premature recovery......

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Ok, so thought I was having a fairly decent week until last night, everything came undone and just feel like I'm back at the very beginning again. Don't know how long I can keep going like this, can't seem to see the light at the end of the tunnel anymore.

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    I am in a fairly same situation but you got to look forward and not look back. my three months have been hell

    and I am still trying to cope with all the things that as happened and try ang get out of the depression state I have been in. what as happened to make you feel that there's no light at the end of the tunnel?

    it's very hard to feel good in yourself when things are tough

    but keep believing in yourself and you will see light at the end of the tunnel

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    Hi Simon

    I am so sorry you've come crashing down. Are you getting any sleep at night time?  If not a GP will sometimes give a short course of sleeping tablets if you ask for them. 

    Have you thought about going to Relate together?  Your wife could tell you under a controlled atmosphere what the hardest things are for her. 

    Please stop being so hard on yourself. You didn't ask for depression. I'm not sure how I'm going to get through Christmas myself yet. It's the worst time of year for me. 

    I so wish there was something I could do to help you. Blue 

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    Hi Simon,

    As others have said, try not to think in terms of "back to square 1" because it denies the progress that you have made in coming this far. I know the feeling when everything comes crashing down and it seems like the end of the world and you want to give up. Please give yourself some space and allow your life to go into "pause" mode. You and your wife are coping with so much at the moment and both need understanding and your own voices to be heard, and your feelings to be validated. It's probably the case that you may not be able to meet this particular need for one another right now so some counselling might be a positive step. Whatever you can do to support one another is positive right now so please don't give up and think it's the end. It's a bump in the road (it might be a bloody big bump but you can both get past it). If you need to get some air and go for a walk when you feel overwhelmed, that's fine. Let your wife know that this is what you need to do and that you are not turning your back on her or your problems, you are just parking them until you are better able to cope. She might have her own coping strategies. Communication is the key: let one another know what's going on so no feelings get unduly hurt. Write things down if it is difficult to say.

    Good luck mate. Let us know how things are going for you.


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