Possible tear above my urethra and I'm in a lot of pain, but I don't know what to do. Help?

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This post is definitely TMI, but there's no way for it to not be TMI for it to make sense sad . Basically, I hadn't seen my boyfriend in about 2 weeks and within those 2 weeks a lot of sexual tension built up. So one night while we were together he ended up fingering me from behind and it eventually became fast and sloppy causing him to miss my entrance a couple of times. Fast forward, I go to pee after the fact and have so much pain that I could have cried. I dabbed the area that hurt with toilet paper and it was bleeding pretty badly and then also bled pretty badly the next day and a little more the next. When I notified my boyfriend he said he had forgotten to trim his nails. I've tried to keep taking a mirror to try and investigate and it looks as if my urethra might have a small tear above it and a few cuts below it. It also looks pretty swollen around it. It hurts so bad for me to squat, walk certain ways, sit certain ways, lay certain ways, and the pain after I pee is unimaginable. I looked with a mirror today and saw an off-white substance drip from around my urethra/vagina, so that scares me and makes me wonder about infection. I'm only 19 and my mother doesn't know I'm sexually active, so the last thing I want to do is talk to her about it. I don't know what to do or if I need to do anything sad can anyone please give me suggestions?

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    NOTE: I still live with my parents and there's not really a way for me to get checked out without them knowing because of money reasons and living in a small town.

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    Hi Casey, intimacy wounds are very common so you aren't alone. As it does sound like you have an infection due to a possible fingernail mishap, you are best to go to your local emergency, doctors or sexual health clinic. I'm sure someone on here could recommend a clinic where your parent's would not need to know depending on your area.

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    I'm guessing you ar in the US?

    According to Wikpedia:

    In the United States, clinics receiving federal funding from Medicaid or Title X of the Public Health Service Act must treat all patients confidentially. Thus minors can receive services without parental notification or consent. Additionally, medical records for all patients age 18 and above are strictly confidential under HIPAA.

    Public governmental and non-profit clinics often provide services for free or adjust the fee based on a patient's ability to pay. 

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    Hi Casey, your 19 and your Mum is your best friend, and I think she may have a good idea your sexually active, How instinct and she was onceĀ just like you, so help for now you need a warm sea salt was or have a sea salt bath and just soak in it but let the water get to where its needed best, for just a wash use two teaspoons in a mug, for the bath a couple of handfuls, it will help clean your tears and aid the healing, washing if your home as often as you like but at least 3 times a day.

    Once its healed over use some coconut oil on it and around your vagina its anti-fungal and would really help keeping germs and fungusĀ at bay.

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