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Hi I'm 35,married mother to 3 children I have a prolapse but not had the courage to go and get it diagnosed officially yet.I've definately got a rectocele and think a possible bladder one too.things are becoming very uncomfortable down there like a heavy aching feeling a lot of time and the muscles around the outside feel as though they are bulging too..I am curious as to how other people find sex with their partners,not to be too personal but it's become pretty erm sloppy is the best word I can think of,I don't seem to have any grasp anymore :-( I fear the time has come to face this problem now so looking for a bit of encouragement and positive feed back. 

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    Hi Nicky, I have the bladder prolapse and am having surgery in a couple of weeks. I am 30years older than you but haven't noticed problem with sex. Maybe someone younger has a different experience! Good luck with whatever you decide! 😄
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      hi carol

      can you tell me about your journey to diagnosis.

      i'm interested as i cant get a diagnosis for my symptoms so no treatment.

      one test result reported an irregular ligament in the left pelvic area were i've had my pain for 3 years.

      unlike you i am finding sex really painful and takes me a long time to pi even though i always have the urge.

      i have degestive problems also.

      i'm 66 and so frustrated with the medics around here.

      i've never had any probs except womens stuff and was fit as a fiddle until all this started.

      i want my life bac

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      Hi chica, diagnosis was easy for me as I actually felt the bladder drop and could easily see the 'bulge'. Went to one specialist who's attitude I didn't like so went to another (female) and I have found her to be excellent. She has explained everything very carefully and I feel confident I know what to expect. Have you had a scan? That showed cyst on my ovary so having them out too 😞
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    Hi Nicky u should go see a doc about it I have had 5 kids got 3 older ones and 2 at 11,12 think they caused the problem cos they were my heaviest kids lol don't think am old at 52 like u it doesn't feel the same down there any more it's just there's that much conflicting stories about it I have done loads of research but I think it depends on how good your doc is and how good u are at healing after op but don't leave it to long or it could get worse x
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    Hi Nicky. Just to say get it diagnosed and treated. Rectoceles do not get better on their own, however many pelvic floor exercises you do. The operation is very simple and although there is a long recuperation period of rest (about 8 weeks) it really works and the risks are very low. As to sex, sometimes it is better because the rectocoele operation involves tightening up the vagina . But you would need to talk to your consultant as all our vaginas are different. The prolapse is caused by the walls of the vagina becoming soft and floopy allowing the rectum to protrude into the vagina (posterior prolapse) or the bladder (anterior). It sounds worse than it is ! I had my first operation at 40 after a heavy baby and no problems until now (71) so thats 30 years. So get diagnosed and treated now!
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    Hi all thank you for the replys...I'm hoping this forum will encouragement me to make the move and visit my doctor,I'm very embarrassed and mortified as you all probably can share that feeling.mine occurred after my last child 5 years ago and coincidentally after being diagnosed with hypothyroidism which is a whole other issue haha..my 1st born was 9 lb 8 oz and thinking back I never felt quite right after him so maybe it's some Hong that's progressed with each of my births but either way only being 35 does make me feel like I've got a lot of sex life and alot of living to do that this prolapse could quite possible hinder so I know it's time to face it but just gearing myself up.

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    Hi Nicky, I think Elsae has summed it up very well; you should see your doctor to get your rectocele and cystocele confirmed and you will then be referred to a gynaecologist. You are only delaying the inevitable and things are slowly going to get worse. I for instance got to the stage where it was difficult to pass motions and I was having to digitally 'splint' the wall of the vagina to evacuate my bowels. Sex with my (new) husband was good and important, so I was petrified that things might change for the worst if I had the operation done. Even a week before the operation date, I was thinking of cancelling the procedure. I was so scared as I really didn't want to jeopardise the happiness I'd found in my new marriage. I spoke to my GP again about my fears - a lovely lady - who explained all the positive things, as well as what would happen if I did nothing. I decided to go ahead...

    Well, I had my rectocele and cystocele prolapses repaired, together with a tightening of the perineum on 1st October 2013 and it was a huge success. I am absolutely delighted with the results and so glad I had it done. Yes, it is a challenging recovery. Yes, you will need helping hands as you need to rest, rest, rest. You have to take things easy for several weeks, no straining, or over doing things etc but, if you can do as you are told, you will be absolutely fine. Give yourself 10 weeks before getting back into the old routine and even then taking it carefully. Bedroom activities resumed for me at around 9 weeks and were even better than before. All my previous worries, therefore, came to nothing. At about 5 weeks post op I bought a PelvicToner to strengthen the muscles in that area but as my gynaecologist had said, "Sex is the best thing for getting those muscles back in tune" and she was so right, so never used the toner again!

