Problems going outside

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Hi everyone. i am having a huge problem of staying in the house all the time. it is ruining my life. I have wanted to go out shopping for the past 6 months but i have put it off due to anxiety. I feel so safe in my home. I never seem to fit in with other people and i enjoy being on a computer all the time. My mom and dad have told me they are going to kick me out the house unless i go out and get a job but i cant even walk down the road to the corner shop to get some bread. I feel so pathetic. I have read that all i have to do is just go outside. Well i have tried. I go to my friends on a weekend sometimes but i don't feel right just hangin round with people drinking or talking. I don't enjoy it one bit. I am not sure what to do anymore. Can anyone help? Has anyone found any methods to overcome this? o and i am not interested in anything anymore, i feel so lost rolleyes

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    I was like you and still am in some ways. I am happiest at home x have major anxiety getting out the house and just clock watch until I get home . All I can say is get yourself little targets like five minute walk. Build it up. I am on antidepressants for my anxiety only on day 10  of taking them but hope they will be my help. Good  luck and try and remain positive x
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    I can only tell you what I did in the beginning. As so awful as I felt and scared somehow I got dressed and went out, but that doesn't mean I stayed at a dinner or store, as soon as the panic came I left and went home. Crying.left family still eating or getting the dinners into take out.i forced myself so I wouldn't ever be home bound which I never was. Until finally I got over the attacks and on the correct meds. Been over 15 years maybe since I had one.and I made myself travel, go to movies and parks and shop. Wasn't easy.but the important thing was keeping around people. After I got better I went back to every place I got a attack. I keep out of home. Important thing is I never gave up on myself and knew I wouldn't. Die and nothing bad would happen. Deep breathing , calm. Until it passed. I avoid toxic people. Anything that would trigger, especially certain people. You need positive funny people. I have pets which take my mind off myself and put them first. I walk.
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      Yeh, the place that i live is full of toxic people. Everyone is so negative and talk behind peoples backs. I have been thinking of just leaving the house and never coming back. It sounds great. I have always wanted to travel, where was your favourite place? I will make a plan to do this. Staying in on a computer all day is really destroying my life. Big problem though is that i have a degree in computing! haha so it means i am going to have to start over rolleyes But i think it will be for the best. What medication are/were you on? I tried Citalopram once but it made me worse so i had to stop taking it. Thanks for the help.
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      Hi. Effexor now. Favorite place cape may n.j. Believe it or not. I sleep better there, I find a sense of peace there, plus nothing bothers me. Bahamas, and Vegas and all that don't give me the same feeling. I have two totally different skills. Iam not computer savvy.
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    Is it to do with shyness aiden?  Because it could be social phobia that you are experiencing. I have suffered with it all my life and I am in my thirties now.  CBT is meant to be quite helpful for it and also certain anti-depressants i think are supposed to be benificial too.  You really should go to your gp and try and explain how you are feeling you would be surprised at how understanding he/she will be and I will you will be offered plenty of help and possibly be referred onto a specialist.

    good luck

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      I'm not sure if it is shyness as i can talk for ages if i am interested in the topic. But i think it's more that i am bored of what people are talking about. They just talk about other people and i am not one to talk about someone else unless they are there. I find it rude. They talk about what they want to do on the weekend or something. Or what they did at work. Its all the same to me and i find it quite dull. For me personally anyways I'm not one for small chat. I am more of a debater. I can talk about ideas and creating things for hours. I can't seem to find people that share the same interests as me. Well not in my town anyways. It feels like i am alone yet i try to fit in but i just can't because it doesn't interest me enough and i end up talking about something that no one understands. I have been to a gp and tried anti depressants, they made my symptoms worse. I almost passed out in a restaurant in front of my family when i was on them. I have been taking supplements to help my focus and concentration and keep me clear headed. I find those help a lot but i still get anxious.
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      What are the interests you have Aiden? I never seem to share interests with other people either! I have tried finding online groups but I havnt really found much so far.
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    The only method is to go for it go outside do it I mean after my panic attack 3 weeks ago I couldn't sleep at my own house I couldn't bathe at my own house then 2 weeks went by I faced my fear I was like if I die I die I went in the shower and I was fine it was find of nice and I slept home I still have anxiety but I'm no longer scared to take a shower or sleep at home cuz of anxiety but close your eyes step outside take a deep breath and just go u can do this I believe u I believe in everyone I mean come on u have helped me out a lot and I believe in u u can do this feel better 
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    I have similer problem, had been in hosp where I think it started, when I got home I was withdrawn, but also very ill, became agrophobic, psychiatrist  put me on pregabalin which I am not happy with causing me more problems, I was very outgoing person before this,, am now able to go out and walk / shuffle on beautiful moor opp our house,can get in car, and go into a shop when I have energy, still a bit twitchy, moth has to push me round in a wheelchair, I am weak, hope you are able to make some  progress ,if offered pregab, don't touch it.don't beat yourself up, I have a friend who says everything happens for a reason but you just don't realize it, mine started serious  in 2010, moth prostate cancer, diabetes,last year they said he had terminal lung cancer, he went into terminal mode, then in november they said they had made a mistake ,all my health problems were overlooked, went into hosp on my birthday new years eve, was downhill all the way after that. think I am begining to climb out of the pit, slow process. take care.
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