xx

    • gill82608
      gill82608 cara96698

      Posted

      Thank you i just feel like im in a hole and cant get out
  • sandy_so_sad
    sandy_so_sad gill82608

    Posted

    I'm so sorry for you.l really know the pain I'm still hurting and cry because my partner left after 20 years together. You will feel terrible and go through many emotions. You will have more and more good day as you begin to heel.it good your children are at home with you

    They will support and so will your friends. I'm sad and lonley right now but I know there's a future for me without him .

    Please don't sit there and suffer. Get up dust yourself down .

    Give him time and maybe get in touch with him he may see his made a mistake.

    I wish you luck.

    • gill82608
      gill82608 sandy_so_sad

      Posted

      Thank you he is adamant its over its the coldness that is so upsetting and hes left me to carry on with all the financial crap.

      Its also because i am so ill.

  • borderriever
    borderriever gill82608

    Posted

    Gill

    Visit CAB and ask for some advise on what you need to do legally, if the relationship has completley failed.

    You may need some assistance with your home and children, your GP can possible arrange some assistance for you and kids. Also a treatment plan that does not necessary mean medications could also be of assistance

    If you feel Suicidal contact the NHS Information Line, they can help.

    Let us know how you get on 

    BOB

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