    What you need to do now is to read as much as you can about the condition and what the operation entails by researching on Google. Watch the videos of the operation too on youtube if you can. Write down any questions you want answering by your doctor and then book yourself an appointment. You can ask questions on this forum too and we are all only to happy to answer them if we can. You are only young Nicky you don't have to suffer with this any longer. I am so, so glad I had it done. By the way, I am a very young lady of 70yrs with a husband 8 years my junior. 'Go for it gal'. LadyPink 

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      Thank you for your reply that is a very positive and inspiring post :-) I have just booked my appointment with the female gp for next week EEK..its great to hear the operation was so successful for you and fingers crossed I have the same luck.
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    Nicky, LadyPink is right, get a diagnosis and get something done. You are very young and have many years ahead of you where this is only going to get worse unfortunately. 
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    Hi Nicky,

    I had bladder prolapse surgery 8 months ago in the form of a TVT repair.  At the same time my consultant said he would do a small anterior repair for the damage caused to my front wall from the prolapse.  Is is a difficult operation to recover from and I feel I wasn't given enough info beforehand.  My bladder wouldn't work initially so got discharged with a catheter which was a horrible experience.  I went back in to the hospital on the Monday and it was working by then.

    As ladypink says it's all about the rest which is difficult when you have a young family and a job.  I went back to work part time after 7weeks building it up to full time by around 12 weeks.  I was told the only thing I had to avoid doing was heavy lifting which I tried to do.  I startedback running and going to zumba around 13 weeks and it was great not to have any leakage which like you I had since my first child who is now 17.  I am only 41 so was fairly young to put up with it.  The sex for me beforehand was I would agree with you fairly sloppy.  It changed after the op for the better.

    Unfortunately it hasn't all been plain sailing for me as I saw my consultant on Tuesday and my bladder has fallen again.  I was never told at any point that I couldn't go running or do classes etc but having read up on stuff since Tuesday it says you really shouldn't do any impact sport so unfortunately I think this has contributed to my prolapse.  I am devastated to say the least as I DO NOT want anymore surgery.  My consultant has agreed that we will leave it for 3 months and see how I go with things.  He has told me to go for it and do whatever I want but I am reluctant to do so.  Willbe walking and swimming for mefrom now on.

    i am so happy for all the ladies who have positive experiences to report but there are a few of us who have the sorry tale to tell.

    I might need to go down the route of a pessary but will wait and see.

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    Hi debi,  I am booked in for surgery in two weeks and my gynae has told me I must never lift more than 5kg ever, 15% of women will have a relapse, nothing but walking for 3 months, some women will need a catheter on discharge from hospital. Might be worthwhile you stopping all exercise to let things heal a bit more. All the women on here say the more you rest the better you will be and 3 months recovery seems the usual time. 
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      Hi Everyone, My husband was really overprotective with me during my early weeks of recovery, for which looking back now I am truly grateful - even though he nearly drove me crackers!! He watched me like a hawk to make sure I didn't lift or strain or overdo things. He worked from home at that time so was always around. I think it's due his care (and nagging) that I was able to make such a good recovery.  I had read plenty about the operation beforehand so knew what was in store and how crucial resting was. I also watched the surgery on YouTube too so there would be 'no surprises' in store. I read also to refrain from sports afterwards (not that I would) and to have gentle short walks only in the beginning building up by an extra 5 minutes each week.

      I was lucky I don't have young children anymore but for those who do, its vital to arrange in advance, for help around the home and with the children, for around 8 weeks. LadyPink

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      Think I'll get my husband to read this! This is what I am most afraid of - doing too much, too soon. I am not good at being inert or relying on others. 
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      Hi Carol, HaHa That's why my husband nearly drove me mad!! I like you, are not very good at relaxing and chillin'! I was always on the go; never stopped.

      Looking back he was so marvellous and so concerned about my health after my op that I'm sure it's because I him that I progressed with my recovery so well.

       I'm amazed that so many young guys have no idea what their young wives and partners have (a) Gone through, (b) Where?...and  (c) How? Half of them are not even sure of the female anatomy. 

      My husband for instance at the age of 61 when we married just  2 yrs ago thought our urethra came out of our vagina!?! I was gob smacked at his ignorance. It really is up to us ladies to educate these lovely men  &  to explain what this surgery is all about and just how serious it is and the importance of  help with after care until everything is healed. LadyPink

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